Okay...I've Called the Late Night DISers, Now I'm Calling the Single DISers (Part 2)

[legs22]

PW- Unbelieveable that they won't take the cash!
Prayers for your house and job hunting

Hey Serena, you're welcome to join us here.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Hello everyone.

Can't stay long. But I am thinking of you all. I'll have more time on monday. YAY!

PW:

 

[Serena]

thanks ever so much for the welcome

 

[DocRafiki]

legs -- i was thinking of doing that with my phone & internet, too. i only use my phone line for the modem, and yet i don't feel right getting rid of it. i don't feel secure just having a cell phone; they're so iffy.

Pw -- good luck! You sound like a stress addict! I would have an ulcer by now!

 

[TigerBear]

Hi Everyone!

Serena, glad you are joining us!

PW, lots of good thoughts and pixie dust coming your way!!

MDP, I admire you for being able to work full-time and go to school full-time. I can imagine what type of dedication that must take!!

We went to see 50 First Dates yesterday. It was actually cuter than I expected it to be. Very implausible, but entertaining. Has anyone seen it?

 

[Pin Wizard]

Welcome, Serena! Glad you're joining us. We have lots of fun here.

Legs...I'm with you. If I were them, I'd take the cash and run! Thanks for the prayers on the job and house hunting. Even a temporary job would help at this point. DHT made a suggestion for government jobs that I'll be following up on.

MDP...Thank you for the

Jen...LOL! No, I'm not a stress addict, but I was bored to tears in FL! Now I'm anything but bored.

TigerBear...Thanks for the thoughts and pixie dust.

Suzanne...Glad you had a good time, sorry about the weather. Actually, right now it looks like a snow sky out my window! I wish it would!! But it's not THAT chilly out. I did wear my jacket outside though. What a nice change!

Legs...Congrats on dd's spin! Sounds like she's a little good luck charm.

 

[legs22]

Yes, DD is good luck. It's $47 worth of free cable!

The weekends go by so fast and I never get everything done! I get that icky feeling on Sun. night because it's back to work on Monday and I don't want to be there at all. I don't like all that running around you have to do all week. Home to work, home to work, home to work, home to work, home to work............
I know I should be thankful I have a job but I am under so much stress from that job right now.
I am looking at more jobs in Melbourne. I have to make more calls tomorrow. As soon as I find one with decent pay and benefits and hours (does this job even exist???), I am out of here. I think a change of scenery will do me good. PW has inspired me.

 

[floridaminnie]

Had a wonderful week off until today. Had to spend three hours at the bowling ally being ignored. A nice elderly couple sitting next to me must have felt sorry for me and tried to convince me to go bowling and that bowling was fun. That's not why I was there. I was there to observe the interation between DD and her first meeting with her father's 11 year old son. I'm just completly fustrated with the whole situation that has been dragging on for almost a year now. I just want it to end and have some normlacy (is that even a real word?) in our life!

 

[legs22]

Well that doesn't sound fun FLM. Why do you need to observe them together? What has been dragging on for a year? The situation with the 11 yr old?

 

[Pin Wizard]

Hugs, Legs! Wow! You sound like I did when I was working. I finally couldn't stand it any longer and left to go back to school. My last day at work was a Friday, had the weekend at home, and started classes on Monday. A change of scenery might be good, Legs. And you have family in Melbourne area...which can be a good thing!!! I hope you find a suitable job quickly. I'll say a prayer!

I think Serena has a thread going asking about temp agencies. It reminded me of the decent companies I worked at for the most part due to starting as a temp. Florida company stunk, but the rest were good in NJ! LOL! Think I'll stop by one this week in the area. Plus DHT giving me info on applying for other jobs. Crossing my fingers!!!

 

[Serena]

I've got a question for you ladies. I don't know what to do about this.
My daughter has two friends. One is a best friend, the other is just a good friend. They are at each other's homes a lot.
Well, the good friend has a single dad. The single dad wants me to go out with him. He hasn't outright asked, but he might as well have.
He's asked me why I don't date, he blatantly flirts with me, tells me he hopes it doesn't make me uncomfortable because he can't help himself.
Anyway, he may be nice and all. But for one thing, I am so very not used to being flirted with. Online is one thing, in real life, I just don't know what to say.
The major thing is that he is the dad of one of Kelsea's friends. I can see that getting sticky. I mean, I don't want to go out with him period, but with the other stuff, it's just not a good idea.
How on earth do I say no without hurting his feelings and without causing a problem?

