Omg...my friend's dad hit on me

[JerseyBallerina]

I explained everything to mom and she was more mad than my boyfriend. She gave me the same advice as most of you, not to answer the phone, not to call him, etc. Ironically, him and his wife are supposed to come over my house for dinner tomorrow night so needless to say that's cancelled.

My mom is going to call his wife to tell her they are not welcomed in our house and explain the exact reason why. She's gonna call me back to tell me what her reaction is.

She told me that if he doesn't stop calling she's sending my father, my BF and both of my brothers over to his office to talk it over with him.

I'll keep you updated when she calls me back.

 

[GolfCrazy]

I'm so relieved that you told her. And what a good Mom that she believed you right away, some Mom's don't. Like another poster said - in the end your Mom will always be your best friend.

 

[lovemygoofy]

I was thinking the reason he keeps calling is because he was going to mention about how you shouldn't say anything but I think that's a little late now. Good for you for standing up for yourself and so glad that you have your families' support.

 

[JerseyBallerina]

Yeah, she's not really a big fan of his because he's a little too touchy feely with her too. I didn't tell who was bothering me at first and she guessed it was him.

 

[horseshowmom]

I was thinking the reason he keeps calling is because he was going to mention about how you shouldn't say anything but I think that's a little late now. Good for you for standing up for yourself and so glad that you have your families' support.

You may be right, but I don't think so. I think he's still calling, because he thinks he'll wear her down. The guy that I know like this is absolutely unbelievable. These guys really think the young ladies they're hitting on are lucky to have their attention. They need gelded.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My mom is going to call his wife to tell her they are not welcomed in our house and explain the exact reason why. She's gonna call me back to tell me what her reaction is.

She told me that if he doesn't stop calling she's sending my father, my BF and both of my brothers over to his office to talk it over with him.

I'll keep you updated when she calls me back.

Your mom has BIG cajones. I guess he messed with the wrong family.

 

[horseshowmom]

I explained everything to mom and she was more mad than my boyfriend. She gave me the same advice as most of you, not to answer the phone, not to call him, etc. Ironically, him and his wife are supposed to come over my house for dinner tomorrow night so needless to say that's cancelled.

My mom is going to call his wife to tell her they are not welcomed in our house and explain the exact reason why. She's gonna call me back to tell me what her reaction is.

She told me that if he doesn't stop calling she's sending my father, my BF and both of my brothers over to his office to talk it over with him.

I'll keep you updated when she calls me back.

I'm glad you did this. This is what really needed to happen. The guy has used your mother (it was his choice to bring her into this, remember that), and he needs to know that it can work both ways.

Good luck!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I'm glad you did this. This is what really needed to happen. The guy has used your mother (it was his choice to bring her into this, remember that), and he needs to know that it can work both ways.

Good luck!

Good point...as a mom I would tear him a new one.

 

[beachblanket]

Lawyers are scum. Don't work for him and don't go to law school!

 

[DISUNC]

I explained everything to mom and she was more mad than my boyfriend. She gave me the same advice as most of you, not to answer the phone, not to call him, etc. Ironically, him and his wife are supposed to come over my house for dinner tomorrow night so needless to say that's cancelled.

My mom is going to call his wife to tell her they are not welcomed in our house and explain the exact reason why. She's gonna call me back to tell me what her reaction is.

She told me that if he doesn't stop calling she's sending my father, my BF and both of my brothers over to his office to talk it over with him.

I'll keep you updated when she calls me back.

GO MOM!

 

[JerseyBallerina]

I just got off the phone with my mom...

The wife refused to believe that he initiated anything and she told my mom that just because I was willing to "***** myself out to get an internship", it doesn't mean that her husband did anything wrong. He's the victim in her eyes and I'm the one coming on to him.

I told my mom that the wife is more than welcome to look at my phone records. Over the past 24 hours, he has called me 10 times. I called him once to return the first message. Who's pursuing who?

My friendship with his daughter is probably over, at least for now. Her mother will see to that.

On top of all that, he left me another message saying he didn't understand why I wasn't calling him back or answering. He says "You must be in class. The girl I know would never ignore me." That sounds a little too much like Glenn Close's "I will not be ignored" for my taste.

I'm sure once his wife gets in contact with him, the calls will stop.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

If that what she needs to tell herself to go to sleep at night....

 

[DISUNC]

I just got off the phone with my mom...

The wife refused to believe that he initiated anything and she told my mom that just because I was willing to "***** myself out to get an internship", it doesn't mean that her husband did anything wrong. He's the victim in her eyes and I'm the one coming on to him..

She is a FOOL! (and i am being dis nice here!!!!!!) She dont want to loose her paycheck!!!!

My friendship with his daughter is probably over, at least for now. Her mother will see to that. ..

But time will tell.

On top of all that, he left me another message saying he didn't understand why I wasn't calling him back or answering. He says "You must be in class. The girl I know would never ignore me." That sounds a little too much like Glenn Close's "I will not be ignored" for my taste. ..

