Offshoot to BIO DADS

[Forevermarypoppins]

I worked w/ a woman who found out she had a 1/2 brother when she was in her 50's. Her mom had an affair while married and her then husband demanded she give this child up for adoption. How that secret was kept for so long is amazing. The man was searching his birth parents and landed on my co-workers mom and herself. They have somewhat of a relationship. It started off strong and has lapsed more and more over time.

My grandson has never been seen by his bio dad. We have no idea if any of his family knows he exists. Such a tremendous loss for them. But when the dad is a smuck , it is what it is.

Does anyone have a male family member who has abandoned their child or hasn't even acknowledged them? How did YOU find out?

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

My grandfather abandoned my mother and my aunt. I've never heard from him. I assume he's dead. No big loss.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I am curious as to why you only care about males who abandon their kids?

My uncle's mom abandoned him. My grandfather married his girlfriend just before going overseas during WWII. His son, my uncle, was born while he was fighitng. When my grandfather returned his son was 2---his wife told him she had thought it would be romantic to be a war widow but had no interest in being a wife or mother and left him and her son.

I guess she continued to live in her hometown (and my grandfather's former hometown). My grandmother, who married my grandfather about 2 years later when my uncle was 4, sent letters for about ten years--once a quarter with photos, assuming his mother would want to at least know how her son was--they were all given back, unopened in a box with a request to never contact her agian by the mom, with her son (my uncle) right there in the room when the door was answered.

And actaully, on the other side of my family--I have two cousins who are not related to me by blood. Their dad married my aunt when they were 6 and 8. Their mom wanted nothign to do with them until after they were adults--she became a part of their lives on a limited basis when they were in their 30s and is now around some on holidays. I do not know what her reaosns for leaving were--but I do know SHE left and was clear she did not want to be a mother for many years.

So, I guess oddly enough in my family, on both sides, the parents who dropped out of the lives of their kids were both mothers, not fathers.

 

[wilkeliza]

My own father. Won't go into it all but he is a terrible person who abandoned all his children when it wasn't convenient to him and he couldn't abuse them or use them for money any more. He got away with all of it too.

 

[ronandannette]

My oldest brother was a serial-adulterer. It's just recently come to light that one of his liaisons produced a child 25 years or so ago. I'm not sure how serious the woman thought the relationship was; it was clearly meaningless for my brother. He was NOT a person of integrity or strong character; the only consolation I could think of to offer to the young man is that he was a terrible Dad to the 4 children he did parent.