 

[Pin Wizard]

Suzanne...so sorry end of your week was tough. Did things go okay for the most part?

 

[legs22]

Serena,
I'd give it a try. Maybe meet for a cup of coffee and talk. If you don't like the results just tell him you don't feel a connection with him. I don't think it would be a tough situation just because he is your daughter's friend. Or maybe you've already talked to him enough to know you don't want to go out with him?

 

[Serena]

I don't know if it's just him I don't want to go out with, or I'm just not ready to go out with anyone.
Right now, I could do without the highs and lows of a relationship. However, I figure if someone came along that would make me forget all that. Then I'd go out with him.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

PW: Temp agency are a good idea. Some companys only hire through them.

FLM: That whole situation has to be really hard. Is that his son or step son? Things will get better eventually, life doesn't hand you things you can't handle, you just have to figure out how you can deal with it. I know it is hard. My only advice to you on the whole thing w/ her dad is love her soo much (as I know you do) and she will know that always no matter what happens that she can count on you, even when she can't count on anyone else. My parents are divorced since i was 4. i love both of my parents deeply, and know that they both love me. While growing up it was just me and my mom for while, later in life I had the choice to go live withmy dad, i couldn't do that to my mom so i waited. Eventually i did live with him. But Only after my mom and i decided that i needed it. I hope this helps you a little. If you ever want to talk PM me or email me.

Serena: That is a sticky situation. you could start by telling him that you are not emotionally ready to date. And or by adding that you don't want to comprimise the friendship of the children. They girls (right?) may not welcome the idea, sure they might at first but it could end up with a friendship gone bad because of jealousy or hurt feelings. Also if you were interested (but I know you aren't) How old is your little girl? Talk to her. Involve her in your decision. I truely believe this is a good idea. BTW! WELCOME!!!

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Legs: I feel like that too, I feel like I am constantly going. It takes it's toll on ya.

TB: Thanks. It can be hard at times but the end justifies the means. My dream is to work full-time for Disney.

Jenn: I have a phoneline, with nothing on it just so i can have my DSL. (it runs thorugh the line without using the phone) I pay only the minimum i can. i use my cell phone for everything else. I think my phone bill w/ DSL is like $40, If that.

I actually get a day off tommorrow. YAY! I am sleeping in. Then i have housework to do which I haven't had time to do for a while. Then to tackle the cleaning of the car. Well goodnight all I am going to bed early tonight.

 

[legs22]

MDP- We divorced when my dd was 2. I have her 99.9% of the time. My big fear is that one day she will want to go live with her dad. I know other moms that this has happened to.
Your mention of cleaning your car reminded me that I didn't clean mine this past weekend.

 

[floridaminnie]

Originally posted by legs22
MDP- We divorced when my dd was 2. I have her 99.9% of the time. My big fear is that one day she will want to go live with her dad. I know other moms that this has happened to.
Your mention of cleaning your car reminded me that I didn't clean mine this past weekend.

I also cleaned out all the junk out of my car. Still need to clean the inside of it. Did buy some stuff to clean all the dust and other stuff.

Once upon a time DD's father discussed trying to take me to court for custody. THis is the same guy who hasn't even picked up a phone to talk to her in two weeks know and sees her about twice a month. The whole finaincial and child visitation has been going on for almost a year now. He's playing games and he was playing head games with me yesterday trying to make a point that I can't do anything about it. It just gets fustrating!

Hope ya'll have a good Monday! I'm off to work! EEEEECCCKKK!

 

[legs22]

I called on one job today and it was a per diem position, not full time

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Legs & FLM: Although i had a blessing to where my parents put there differences aside, i never knew they didn't like different things about each other. I'd like to tell you it gets easier. But All I can say is I believe that there is a reason as to why I went through the things that I have in my life. i am a very independant person, but i believe that if my parents were still together, I wouldn't be that way. I also wouldn't have my brother and sister. Although I know anyone would have that same fear. I do believe that if you just show them you love them with everything you have. And give them every opportunity that you can, now I am not talking spoiling them or buying them everything they ask for. Just make things possible for them. Also don't tel them they can't live with dad, use reverse psycology, because telling a child or teenager (when they get to that point) that they can't do something always makes them want to do it more.
I knew that my parents both loved me very much. I couldn't bare to leave my mom's house. Part of the reason, I knew that my dad could handle me not living with him, he already had done it. But how would my mom react was always my concern. I always, even now, think of everyone else before myself. I know I keep saying this, but it won't be super easy but you'll get through it.