Online dating sites? yay or nay

[ilovecountry]

I'm only 23 but I wanted to try and give one of them a try. My friends are sort of in the same boat & pretty much wanted to try them as well. We just haven't really met anyone we clicked with. I'm not in college anymore & I don't like the bar scene for meeting guys anymore, all I seem to meet are perverts (sorry to be blunt lol). I was checking some out online sites though, but I feel kind of awkward. I'm not even sure which one to opt for. A friend wanted to try e-harmony but they're so expensive! Has anyone had any postive experiences w/ online sites, or w/ any particular one? Thanks

 

[HappyLawyer]

It just really depends, the problem i have with them is that everyone wants you to pay first, you don't even know what you're getting.

 

[ilovecountry]

Yeah, that's very true. A friend actually paid for a random site she heard about (it was a local one) but after she paid, she realized there was only 2 people in her age range, literally. The rest were 20+ years older and she had to basically waste the month she payed for. I guess that's the pro match.com has, you can look first. I'm not cheap but I just feel dumb paying a website to let me talk to a stranger who may or may not be who they claim lol. I don't know, maybe I'm not meant to try it

 

[ilovejack02]

I am married, but have lots of single friends... most have had luck with Match. com. Good luck!!!

 

[paintnolish]

Way Yay! See my ticker! We met on match.com. i would say to stay away from online sites like craigslist. Seems like a lot of pervs on there after one thing! I know several people who have met their SOs on match! Good luck!

 

[hiwaygal]

Online dating can be an excellent way to meet people. I met my DH that way.

Keep an eye open as many of the sites will offer free trial memberships. Most will let you look a bit before signing up. And don't pay e-harmony the outrageous money they want. You spend WAAAAAAAAY too much time jumping through all their hoops before you actually get to talk to someone. Most sites you can just jump right in.

Yes there are creeps and pervs out there. Just be cautious and careful but know that great rewards sometimes come with risk

You'll figure out how to read between the lines of the "ads" and decide who you want to meet.

You'll "kiss a lot of toads" but it can be fun and you will definitely not be bored!

 

[Faerie]

I'm 28 and I bet DBF on Match.com in June of 2005 and we're still together and talking about getting married My experience was pretty good.

 

[Jeafl]

I've been married forever, so I've never tried them. But, a good friend of ours met a wonderful woman on match.com and they have been happily married for 4 years (so far!). I say give it a try, you never know if your Prince Charming is waiting for you there!

 

[JR6ooo4]

It only took three tries to find DW!

The one we were using gave me a free 30 trial. My wife also, in fact she was about to quit the service at the end of her free trial until I wooed her with Digital flowers. (They were kind of new way back then)

Mikeeee

 

[ilovejack02]

Oh and a tip, when my friend meets a guy for the first time off of Match she only meets them on her lunch hour from work. That way she only kills an hour if the guy is a dud and she has to get back to work... so no having to come up with excuses to leave lol.

 

[paintnolish]

Btw, soo to be dh was the only guy I went on a date with from match.com. I emailed with a few, talked on the phone with one, and met bf. I was supposed to go on a date with the one I had talked to, but I cancelled. It was after my first date with bf and I knew I had found something pretty good. No desire to meet the other guy! I always say that bf was the best $30 I ever spent!

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I used to be on eHarmony. Made a good friend that way. Well, once I told him that I just wanted to be friends, that was the last I heard from him, but I digress.

With those sites, you just have to be very VERY choosy. I know several people who have had success with plentyoffish (and, as far as I know, it's free...it used to be anyway). I also know people who have had success with match and eHarmony.

I guess it's worth a shot.

 

[Disneylover79]

I have done Match.com and had success in the past... but I met my DBF of 3 years on Yahoo personals... when I did it it was like 14.99 for 3 months.... so I guess I say it does work. Good luck

 

[flrose]

I can't honestly say I've met "the" one but, I have been seeing someone for quite a while that I met on-line.
As said before, just use your best judgement and common sense. Chat on line for a while, then on the phone. I NEVER made a lunch/dinner date 'cause then you are stuck for too long if things don't click. LOL Starbuck's is a great 1st meeting place. And I always let someone know where I was going, what time and the name of the person and cell phone # of the person I was meeting. Just in case! It's definitely worth a try. good luck!

 

[saucymb]

I met my husband on match.com! In fact, it was 5 years ago today that I contacted him for the first time...one week later we had our first date, three months later we were engaged, and three months after that we were married!

We now have two little boys, and life is beautiful!

 

[Jrsy Boy]

I have done Match.com and had success in the past... but I met my DBF of 3 years on Yahoo personals... when I did it it was like 14.99 for 3 months.... so I guess I say it does work. Good luck

I have a good friend who went this route, too. I think you are allowed to look through the personals for free but you have to pay if you want to set up your own or contact someone who has a personal, so at least you can see what is out there first. My friend met his current girlfriend within a couple of weeks of posting and actually had a lot of people expressing interest in him.

 

[Bob Slydell]

My wife says "nay"

 

[DMickey28]

I met my DH online through Match.com and boston.com. I was 24 when we met. He was the only person I met through the sites. Beginner's luck??

 

[Philadisney]

i'm going to my friend's wedding on Saturday, to a woman he met on Match.com (a couple years ago - i think they were 26 at the time). She's absolutely amazing! I'm really happy for them.

 

[Scornelius]

DH and I met on lavalife, and both my parents met thier new spouses online as well. I think the online dating sites are a great way to find out the other person exists, but I don't think it's a good idea to 'fall in love' online. DH and I 'connected' on a wednesday, spoke on the phone on the thursday and had our first date on the friday.

I don't think you can truly learn about people chatting online or through e mails. Too much time to think about every answer and give the perfect response that you think the other person wants to hear, instead of how you truly feel.

A good friend has been using match, eharmony and lavalife for a year now, but wont meet a guy until they've chatted online for at least a month or two. So then she gets all attached because the conversations are great, but when they meet there's no real chemisty. So yeah, go ahead and try it, but get to know them in person!