Omg...my friend's dad hit on me

[JerseyBallerina]

I have taken the LSATS and gotten into two law schools so far, waiting to hear from two more. I know how the legal world works, espeically in the area I am interested in working. Young female lawyers have a hard enough time getting jobs without someone saying they're a slut or a tease or a *****.

 

[annegal]

I just got off the phone with my mom...

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Posted at 11 :46 AM

Posted at 12: 30:
JerseyBallerina
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http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1394864&page=8




Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: New Joisy
Posts: 195 Oh my god, I just ran into him at CVS.

Sorry...Here's where I started thinking maybe the first post was legit, but all the followups are getting to "co-incidental"...In 45 minutes , you got off computer, got your purse, got in car, drove to drug store , chose a card( this usually takes me 10 minutes or more...drove back home and rushed to computer to post follow up ????

 

[MosMom]

Is the creepy dads name Matt or Ryan?

 

[MUFFYCAT]

It's been a busy 24 hours.

 

[dis ms.]

In 45 minutes , you got off computer, got your purse, got in car, drove to drug store , chose a card( this usually takes me 10 minutes or more...drove back home and rushed to computer to post follow up ????

Don't forget she had the chat with Mr. Perv at CVS. That surely ate up a few of those 45 minutes.

 

[4nana]

I have two classes with his daughter tomorrow and its getting harder and harder to look at her in the same way. I feel bad for her for having such a creep for a father.

My friend (his daughter) called me though. Her mom told her everything she told my mom and she believed her! She was screaming at me for trying to have an affair with her dad and how much of a ***** I was and how she can't believe I'm trying to ruin her dad's good name.

Last night you stated you would be seeing your friend today as you had 2 classes with her. Can’t help but wonder how things went in class and how she treated you after all her screaming accusations?

 

[Sherri]

da*n! we have some good dectetives. The timeline in the posts really say a lot. It makes it very hard to believe some of the story.

 

[Jeanny]

da*n! we have some good dectetives. The timeline in the posts really say a lot. It makes it very hard to believe some of the story.

I detect twins, boy or possibly girl, will be next.

 

[JerseyBallerina]

I had the one class with her in the morning, we had a test and had no time to speak (this was before I even told my mom). I didn't go to my afternoon class.

And 45 minutes was enough time for everything to take place. The CVS is a five minute drive from my apartment and I spent maybe fifteen minutes in there. Plus the five minute drive back, it took a little less than a half hour.

Anything else you want to throw at me?

 

[Doesney]

I detect twins, boy or possibly girl, will be next.

I'm thinking triplets, possibly doxens?

 

[dreamcometrue]

I don't think anyone here is "blaming the woman" but instead are asking legitimate questions as to the validity of the claim. It does seem, IMO, that things escalated very quickly and very extraordinarily.

exactly! I never said I "blame" her for it! I would never, ever do that! Sexual harrassment is a very serious thing and so is stalking! And this isn't about believing her over him, or "giving him the benefit of the doubt".

It just doesn't add up, IMO. Think about it....she has known this man and his family, they have had dinner together, etc. They are friends, aquaintances, whatever. I don't think she ever said how long they have known this family, but in all this time (whether it's been 6 months or 5 years), the guy never ever made any moves? I am sure she would have said if he had! And then all of a sudden, she goes out to dinner with him and his daughter, he makes a comment, and within 24 hours (less even!) it escalates like this? I am sorry, but I find this hard to believe!

 

[ExPirateShopGirl]

I have taken the LSATS and gotten into two law schools so far, waiting to hear from two more. I know how the legal world works, espeically in the area I am interested in working. Young female lawyers have a hard enough time getting jobs without someone saying they're a slut or a tease or a *****.

No, you don't know how the legal world works. Even after you earn a JD, you still won't know... but I invite you to post again after having passed the bar exam and practiced for 7 or 8 years...

I do wish you well with your obstacles... real and imagined.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Since this happened, I'd definitely tell your mom what happened...and change the cell phone number! You'll be getting his weird calls if you don't.

I just got off the phone with my mom. He called my house and talked to my mom about the internship. She called me to tell me about it and how it sounded like such a great thing.

She gave him my cell number so he could give me more details! I couldn't tell my mom what happened because the whole state would know by the end of the day, she has such a big mouth.

Now, I'm freaked he's gonna leave gross messages or call constantly.

 

[MushyMushy]

exactly! I never said I "blame" her for it! I would never, ever do that! Sexual harrassment is a very serious thing and so is stalking! And this isn't about believing her over him, or "giving him the benefit of the doubt".

It just doesn't add up, IMO. Think about it....she has known this man and his family, they have had dinner together, etc. They are friends, aquaintances, whatever. I don't think she ever said how long they have known this family, but in all this time (whether it's been 6 months or 5 years), the guy never ever made any moves? I am sure she would have said if he had! And then all of a sudden, she goes out to dinner with him and his daughter, he makes a comment, and within 24 hours (less even!) it escalates like this? I am sorry, but I find this hard to believe!

Well, it can happen exactly like that, unfortunately.

Sexual abuse doesn't fit into one predictable package.

 

[CheshireVal]

Well, it can happen exactly like that, unfortunately.

Sexual abuse doesn't fit into one predictable package.

I'm not sure that this situation constitutes sexual abuse, even if it *is* true.

I've had my fair share of persistent would-be suitors. They are an annoyance, but they go away eventually.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

well none of us know for sure, and its not really our job to judge her
if you dont believe her ignore the thread
if you do it sounds like its over so....

 

[Serena]

I had a situation that occurred this fast.

I know people have come here and told us some outlandish tales, but you know what, I still would rather give them the benefit of the doubt than to assume they're making it all up.



JerseyBallerina, I hope this situation is over soon. You be careful.

 

[poohandwendy]

Sexual abuse? Oh for the love...in 24 hours, this went from sleezy Dad making sexual innuendo with her at dinner to to raving, stalking sexual abuser who is going to prevent her from ever finding employment. Give me a break.

OP, if this is true, you simply do not engage in conversation with him, period. I am sure that at 22, you are aware that there are sleezy men out there. You found out this guy is a sleeze, so you avoid him. If you don't want to be part of the drama, don't be a captive audience by engaging in the drama. It really IS that simple.

 

[boomhauer]

What is the point of this? You flip out on people when they start being ugly on your thread but yet you say something like this when this young lady is obviously having a hard time with it. If you didn't have anything productive to say, why say anything?

What would you do if this was your daughter? Thank some older man for scaring the hell out of your daughter?

Sorry - It was extreme sarcasm. If I posted what I REALLY thought of older men trying to hit on younger women, I'd be banned for use of profanity.

People like this just bewilder me (the man, not the girl telling the story.) I don't know if it's being embellished or not. I don't know the OP, so I can't say.

I once dated a girl in high school who had a teacher who was doing the same type of things. As I told her, if you feel threatened in the least, tell the police. If you don't feel threatened, just ignore it. People like that are like bullies in school. As long as they know they're getting a reaction from you, they'll continue to do whatever it is they're doing. Ignore it, and they usually go away.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Its a new day

I hope you'll have a good one.