Okay...I've called the Late Night DISers, now I'm calling the SINGLE DISers!

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by house_of_princesses
I think I'd like to meet a responsible Goofy. I could use a pick me up in the emotions department right about now.

LOL! That's too cute...a responsible Goofy. It's a start! Good for you, Vicki! I know how hard it is.

 

[TigerBear]

I am a happy single person who very much wants to be a mom. Considering that I am 32, I do feel pressure to meet the right man. You should see my list Pin Wizard! After my divorce I briefly saw a therapist. The only thing I really got from her was making a specific list of what I am looking for in a man. In my experience it is especially helpful in knowing when to say good-bye to a guy if he clearly doesn't measure up.

For me the dating scene is very different from before my marriage - because I was in college at the time. Available men everywhere. Now everyone is married. I don't even have one single female friend to go out with to try to pick up men. I am currently dating a guy though. Guess where I met him? Match.com! He's attractive, intelligent, very well educated, and even a good guy!!

Everyone tells me that "it" will happen when you least expect it. I'm sure that is true for some people, but I think your chances are significantly increased if you seek out ways to meet other singles.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by TigerBear
Guess where I met him? Match.com! He's attractive, intelligent, very well educated, and even a good guy!!

Wow! You met him online?

 

[Fooboy]

with my experience, the sooner you stop waiting...the sooner something will happen


foobs

 

[Astrid]

Katelynns Auntie - How lovely to find someone who's thinking exactly the same as me!! I'm not looking for Mr Right anymore, I've changed his name to Mr Elusive - cos he's certainly not over here in the UK either!!! Good luck to you!

Pin Wizard - I have met quite a lot of nice guys on-line, if you're careful about these things I think it's a great way to go (sadly haven't met Mr Elusive tho!!) So pleased you found someone on there Tiger Bear

tmq - I'm off to Florida in December, maybe Goofy is waiting for me too!!

FooBoy - Very true

Astrid x

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by Astrid
I've changed his name to Mr Elusive - cos he's certainly not over here in the UK either!!! Good luck to you!

He's not in the entire country?! Wow! I'm hoping there's one in the United States! My sister is the one with the luck. She's been divorced (for the second time) about a year now. She went to a PWP function and met a GREAT guy! And she says they absolutely adore each other! The first one she's come across since her divorce! How unfair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[txpixie]

Originally posted by Astrid
I'm not looking for Mr Right anymore, I've changed his name to Mr Elusive


Astrid - what a great way to say it - I really like the new name. May I look for his brother here in Texas? It brings a smile to my face this morning.....
Thanks!




Good luck to all of us

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by txpixie

Originally posted by Astrid
I'm not looking for Mr Right anymore, I've changed his name to Mr Elusive


Astrid - what a great way to say it - I really like the new name. May I look for his brother here in Texas? It brings a smile to my face this morning.....
Thanks!




Good luck to all of us

Oooooooooooooooooooo...I LOVE Texans!

 

[txpixie]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard
Geez...some nights I prefer to sleep on the sofa. That big bed alone doesn't feel much different than a surgical table.

I found that for a very long time after my long term relationship dissolved I would sleep on the couch, rather than sleep in the bed alone. But that has passed. I hadn't even realized it until I read your post and remembered I did that too. Memory is odd sometimes. I guess what I am trying to say is after some amount of time it will be easier, it won't feel so bad.

I want to say thanks to everyone who has posted to this thread, the support and advice is comforting.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by txpixie
I found that for a very long time after my long term relationship dissolved I would sleep on the couch, rather than sleep in the bed alone. But that has passed. I guess what I am trying to say is after some amount of time it will be easier, it won't feel so bad.

This is 11 years later. It's just an occasional thing. Even the night my husband died, I slept in my own house in my own bed. My boss had gone to the hospital with me and back to the house. She offered to take me to her house for the night. I declined. I wanted to deal with it right off the bat.

