My SIL took off for many years before I even knew DH. She just took off and nobody heard from her. When MIL got sick, she turned up. She said she wanted custody of BIL who is handicapped. MIL had DH has the beneficiary of her insurance and told DH to give the rest of the money to SIL to be put an account for BIL. SIL found BIL a group home and, supposedly, was going to handle all of his affairs, etc. After MIL's funeral, SIL called us every day looking for the money. At one point, she accused us of keeping it. Seriously, it was about $5,000 and I'm not that hard up for money. Once we gave her the money, we didn't hear from her or any of DH's siblings. Then, one day, we get a call from a BIL asking for money. Uh, don't think so. Then, the other BIL called for money. We refused. Didn't hear from them for 3 years.
A few months ago, a cop comes to our house telling us the police in MA need us to call them. The cop in MA tells us that BIL that was in the group home ran away from DH's aunt's house. We didn't even know he was there....what happened to SIL? SIL took off with the $5,000. DH's aunt took BIL in for the SS money he gets every month - removed him from the group home. The police called the other BILs who said what they always say - let DH handle it. We told the police we haven't heard from any of them in 3 years and had no idea how we could help them. We don't live near there and we can't take BIL because we can't care for him. We have no idea what happened....nobody ever called us back.