Official American Idol Season 7: Top 10 to ??

[cruiserkaren]

My youngest son totally had me crying today

THIS A BIT OT: but relates to parenting post somewhat

My dad was killed in OCT. actullay on my youngest sons Birthday, he turned 7. Well ever since then he has been getting into trouble at school. Minor stuff playing in line, in class, stufff like that. Well Monday we get a note he bloodied a kids nose. I have always taught him to defend himself and as long as he didnt start it he would not be punished by me. Well the kid hit him first but they were playing some kind of hitting game. The teacher said he did not get in trouble for hitting cause they both were doing it but when the boy started bleeding my son did nothing then lied about what happened. So I sit him dowm today to talk about it. I explained what he should have done and about lying...etc etc...well a couple years ago my dad had fallen walking with him and he ran to get me for help. My dad was hurt bad but ended up ok. I brought that up today about how he helped Grandpa that day he fell...and OH my the dam expoloded. He started crying uncontrollably. It took me forever but he finally started talking about it and how he missed grandpa and stuff. I told him that Grandpa is not gone just in his heart with God and that he still sees everything you do good and bad and he wouldnt be proud of his "little Hoss" for getting in so much trouble....He calmed down. Ihope talking helped him. he has been seeing the counselor at school too.

He had me crying that was toughest thing I have done as a parent yet..

Just thought I would share....

Oh my Dan. I was a bit choked up just reading it. It sounds like you're doing a good job.


I guess I better add something regarding AI so as not to go OT.....uh.....DC is amazing.

 

[Buckalew11]

DolphinDan,
I'm sorry about your Dad also. I lost my dad 1 year ago this past Nov. and it is very hard. My DD was 7 when DH's dad died. She had a real hard time with losing him. Good to hear you have him in some counseling. He's been acting out a bit because he doesn't understand nor know what to do with his grief. Don't we all feel like that sometimes.
Anyway, you sound like a really good dad. Your dad would be proud of that fact too.


And on to David Cook...they can just end the show right now for me. No one in this bunch compares to him in my book. He is just brilliant.

 

[dolphindan1]

i'm sorry to hear about your father, Dan. that's horrible.

and that's so sad about your son, but you did the good parent thing, and i'm sure he's happy that you were there for him, and that you two were able to talk about it. that means a lot to kids.

i'm one of those people who have parents that.....well.... are not that great. i won't get into a big, long discussion about it, but my parents and i never really got along, and they always think so negative of me, and it really sucks. DH2B has some really great parents, and once in a while i think "why can't i have that?" but i guess everything happens for a reason, right?? maybe it's to teach ME to be a good parent when i have kids.

I am Dad...I am not suppose to get upset.

My wife doesnt have great parents. Her dad is a alcoholic he cant read or drive, my wife has to take full care of him now after her mom left and her mom is so controlling and overbearing and has to be in charge. Never gave my wife the encouragement or praise she needed to build her self confidence. She still has self esteem issues. Didnt even let her experence life as a teen. My wife is such opposite and has the kindest heart ever. Does her best for everyone no questions asked. I have done everything I can for her self esteem even getting her the Pickler parts she wanted. She still loves her parents unconditionally. You learn alot from parents good and bad but you also learn to be your on person.

Example my dad. well was a racist big time. I hate to say that but he was. I saw that in him and did not agree with his beliefs about different colors. Today I am one of the least racist people you will meet. I dont like a person cause of color but there chracter. Hope thats makes sense to you LIL

 

[dolphindan1]

Oh my Dan. I was a bit choked up just reading it. It sounds like you're doing a good job.


I guess I better add something regarding AI so as not to go OT.....uh.....DC is amazing.

Must stay on topic....

 

[dolphindan1]

Oh my Dan. I was a bit choked up just reading it. It sounds like you're doing a good job.


I guess I better add something regarding AI so as not to go OT.....uh.....DC is amazing.

We are still kinda on topic. I was responding to a post about how parents are like David A's

 

[dolphindan1]

Here's Ryan announcing it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q-Ke1zCWgI8

I think David has a better voice than Chris Cornell. I also think it does take guts to perform a lesser known version of a song. I think he DID come up with his own version for most of this song though (I know at least one other he credited to someone else.) But I don't see what the big deal is, I guess. I mean, EVERYONE is pretty much singing someone elses version of the song. David is just smart enough to pick different versions of things.

I saw that after I posted....I sure didnt hear it....I really enjoyed it though..if he would have just moon walked....

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

I am Dad...I am not suppose to get upset.

