Okay...I've Called the Late Night DISers, Now I'm Calling the Single DISers (Part 2)

[CoMickey]

PW~So happy for you on your date tonight!! Sending good wishes that he is a great person and that you have a wonderful time! Have you decided what you are going to wear?

Still waiting to hear about the job! This waiting is killing me! I have gone on a couple of other interviews but I really want that job!!! Patience......Any word for you yet PW?

I am going to go look at townhomes today with a realtor. My rent
for my apartment is going up again this year so it seems to make more since to buy something...but it makes me nervous not having a job and looking to buy a townhome. But I was talking to my dad and he thinks I should buy something....you're never too old to take the advice of your dad! He will co-sign a loan with me if I need it....again you'd have thought that I wouldn't need my parents help at my age....goes to show you just never know where your life will lead you! What a rollercoaster ride it has been! I would rather be riding RNRC!!!!

Take care everyone,

V.

 

[CoMickey]

Originally posted by DisneyAddict_M
A date? What is this date you speak of? I seem to remember those in the past......Hmmmm........ Have a great time! I met a guy on a single parent's site a couple of years ago, but he lives across the country! Figures.

Melinda~That has happened to me too! I met a guy on line who lives in NYC. I have gone to see him a couple of times and he has come here. We get along great and he is a wonderful man. I could loose my heart to him if I'd let myself! But it's an impossible situation. It's such a long distance and I can't move anywhere until my dd is out of school....3 years and he can't move but for other reasons.....it just doesn't seem fair does it?

V.

 

[legs22]

double post

 

[legs22]

Originally posted by CoMickey
PW~ Have you decided what you are going to wear?

I was going to ask this question also!
So, what are you going to wear?

 

[Pin Wizard]

Vicki and Legs...Nope, haven't decided what to wear yet. Thinking about a black shirt with 3/4 sleeves. Hmmm...the pants are to the extent of jeans or black "jeans." Casual restaurant...he said don't dress up too much. LOL! He's wearing jeans. But if I wear the black pants, I guess I'll have to wear a different shirt. Don't want to be in black totally.

Vicki...Those impossible situations certainly do stink. No, haven't heard about this job yet. The posting just closed 7/20. I know it can take up to a month to hear back...federal! What irritates me is when they already have someone in mind for a job or actually already have someone but are just posting because they have to do it. I hope that's not the case. I hate to even look for 99.9% of the jobs that aren't federal in this area. They pay sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much less!

 

[legs22]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard
But if I wear the black pants, I guess I'll have to wear a different shirt. Don't want to be in black totally.

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If you wore all black I'd have to call you Johnny Cash

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by legs22
If you wore all black I'd have to call you Johnny Cash

LOLOL! NO THANK YOU! LOLOL!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Yesterday afternoon, he asked if I wanted to go for coffee last night. Errr...no! He didn't mind if Richard went. I do!! So I talked my way out of that one. Told him that I intended on coming home after picking up Richard at day care, but Richard sometimes has other ideas. He said Richard sounds like his daughter! LOL! We didn't get home until after 8, so it was just as well. His daughter is visiting her grandparents in Germany right now, but he said that he had mentioned to her while she was still here that he needed to get out for a while with adults. She didn't think he needed to. LOL! I hear this from Richard all the time! I guess kids think they can be absolutely everything. Sweet, but we know otherwise.

 

[legs22]

Yes, I like to keep dd out of my dating life. She doesn't need to see a revolving door of men coming through my life. Ha, like there are really that many men, but you know what I mean.

 

[CoMickey]

Oh no, if we ever meet you will call me Johnny Cash because I almost always wear black....all black!

I am the same way about keeping dd out of my dating life. The only guy that I have date that I ever introduced her to is the one now in my life. She never met any of the others. I agree that they don't need to see them coming and going! I have a friend who's sister is in and out of relationships all the time and she gets her kids involved and it is so hard on the kids when the relationship ends....the kids get attached quickly.

V.

 

[Pin Wizard]

I agree it's tough on the kids. I better shush about this guy because we haven't even met yet!

I'm leaning towards the jeans and black shirt.

 

[CoMickey]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard
I agree it's tough on the kids. I better shush about this guy because we haven't even met yet!

I'm leaning towards the jeans and black shirt.

It's hard not to excited!

Jeans and black shirt sounds good.

 

[TigerBear]

PW, I bet you will look wonderful in your jeans and black top!

Have you thought about whether you are going to let him pay for dinner? When I started dating after my divorce that was such a big issue for several friends of mine. They thought it was so important that I pay my share of the check so I would be seen as an equal in the relationship. I personally think it is awkward on a date to split a check - I would much prefer taking turns paying the bill. My compromise: if I knew I would go out with the guy again I let him pay for the first date.

So, do we have any guys still out there? Any opinions on who should get the bill - at least for a first date? I'm just curious what you think.

