Okay...I've Called the Late Night DISers, Now I'm Calling the Single DISers (Part 2)

[legs22]

Unfortunately, the internet looks like the only way I will find a guy and even with that I'm not having much luck.

 

[TigerBear]

With my match.com experience, I picked my top three from the men who emailed me. Luckily, I didn't like the first two guys I met! I found internet dating to be the single best way to meet well educated men. The first two guys I met have Ph.D.s. Funny thing is, after being married to an attorney and seriously dating a MD, I don't think that if I have to go through this again that I'll value advanced education as much as I did. It says absolutely nothing about the quality of the person...

FM, I can understand about the engagement and wedding being scary!! But, it should be a good scary.

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by legs22
I still haven't sent in my photo. I don't want to meet anyone here because I don't want to be here anymore.

(((HUGS)))! I hope you find a job very soon!!! Hey PW, how is your job search coming?

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by legs22
Got another eHarmony match. This one is from a teeny tiny town of 1,900 in Central FL that I've never heard of. Closest big town to it is Lakeland. He's 4 yrs. younger. I haven't communicated with any of these matches and end up closing them. There is either something I don't like about them in their profile or they're too old or they're too far away. EHarmony recommends communicating with every match though.

PW- Hope you get through the day ok
The air show should be fun. I always loved seeing the Blue Angels and the Thunderbirds.

Thanks, Legs! It's been okay so far. Funny...this is the first year I actually don't want to think about it. Hmmm.

I think I would ditch the much older ones also, but I might communicate with the others. There's nothing to lose I don't think. If after corresponding a bit they sound like a jerk, then I might close them out.

Speaking of e-harmony. I was just on there today checking on my military guy. He still hasn't read what I sent. I wonder if he's deployed somewhere. Any way, I'm not ditching this one for not answering promptly. I'll let it sit there. I just hope he answers before I have to renew again! LOLOLOL!

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by TigerBear
It says absolutely nothing about the quality of the person...

Hey, I'm quoting myself! After reading that I realize it sounds like I'm saying something negative about my guy. Nope!! He is definitely a keeper.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Originally posted by legs22
3 hours away. All I could think about this guy is I don't want to end up living in some small hick town.

That's great! i needed a good laugh today. I feel the same way. That is why i never got involved with anyone who lived by my dad he lives 6 miles from town and atleast 30 minutes from any major store. Ugh! Not for me, I am 15 min from everything. LOL In Chicago we measure distance in minutes not miles.

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard
Any way, I'm not ditching this one for not answering promptly. I'll let it sit there. I just hope he answers before I have to renew again!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by legs22
3 hours away. All I could think about this guy is I don't want to end up living in some small hick town.

I still haven't sent in my photo. I don't want to meet anyone here because I don't want to be here anymore.

Thank you, mdp!

Legs! LOLOLOL! Don't want to end up in a small hick town? LOLOL! You're too funny, and I can relate!

I understand about not wanting to meet someone there anymore. I was like that also. I had a good communication going with a guy in Sarasota until he came across an "old friend" who is now also divorced. That was the end of that! Then I didn't want any more FL guys since I wanted to move. I think the day I bought my home here, I went online and changed my address and where I was willing to look. LOL! Not too anxious!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by TigerBear
(((HUGS)))! I hope you find a job very soon!!! Hey PW, how is your job search coming?

Thanks, Suzanne!

Job search? Ugh! I HATE doing this. I really have to get going on it next week.

Heard from DHT. He wants to have lunch one day.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard

Heard from DHT. He wants to have lunch one day.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Ok now that I have time for that whole Commitment topic I will elaborate

Here's how my first couple of real relationships went :

The first guy that i really dated was a JERK in all senses of the word. And I put up with it, I was definately a push over then. And I would do anything to stay with this guy, even after he cheated on me, more than once! (Boy was I stupid then) I stayed with him for awhile, until someone told me I would never be able to leave him. That was it for me, I left and never went back. Ironically him and I are friends now, his world has been ripped a part and turned inside out since we dated, I think reality hit him on the head. But there isn't anything there any more you can only try so hard for so long then it is like riding a dead horse, what's the point.