 

[tmq2766]

That is too funny that you met someone on Match.com my DD8 keeps telling me that I should go on "match.com". Maybe she knows something I don't
When she tells me she is going to live with me forever I tell her I want the in writing
"I don't want to be the crazy cat lady"
"I don't want to be the crazy cat lady"
"I don't want to be the crazy cat lady"

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by tmq2766
That is too funny that you met someone on Match.com my DD8 keeps telling me that I should go on "match.com". Maybe she knows something I don't
When she tells me she is going to live with me forever I tell her I want the in writing
"I don't want to be the crazy cat lady"
"I don't want to be the crazy cat lady"
"I don't want to be the crazy cat lady"

LOL! That's too funny. I remember when DS used to say that. Now he says he's not getting married (we went over the birds and the bees on Sunday) He doesn't want to go to college either...little does he know! Not getting out of that one. I didn't go until 42. I asked him what he plans on doing. Stay home with me, of course! When he's upset with me about something, he says he's moving to another state. LOL!

 

[Astrid]

LOL - love those stories, especially the 'Cat Lady' one! Kids certainly keep us grounded don't they!

Don't know what I'd do without my two, even on my worst days of loneliness they make me smile and give me a hug and a kiss.

Astrid x

 

[tmq2766]

I do not know what I would do without my DD8. We leave for the world in 9 yes 9 days. People ask me all the time how I can stand to be away from adult company for that long.... They just don't get it!!!!!
Don't get me wrong, I have mental plans that someday it will be 3 of us going to the world but for right now she is my bestest buddy in the whole world and can't wait to be on vacation with her......She is why I get out of bed everyday!!!!!!!
She is going to be the ultimate decision maker of who I marry if that ever happens!!!!!!!

 

[BedKnobbery2]

Just popping in to say single mom here, too, although I have been dating someone for about a year, although he lives about 2 hours away. We see each other a couple times a week.

I've got 2 fantastic boys and like others have commented, people think I am crazy to go to WDW as often as we do. But we have a GREAT time.

 

[floridaminnie]

It is also scary the single men that are out there. I think that I need to write a book titled, I Can't Date You Because... It's not even like I have to think of an excuse, they usually hand one to me on a silver plater. After not dating at all for five years, the dating scene is very very very scary!

 

[isyne4u]

Another member of the happily single mommy group. I too find it difficult at times when I don't have some one to spend "special" times with, but I have come to the conclusion that I was not meant to be married or involved. I'm 32, have a wonderful (most of the time) 3 year old, work 2 jobs and I'm in grad school...and I wonder why i can't find some one to date! oy vey!

I often think that maybe in my next life I will do things differently and end up with a special guy. But then I might not have my wonderful ds. I do want to have more kids and I figure I won't be married when I do and that is okay. I don't want my son to be an only child. He has his father involved with him so that is good. But I definately see more children before a mate!! (before anyone thinks I'm a hussy...I mean through a clinic!!! lol!)

Anyway, if this is a permanent club over here on the dis, I think it is a good place for all of us singlets to talk and deal with our frustrations and our joys about being single. Plenty of good things for us too!

My mantra for years has been "I haven't found Mr. Right or Mr. He'll Do!!"

Okay, enough rambling!
tara

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by isyne4u
"I haven't found Mr. Right or Mr. He'll Do!!"

Okay, enough rambling!
tara

LOL! I'm not sure how I feel about a Mr. He'll Do! Seems I've had enough of those over the years.

 

[Astrid]

Well I've learnt not to make do for 'Mr He'll Do'!! Haven't got the greatest self-esteem in the world but with the help of all my brill friends I've learnt that it's worth the wait for Mr Elusive in the hope that he'll turn into Mr Man I've Always Wanted!!

Don't know whether it's this thread that's caused it but this week has been a GREAT week, not cos of a man, but cos I've felt so happy about myself and my life. I reckon it's cos I've been on here and seen hey, I'm not the only one, there's a whole load of us out there (both over here and over in the US) so, it's not just me!

So, here's a big hug to you all wizzing it's way over the Ocean and a big thanks guys for making me feel great!!

So what's the name of our new found 'club' - 'Single Dis'ers' or something else??!

Astrid x

 

[ebaynut31]

I'll never find my "mr. right" according to my friends.

He has to tolerate country music and possibly learn to line dance, non smoker, be single, able to tolerate my Disney maddness, if we were to get married, I would keep my last name (no discussion there!), and be willing to sign a pre nup agreement.

They say I expect too much!

AND, my daughter comes first.

I have issues huh?