On behalf of Pooh-sized women of childbearing years

[NCRedding]

PLEASE, if you feel yourself wanting to say something like, "I hadn't heard the happy news" or "when are you due?" REFRAIN. No good can come of it: both of you will probably feel lousy after your comment.

 

[nativetxn]

Great advice

 

[SuiteDisney]

I remember when I went back to visit the people at work a couple of months after my son was born and a co-worker said, "Oh, are you pregnant again." I said, "No, just fat." She always was a *****.

 

[caitycaity]

this happened to my mom about 10 years ago and she is/was only a sz. 14!

the guy was so embarrassed.

 

[disykat]

I actually have a thin friend who gets this a lot. She still has a poochy tummy from having her kids and when she wears loose fitting clothes some people just assume. I guess because her face, legs, arms etc. are thin people think that bulge must be baby.

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

I'm a pooh sized gal who has been on the receiving end of this. I just always say, "nope just fat, thanks for pointing it out!"

 

[CamColt]

Im not pooh sized however 2 days after giving birth I was in CVS and the teenaged cashier asked if I was pregnant. Obviously I was not too happy about this.

 

[eeyore74]

Thanks, NCRedding!

DH has a "friend" that I can't stand. She always insists that I am pregnant and when I say no, just fat, she then insists that I've had children. Umm no.. it's fat - get over yourself. I can't stand that woman. How insensitive can you be???

She is also one of those that always has no money. She gets others to buy her stuff, saying her DH never gives her any money. (He does - I've seen it! lol) My DH gave her money once after she made the above comments to me, and I was more than upset. He knows better now.

 

[missymouse3367]

That's great advise more people should take it.

I work @ an office where 3 ladies just had babies, when they came in the other employees were all concerned about their weight. The girls would say are ya back into your old clothes yet? for goodness sakes let their bodies adjust to the changes. It's something that really bothers me.

 

[PhotobearSam]

I got married in September after losing 2 sizes. Well a friend's mother in law who did not come to the wedding saw me 2 months later...First question---Are you pregnant?

I said no, I just lost 2 sizes.

She then asked when I was going to get pregnant. I said never. She started to give me attitude. Telling me I will change my mind. I told her to late---DH got snipped! She then said "why would you do that?"

BECAUSE WE DON"T WANT KIDS!!!!!

I'm 30 years old and have always felt that I was not the Mom type but EVERYONE thinks I'm going to change my mind...

I hate inconsiderate people who try to push their ideals on others

 

[Pumbaa_]

I know this is offtopic, but the people who insist you will change your mind drive me nuts!!! As someone who has been married 19 years, I get it less as time goes by. It still come sup! And if I (very rarely!) give more info that we cannot have children, these same people immediately say well you can always adopt! Spare me!

 

[goofygirl]

pumbaa and Photosam, you are not alone!

I will be 34, and childfree (knew I wanted to be CF since 15) andI've heard every cliche in the book since my teens: "You'll change your mind later....you dont know what you're missing....you hear THAT CLOCK tick and want one...blah, blah, blah!"

Its all B.S., try not to let it get to you!


Back on topic...I have some flab in the stomach area, and I wore a shirt that was big and baggy in the tummy, and I got THAT QUESTION....ugh!! (Obviously they didnt know me too well!)I made a mental note to do situps and toss that shirt! LOL!

 

[tigercat]

On topic I also have a pooh side to me but thank goodness I have only been asked once if I was pregnant and that was right after having my 4th child who happened to be half grown by the time he was delivered. As to the other topic I had 4 children in 4 1/2 yrs and finished by the time I was 24 but I firmly believe that if you don't want children you shouldn't have them. I think the world would be a better place if the people that don't want children were allowed to make that decision and be left alone with it. I see no reason that everyone must have a child. Everyone is different. I always wanted to be a mum. When I was 7 people would ask me and I would say that, then I would be told that I could be anything in the world and I would say then I want to be a mum. My best friend at the time and her dh decided that they never wanted children and they took care of the problem so they never would.
tigercat

 

[shmoogrrrl]

You know, I am a bit on the fluffy side and more than a few times I have been asked when I was due. Part of this, I believe, is due to the fact that I have a habit of wearing shirts that are too big for me.

Anyway, I had been trying to get pregnant for a while, so it would bug me when someone would ask me about my baby. I actually answered some poor woman on the metro by saying, "Actually, I am not able to have children, thank you for reminding me." Okay, so it was rude and untrue (although, in my defense, at the time it FELT like it was true!), but I was having a bad day. I still feel kinda guilty about it, though.

Then, I finally got pregnant and I was so happy! Can you believe that not a single stranger asked me if I was pregnant until I was like 6 months? Figures!

Kathy

 

[snoopy]

People amaze me with their stupidity.

I was in the elevator at work just the other day when this MAN asked this woman when she was due. Incredible, you'd think this guy's wife would have told him this is something you don't ask women, regardless of how pregnant you might think they are.

Here's another one that gets on my nerves. When one IS pregnant, the people who have asked you how much weight you have gained! I gained a lot of weight with both of my kids - close to 70 lbs. each - and I forever had people just coming out and asking me how much weight I have gained. It looked especially odd on me, since I am tall and long limbed, I looked similar to Baby Huey.

Anyway, I loved to just come right and tell them. One woman at work who was the type who gained about 10 lbs. with pregnancy asked me how much weight I gained and how was I ever going to lose it all? I replied that I was at my fighting weight of 200 lbs. and she'd better be careful or I'd take her out in the ring.

 

[Helopoh]

I hate those questions too....I just roll my eyes and walk away. Better than being rude.

 

[binny]

I had the opposite happen when I got PG with Karissa, Kate was only 2 months old when I got pg with Karissa. I heard all the time " You CANT be pregnant!! You just WERE!!!" lol

Like Bill Cosby said " Unless you see a baby actually spewing forth from her loins do not EVER ask a woman if she is pregnant!!" LOL