Okay, now I'm curious... In poll form: How much did your engagement ring cost?

[Ember]

I have to admit, I think it's interesting that the people who replied in either thread are the ones who spent less. I know I've been asked this question in real life before and always answered, "I don't know." Because, really, it's not a very polite question! It is more socially acceptable to talk about cost if the cost is lower? It's not something I thought about before, but with other things I'll answer how much it cost, but it's almost always when I got a deal... Hmmm...

 

[SaraJayne]

My original engagement ring was free. It had been my grandmothers and was just a diamond chip.

But when I graduated from college four years after we married, DH upgraded to a much larger, nicer ring. That's what I wear now, as I actually have two sets of rings. My original engagement ring and a plain wedding band, as well as what I wear now...my larger diamond and a diamond anniversary band.

 

[MIGrandma]

My wedding set (quarter carat diamond engagement ring/wedding band) was bought at Fox Jeweler's, back in May 1975 for about $200.

I can't even imagine spending thousands of dollars on a ring. I'd be so afraid of losing it!

 

[hiwaygal]

I saw the other thread but didn't respond there.

I'm not entirely sure how much my e-ring cost, but I have my suspicions. I'm pretty sure he got it at Wal-Mart and I know the stone is synthetic. It's a heart shaped ruby. I'm guessing it was maybe $60.

Unfortunately, the setting was not going to work with a traditional wedding band so the stone had to be re-set. I believe I spent close to $200 for that. I also just had additional prongs added around the stone and that cost an additional $100+...

All told, we've spent almost $300 on my e-ring...

But it's worth oh so much more

 

[JR6ooo4]

Mine was 50 bucks!!!!

But DW's was/is about $2K

Mikeeee

 

[wendy46001]

I have to admit, I think it's interesting that the people who replied in either thread are the ones who spent less. I know I've been asked this question in real life before and always answered, "I don't know." Because, really, it's not a very polite question! It is more socially acceptable to talk about cost if the cost is lower? It's not something I thought about before, but with other things I'll answer how much it cost, but it's almost always when I got a deal... Hmmm...

I sort of know what mine cost...but i normally answer the same

I still remember my brother calling me about a year after we got engaged, he just started ring shopping for SIL...He basically yelled into the phone…do you know how much these things can cost....ah yeah…but if she loves you she’ll say yes to a ring pop

 

[Minnesota!]

About $100.

It's a teardrop amythyst with a band of diamonds running out from either side of it.

Not a jewelry person at all. I would have never married him if he spent more then that - waste of money and I would've worried about being married to someone who would flush money away.

It works for us - been together 16, married for a little over 9..

 

[Nennie]

I think the poll is a pretty good representation.

Some men make more money, some men make less money. Some women like diamonds, other women don't like diamonds. Some couples get engaged when they are 20, others when they are 30, etc.

I know how much my ring was, and would prefer not to say how much it was, but will just say that I'm from New Jersey! LOL!!!

 

[Aisling]

Wow to those with rings costing over $10,000! You trained him well right from the beginning!

 

[Zandy595]

I hadn't heard of the 2 month rule until we'd been married for a few years. I could've had a much nicer ring.

 

[HM]

Bought at a store that was going out of business. 1/2 price!! That's the way to buy jewelry.

 

[JessicaR]

I have to admit, I think it's interesting that the people who replied in either thread are the ones who spent less. I know I've been asked this question in real life before and always answered, "I don't know." Because, really, it's not a very polite question! It is more socially acceptable to talk about cost if the cost is lower? It's not something I thought about before, but with other things I'll answer how much it cost, but it's almost always when I got a deal... Hmmm...

It is interesting! I think so too.

I think people that have a ring (or anything) that amounts to outside the 'norm' don't like to publicize it. But, everyone's norm is different. But the posted norm of this thread has been established. I don't think I have seen any posts from those that picked over 10K as their option.

I also think that those that spend more don't want to be criticized for it. That does tend to happen.

My parents raised me to believe asking someone what they paid for jewelry or real estate is a taboo topic.

 

[MarkBarbieri]

My wife and I aren't into jewelry. When we decided to get engaged, we discussed getting a ring. I showed her where the money would come from and how much would be lost in extra capital gains taxes. I offered to spend whatever she wanted on the ring or to keep the money invested where it was with the understanding that it would soon become community property. We have both been very poor at times in our lives, so the idea of having savings was more appealing to her than having a sparkly rock.

Now, many years later, we are very financially secure and could easily afford to buy a really fancy ring. I've offerred from time to time, but she always says no. She'd rather have that money for a safari to Africa, an around the world sailing trip, or something else more interesting to her.

Engagement rings aren't mandatory. They are a modern custom that most people really like and appreciate. We don't put a lot of sentimental value in material things, so the idea never really appealed to us. Our gift to each other and our descendents is our life experiences and the stories and photographs from those experiences.

 

[inkedupmomma]

I'm not sure what the OP was, but my ring was just over 4k. I loveee my ring, but looking back I would have gone for a bigger stone rather than the other C's

 

[bumbershoot]

DH and I have always been cash people, the only loan we've ever had is a mortgage. You'd be shocked at how many jewelers couldn't grasp this. They'd always give us the monthly payment price and one even said jewelers are no longer in the jewelry business, they're in the financing business.

I bet those aren't jewelers; they are jewelry stores. We found out the difference BIG time in our process of getting me an e-ring (that I didn't want to begin with).

I'd love to be able to see the poll...but I can't really vote. I don't know how much my engagement ring cost. My Dh never wanted to tell me... I have a feeling it was alot though, the stone is large.

You should know the appraised value, however, if you have it properly insured.


I'll answer in the poll, but my ring's value is misleading. Stone is relatively small, but it's a big hunk of platinum, which is where most of the value is. Most people get relatively cheaper gold and a big rock; we went the other way.

 

[wvjules]

My wife and I aren't into jewelry. When we decided to get engaged, we discussed getting a ring. I showed her where the money would come from and how much would be lost in extra capital gains taxes. I offered to spend whatever she wanted on the ring or to keep the money invested where it was with the understanding that it would soon become community property. We have both been very poor at times in our lives, so the idea of having savings was more appealing to her than having a sparkly rock.

Awww, how romantic. :k::

(Dangit smilies are't working.)

 

[mill4023]

When DW and I got married, we bought a matching pair of gold bands with 3 tiny diamond chips. I think they were less than $300. We flew to Las Vegas for $99 each, we stayed at the Excalibur for about $45 a night, and we spent about $100 on our wedding at the Silver Bells Chapel.

Twelve years later, I bought her a platinum 3 stone ring that was substantially more.