OK, am I being a prude here?

[LaraK]

My daughter (7) is bugging me to download a song. The song is "Tick Toc" by Kei$ha. Besides the fact that her use of a dollar sign as an s is offensive to me from purely "that's stupid" standpoint...the song talks about going out with her "Jack" in hand and also talks about having plenty of beer, being drunk and having boys touch her "junk". My daughter is very upset that I said no, I would not download. She said the infamous "all the other kids listen to it". I just don't think it's appropriate for me to support a seven year old hearing that crap. So, am I a prude?

 

[Cruisin]

Are you a prude

But you have the right not to let your daughter listen to that song or any other song if you feel you don't want her to.

 

[disneydreamersx4]

I say YOU GO MOM I agree, 7 is too young for those type of songs.
I wouldn't like my kids to listen to that until they were at least 16 but I'm sure they will hear the words sung by other kids before then

 

[Abby's Dad]

Thank you for being the parent - we all love our children and want the best for them, and part of that is helping them to understand that they are valued and worth setting high standards for. Our daughter is now going on 27 (guess I need to change my siggy), didn't like some of our decisions when she was young, but now is a wonderful, independent, and successful adult, and often thanks us for the standards we set when she was that youngster. It is funny - in her job she seems a lot of young people (late high school and college age), and often wonders where the parents have been in raising these kids.

 

[ChrisFL]

No, I've listened to a lot of songs over the years (including a lot of rap music), but this is one of the worst songs (by a female "artist") I've heard in a long time.

If I had a 7 year old daughter, I'd say no way!

 

[usnuzuloose]

Prude? NO, your a responisible mom. My son one time had tape and put it in the car, I was in shock I rolled down the window ( by hand ) and chucked it out the window that answered his question. You go mom. Jo

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

Well, I can't really say whether or not you're being a prude. But if you don't think she should listen to it, then that's your call. You're the mom.

On the other hand, she probably just likes the sound of it. I'm 38 and didn't really GET until a couple years ago what a lot of the songs I liked when I was younger were really about.. everything from the entire soundtrack of Grease to Night Moves by Bob Seger and Stay the Night by Chicago.

 

[RadioNate]

My nearly 9 year old loves that song. My DH downloaded.

I don't care but that is just my style. I rolled around on the floor Madonna style to Like a Virgin and belted out Little Red Corvette when I was that age and turned into an upstanding citizen.

 

[HelenePA]

My nearly 9 year old loves that song. My DH downloaded.

I don't care but that is just my style. I rolled around on the floor Madonna style to Like a Virgin and belted out Little Red Corvette when I was that age and turned into an upstanding citizen.

My kids have heard it enough on the radio to know the words even my 4yr old son. Honestly I'm not going to listen to the wiggles in the car til they are 18 :

 

[aprilgail2]

We just put that on the list for our 5th grade boat trip- no one on the committee had any issues with it.

 

[RadioNate]

My kids have heard it enough on the radio to know the words even my 4yr old son. Honestly I'm not going to listen to the wiggles in the car til they are 18 :

Yes my 2 year old has taken to singing "I've Got a Feeling" and "Boom Boom Pow"

DH did download the "clean" versions of Tic Tok and the Black Eyed Peas song, for whatever that is worth.

Music isn't going to be my battle. It is fine for other parents, their kids, their call but that isn't one that I choose to fight. My DS has long hair too, lol.

I also don't allow DS to play anything questionable when friends are over.

 

[itsheresomewhere]

There is a clean one you can download. I think I downloaded at Amazon but I have been downloading a lot so. It still plays the catchy tune.

 

[Gigi22]

Prudery isn't the issue here, IMHO--it is a question of what you consider appropriate music for your 7 year old. In which case, your house--your rules!

 

[shortbun]

Your daughter, your call. I support you in whatever you decide. My son was always the one who was 'not allowed.' Other parents would kind of scoff at me. Now, their sons are swearing and swaggering and mine still talks respectfully to us(he actually doesn't mind having us around) and does not swear-his friends mock him for that too, lol! Teachers love him, so do I and at almost 15, we have had not a single discipline issue.
Teach morals, live by them and I think you have a better chance of having a well behaving child. No guarantee but I totally believe it helps a lot.

 

[shortbun]

There is a clean one you can download. I think I downloaded at Amazon but I have been downloading a lot so. It still plays the catchy tune.

By 'clean' do you mean they simply delete the questionable words or that they replace them with a child friendly version. My experience with edited songs is that they just have dead air where the 'bad' stuff was thus allowing your child and others to sing the words they all know should be there. Not so great, imho.

For what it's worth, at almost 15, I no longer censor my child's music but he has the sense to know when something is over the top or that I will disapprove.

 

[mhsjax]

We hear it in the car. I don't really like it but oh well. My DD 11, asked my why, I told her about the line about using "jack" to brush you teeth or gargle with. She didn't even know what it meant she just shrugged her shoulders.

I guess they are just listening to the beat of the song and the music it self and no thinking about the words. That being said, I probably wouldn't down load it for her because I don't like it. I do have to admit that my kids love Ima Be by the Blackeyed Peas and we don't have a clean version of it, They listen to it here but I won't put it on their I-touches for everyone else to hear.

To the OP, I think it is great that you are standing your ground. Parents shouldn't have to worry about being the kids friend or being the cool parents. You need to do what you,the mom, think is appropriate.

 

[luvmy3]

I don't see anything prudish about censoring what your 7 year old listens to. Chances are she doesn't even get it anyway but that doesn't mean you have to let them listen to it. My dd is 12 so I don't censor much, she knows that she can't download anything with an explicit label, she needs to find the clean version but sometimes there isn't one. She likes that neew Rhianna song, and I told her she won't be owning it and she better not sing it in front of her dad I hate that most pop musicians end up just making trashy music, what a sad statement about our society.

 

[Art 1]

Sounds to me like your a good mother.

 

[savannahcat]

Sounds to me like your a good mother.

I agree. My DD6 still has no idea what an MP3 player is. I like it that way.

 

[TangaroaTiki]

She likes the song & all the 'offensiveness' in it is way over her head I downloaded it for my daughter who's 10. I hear sing along with made up words and ,no, I don't correct her.