eeyorethegreat
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For some, it is fun to shop for the people they love.I don't find it stressful at all.
My sister adores starbucks, but times are tough. So my gc for her means she will enjoy herself, and take the time to treat herself.
Movie cards for my niece and nephew meant they saw Toy Story 3 in the theaters.
Etc. This is why it isn't just about handing around the same $20 bill.
And I agree. Gift giving is just a fun way to celabrate so much more.
Right I agree with you it is fun to find gifts for the people you love but Reading the boards and listening to people talk about the holidaysfor many it isn't just about the people they are close to it is about extended family, that the only time there is any communication is at Christmas when there is a gift exchange expected. $$$$ is spent giving people they really don't know or have a relationship with gifts or gift cards that one isn't truly sure will be used simply because it is Christmas and that is what they feel is expected. That is the part that gets overwhelming and stressing not the gifting to people they love and communicate with often. We used to try to gift to "everyone" at the time we were mac n cheese poor after Christmas we were in debt for all the gifts we felt we needed to buy because it was expected even if Dh didn't really know his cousin (for example). After a few years of that as a young couple with our own kids we decided to limit it to only people we were close to.
Anyway I think gift cards are fine if given with thought. DH once gave me a gift card to the local bookstore. I stretched that gift card almost a whole year buying a book here and there when I wanted one. I was a gift that gave to me all year and I was so pleased to be able to go get a book that I wanted because I could use what was on that card. So gift cards don't need to be impersonal when they are given with thought based on what you know about that person. The key is knowing the person well enough to know exactly what kind of gift card to get that will make the recipient feel like you really thought about what they enjoyed.