This guy is MORE than creepy...he is DEMENTED & EVIL!

I'm sure once his wife gets in contact with him, the calls will stop.

I hope...but I am sorry to say, I really doubt that! He has no moral compass! Turn your cell phone off for now.

 

[horseshowmom]

I just got off the phone with my mom...

The wife refused to believe that he initiated anything and she told my mom that just because I was willing to "***** myself out to get an internship", it doesn't mean that her husband did anything wrong. He's the victim in her eyes and I'm the one coming on to him.

I told my mom that the wife is more than welcome to look at my phone records. Over the past 24 hours, he has called me 10 times. I called him once to return the first message. Who's pursuing who?

My friendship with his daughter is probably over, at least for now. Her mother will see to that.

On top of all that, he left me another message saying he didn't understand why I wasn't calling him back or answering. He says "You must be in class. The girl I know would never ignore me." That sounds a little too much like Glenn Close's "I will not be ignored" for my taste.

I'm sure once his wife gets in contact with him, the calls will stop.

Pretty much to be expected. As you said earlier, she's decided to stay in her situation for whatever reason (money and lifestyle come to mind ), so she is NOT under any circumstances going to acknowledge what's really happening.

Anybody with any common sense would know that the argument she's making won't hold water. You've already been offered the intership, if you were doing what she's trying to say, why would you tell your mother, much less have her try to call him off. That's laughable, and the wife knows it. She just has to say something as a response.

I'm sure the situation will be resolved shortly. He may make contact with your parents first though to try to dispute it, or he may try to call you to throw a fit. If he does, don't answer the phone. If he leaves a voicemail, don't listen to it, so it can't upset you - let your boyfriend or your parents do it and then they can delete it. Unfortunately, there are a lot of guys out there like that. I had something similar happen when I was 18, but he at least had the good sense to let it go when I told him I wasn't interested.

Good luck!

 

[agnes!]

OP -

I think it's time to get a new cellphone. And get a new number while you're at it.

I think this might work.
You could always just pay for the old number for a month or two, and never use it and do not give the number to Creepy Dad or even your friend.. but then have it automatically roll-over to your parents' ...then they could screen your calls, writing down any messages. That way you'd still be able to keep up with people you actually WANT to talk to and AVOID the people who are...y'know...just ewwwwwwwwwwww.

agnes!

 

[JerseyBallerina]

Oh my god, I just ran into him at CVS.

I needed to get a birthday card for my roommate so I was gonna be in and out but when I was looking at cards someone ran their fingers through the back of my hair. I jumped three feet in the air because that's creepy no matter who's doing it.

He was like, what haven't you called me back? I told him that I said everything I needed to. He kinda apologized again for his comments at dinner and I said it didn't even matter anymore because so much has happened since then.

I told him to call his wife - she has something to tell him. He got nervous and backed off a little but before he left he said something like, I look forward to hearing from you. Then when I went to pay, the cashier said that he left $20 to cover what I was buying and I could have the change.

I told the kid to pocket the $20 and I paid for the $3.99 card myself.

And I know he wasn't following me because when he approached me, he already had a bag so he was in there first. I just have extremely bad timing.

 

[horseshowmom]

Oh my god, I just ran into him at CVS.

I needed to get a birthday card for my roommate so I was gonna be in and out but when I was looking at cards someone ran their fingers through the back of my hair. I jumped three feet in the air because that's creepy no matter who's doing it.

He was like, what haven't you called me back? I told him that I said everything I needed to. He kinda apologized again for his comments at dinner and I said it didn't even matter anymore because so much has happened since then.

I told him to call his wife - she has something to tell him. He got nervous and backed off a little but before he left he said something like, I look forward to hearing from you. Then when I went to pay, the cashier said that he left $20 to cover what I was buying and I could have the change.

I told the kid to pocket the $20 and I paid for the $3.99 card myself.

And I know he wasn't following me because when he approached me, he already had a bag so he was in there first. I just have extremely bad timing.

You may have good timing, but you still did a great job handling it!

 

[sorcerormickey]

OMG...this just isn't letting up for you, is it???? I'm so sorry.

 

[agnes!]

For someone whose wife insists that the Creepy Dad is the injured party...he sure seems to be going out of his way to keep in 'contact'. Not very smart. You can BET that kid will remember the guy who left $20 and the girl who turned it down.

OP - did you get what I tried to say about your cellphone? Get a new one, with a new number and with "caller ID". Keep your old one with the old number for a month. See if you can have the old number roll-over to your parents . If that isn't possible, leave the phone with your Mom, asking her to take messages.
Do not reveal your new number to anyone who might tell Creepy Dad(like his daughter).
Let the old phone number lapse in a month or so, when he's moved on to another victim.

agnes!

 

[JerseyBallerina]

I'm going to look into getting a new phone. My plan is up in April so that works out well. I'll just have to wait a week.