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard
Yesterday afternoon, he asked if I wanted to go for coffee last night. Errr...no!

What is up with this? I had a guy from Match do this to me. We had a first date scheduled and then several days before he called to see if we could do dinner that night as well. It really annoyed me! But then again this is the guy who called me up to five times a day before we even met. I honestly think that by our second date he thought we were going to get married. I decided to never see him again. Just too much too fast.

 

[Pin Wizard]

LOL! Don't tell me that, TigerBear. Yesterday afternoon I had signed on the computer. Not 20 seconds later I had an IM from him. Thought it was a little quick. Of course he asked if I had just signed on. I think he knew that!

I don't go for last minute dates. There's just soooooooo much to get done in order to get there! Plus we don't want to look too anxious. Ha! In my younger days I would have jumped and said okay. Not any more!! LOL! I once dated a guy who said "the three words" on our first date! I don't think so!!!!!! Ditched that one.

Thanks for the votes on the jeans and shirt. I'm pretty sure that's what I'll wear. Now...black shoes or my sandals? LOL!

And along with the bit of coffee last night, how much time can you actually spend talking over coffee. Dinner takes a bit longer, and I would think I'd find out a bit more about him. I think the guys try and take the cheapest route sometimes. (You didn't hear that from me!) When we first talked about it, he asked if I wanted to go to dinner or meet him first. I guess that would have been coffee. No, that's not enough time. So I hope I don't come home tonight saying...MEN STINK! LOL!

Paying for dinner? It wouldn't have dawned on me to ask. If he asks me out, I would think he's covering it. I know what his job is, I know he thinks federal employees are overpaid. He knows what my career is so far and that I'm not working right now. I still like all the traditional stuff. I hope he opens the door also! I'll be watching for that!!

 

[CoMickey]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard


Thanks for the votes on the jeans and shirt. I'm pretty sure that's what I'll wear. Now...black shoes or my sandals? LOL!

Paying for dinner? It wouldn't have dawned on me to ask. If he asks me out, I would think he's covering it. I know what his job is, I know he thinks federal employees are overpaid. He knows what my career is so far and that I'm not working right now. I still like all the traditional stuff. I hope he opens the door also! I'll be watching for that!!

I vote for sandals!

Yes watch for the door opening for sure! My ex-husband never opened the door for me...the car door that is. So when I started dating again I was soooo flattered when someone would open the car door. The guy I am with now has always opened the door and still does after almost a year. He is very attentive. Not something I am used to at all!

What time are you meeting him?

 

[Pin Wizard]

LOL! Funny how something we miss will make us look for it now. I definitely look for a gentleman. Not that my husband wasn't, but I never had the thought with him of...Wow! He's a real gentleman! I have had that thought with one guy I know. I prefer the more reserved ones as opposed to the loud mouthes. LOL! Loud mouthes just make me go... No, my husband never opened the door either. Well, he did in the beginning, but that died off too soon.

Dinner is at 7:00.

 

[TigerBear]

So am I the only one with feminist friends? Maybe its the profession I am in.

I think a lot of guys want to just do coffee or a drink for the first date since it is shorter. Its just enough time to figure out whether you are interested enough to see the person again.

Opening the car door? Its funny how women are different about this. If my DBF opened up my car door every time we went out it would drive me absolutely crazy. I am totally capable of opening my own door! But on the other hand, if it is a special date I think it is a sweet gesture - like Friday night when I finally got to wear my red dress . But DBF holds my hand wherever we go. That I LOVE!

 

[legs22]

I would prefer the first meeting be over a cup of coffee or a drink. I don't think it's a cheap thing at all. It can be a very long dinner if it turns out you don't like the person. HG was the one who suggested dinner and that made me nervous because what if I don't like how he is or how he looks. But thank goodness it turned out well and we liked each other! But it is very awkward when you first meet someone in person.
HG told me to pick out the restaurant since he's been in the area only 3 months and I had been to Sanibel before. But I only knew of a hotdog place, a breakfast diner, and a loud raw bar. So I had to research and ask around. I wanted a quiet place with a great atmosphere and location. He told me he would be in a dress shirt and tie because he was coming right from work. It was on the pricey side which I didn't like so I said why don't we go dutch? He wouldn't hear of it. He said he is traditional and thinks the man should pay. So when we went to lunch 2 days later, I wanted to pay, and he refused again. Fine with me.

This is where we had our first date:
Thistle Lodge

Yeah, if they move things along too fast that is a big red flag!

 

[Pin Wizard]

TigerBear...I think it could very well be the career thing influencing how someone feels about it. That was my thought when I read your post, knowing what field you're in.

The drink? I'm sure you're right. But to me I get the blatant feeling of...the guy's looking you over. If he likes what he sees, fine, if not, chow! LOL! Who knows? Maybe I'll see him and want to turn around and pretend I was never there.

P.S. I've seen his picture.