(This one is the kicker...)
Then a few months after I left him I started to like this guy, seemed like a great guy, good family, good friends (some of which where mine too), an educated (or atleast getting an education) We started to talk, and eventually we started dating - but he told me (and I quote) "If I find someone closer to my age I would probably be inclined to date her instead and you should do the same" Ugh! (He was only 4 years older than me) That hurt because I really liked him, but again stupid me said "ok I understand" and we still dated. So we were together for like 8 months and neither of us had dated or even talked to anyone else. We spend every free minute we had together. Then he went to the bar and got drunk and decided he liked this girl, Ugh! It wasn't technically cheating but even our mutual friends and someof his family was like I can't believe him. But again Karen wasn't exactly the brightest crayon in the box then WE talked and decided after all that to be exclusive and things were great we were together for over 3 years and this is the guy that we talked about marriage and ring shopping. And then (i think no confirmation) I think he found another woman when I was on vacation and he left me when I got back after calling me the night before my flight and you know you can sense that kind of stuff in someones voice, so he kinda ruined the last night of my last trip to disney .

Then the next guy Ugh! He was very committed, I will give him that but he didn't trust me, and I never gave him a reason to not trust me. Ugh! MEN! So I had to leave that situation I just couldn't handle the fact that he didn't trust me after almost a year of being together and practically living together.


So that is my previous experience with the "C" word.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Wow, MDP! That's something else. At least YOU have a good head on your shoulders!!

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard
Wow, MDP! That's something else. At least YOU have a good head on your shoulders!!

Thanks. I try to. Part of my motovation is from my mom's experiences. But that is a story for tomorrow.

 

[legs22]

It's Saturday morning- could of slept in- but I'm awake because of a nightmare. Had a dream with with XH and his gf in it. Ick!

(not the dream) XH had called me and left a msg last night that he couldn't see dd this weekend but could see her Sun/Mon of Mem. Day weekend maybe even Sat. But all I can think is "what am I going to do with myself?" The thought of being alone is not appealing. She has a 3 & 5 yr old and when Xh has dd they get together like some kind of family and it makes me sick. He left us because he didn't want repsponsibility and wanted to have fun. Now he is with someone with small kids and it just kills me.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Legs: Oh Legs! I hate those dreams. I too have had nightmare about the ex. I had a dream that I got stuck at his wedding. Ugh. I hope things for the weekend go well for you. The best thing I can say is to keep yourself busy.

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by legs22
He left us because he didn't want repsponsibility and wanted to have fun. Now he is with someone with small kids and it just kills me.

I know the word I want to say would get bleeped out! I can so understand how that would be hard to reconcile. It sounds to me like you are much better off without him!

Hey MDP, you've have more relationships than I have had! I guess thats what getting engaged at 19 will do you to. You live and learn.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Hugs to you, Legs! I'd tell him I had plans. Not changing them for him. Ha! He can have DD on the scheduled day(s). Of course, if there's a good holiday he has her for, I'd trade!

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Originally posted by TigerBear
I know the word I want to say would get bleeped out! I can so understand how that would be hard to reconcile. It sounds to me like you are much better off without him!

Hey MDP, you've have more relationships than I have had! I guess thats what getting engaged at 19 will do you to. You live and learn.

Well I would have been engaged at 20 and married at 21 if he hadn't left when he did. However I would have to say. Things weren't "perfect" between us either but I would have never left him and I am sort of glad he did leave me I am doing things with my life I never would have done if he didn't.

And me too there are a lot of things I could say about people who are hippacrits (sp?) especially when it comes to kids and family. But I will be a good girl and keep those words to myself.

 

[Pin Wizard]

I was thinking just yesterday about how different life could be if I knew of other options available when I was younger. Hmmmmmmmmmm...Had a great time at the air show. Maybe we'll go back today. The Thunderbirds will be last, of course, so we get stuck in traffic.

Then again...being stuck in traffic at an air force base with cute guys can be a good thing! DS doesn't want to go, but I do!!

 

[floridaminnie]

Pw...make sure to play the damsal in detress with all those men around. Glad you are having fun!