My wife doesnt have great parents. Her dad is a alcoholic he cant read or drive, my wife has to take full care of him now after her mom left and her mom is so controlling and overbearing and has to be in charge. Never gave my wife the encouragement or praise she needed to build her self confidence. She still has self esteem issues. Didnt even let her experence life as a teen. My wife is such opposite and has the kindest heart ever. Does her best for everyone no questions asked. I have done everything I can for her self esteem even getting her the Pickler parts she wanted. She still loves her parents unconditionally. You learn alot from parents good and bad but you also learn to be your on person.

Example my dad. well was a racist big time. I hate to say that but he was. I saw that in him and did not agree with his beliefs about different colors. Today I am one of the least racist people you will meet. I dont like a person cause of color but there chracter. Hope thats makes sense to you LIL

dad's get upset like sometimes. it's normal, and kids know that. it probably made him feel better that you felt the same way, and that it was "normal" to feel that way.

wow.....sounds like your wife and i had the same parents(except for the alcoholic part, but my dad is too lazy to take care of himself). i have a lot of self-esteem issues, too. i hate that. it's gotten a little better since i've been with my DH2B but not as good as it should be, or that i'd like it to be. and hey, mine has promised me some of those pickler parts, too! lol.

and my parents and i couldn't be more different from each other. it's so strange to be related to people who you really have nothing in common with.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

I saw that after I posted....I sure didnt hear it....I really enjoyed it though..if he would have just moon walked....

i don't think that Michael Jackson moon walked in that music video tho. i saw it on pop-up video a few weeks ago, now that i remember. how ironic! lol. but yeah i don't remember him moon walking. just stepping on the sidewalk and it lighting up.

 

[dolphindan1]

i don't think that Michael Jackson moon walked in that music video tho. i saw it on pop-up video a few weeks ago, now that i remember. how ironic! lol. but yeah i don't remember him moon walking. just stepping on the sidewalk and it lighting up.

He didnt he always did his little grab move in that walking across the Piano. But If DC would have moon walked you could have ended this season for me too. I would have loved that.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

He didnt he always did his little grab move in that walking across the Piano. But If DC would have moon walked you could have ended this season for me too. I would have loved that.

you would have finally bowed at the altar of David Cook for sure if he did that!

 

[dolphindan1]

dad's get upset like sometimes. it's normal, and kids know that. it probably made him feel better that you felt the same way, and that it was "normal" to feel that way.

wow.....sounds like your wife and i had the same parents(except for the alcoholic part, but my dad is too lazy to take care of himself). i have a lot of self-esteem issues, too. i hate that. it's gotten a little better since i've been with my DH2B but not as good as it should be, or that i'd like it to be. and hey, mine has promised me some of those pickler parts, too! lol.

and my parents and i couldn't be more different from each other. it's so strange to be related to people who you really have nothing in common with.

My wife and I have been so trying to figure out the behavior issues. What was hard was it was never anything bad just 1st grade antics. We were at the point well we just are not doing something right. we are bad parents. I hate he bloodied a kids nose but I am glad for this reason it happened at least we know now. He is so much harder than his older brother. he was a piece of cake but he is almost 12 and getting to that I know everything years. I went through it too....

 

[MissDisney121]

Here's Ryan announcing it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q-Ke1zCWgI8

I think David has a better voice than Chris Cornell. I also think it does take guts to perform a lesser known version of a song. I think he DID come up with his own version for most of this song though (I know at least one other he credited to someone else.) But I don't see what the big deal is, I guess. I mean, EVERYONE is pretty much singing someone elses version of the song. David is just smart enough to pick different versions of things.

I totally agree, I don't see the big deal in him performing a song the same way someone else had. I mean if he had sang the exactly the same way MJ did no one would have said anything (about the arangement at least because it owuld not have been good) Plus the chris Cornell version is really good so they should just be glad that that great arangement is being done rather than MJ's

 

[dolphindan1]

you would have finally bowed at the altar of David Cook for sure if he did that!

I bow to no one but I might have knelt.....

 

[dolphindan1]

check back later...shift change at work gotta do my rounds

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

My wife and I have been so trying to figure out the behavior issues. What was hard was it was never anything bad just 1st grade antics. We were at the point well we just are not doing something right. we are bad parents. I hate he bloodied a kids nose but I am glad for this reason it happened at least we know now. He is so much harder than his older brother. he was a piece of cake but he is almost 12 and getting to that I know everything years. I went through it too....

no you're not bad parents. i think almost all kids go thru a stage somewhat like that. some worse than others. at least he's in counseling, that's the best thing you can do as a parent. so many parents don't do that and that's a huge part of the problem. it's almost like they're in denial.

 

[2bemarried]

I'm not tired so I'm going to hang out here with you all tonight

Dan I was choking up reading your story. I know it's hard for dad's to open up but I know that we kids appreciate seeing that. To this day my dad and I cannot discuss my grandpa's passing. We both choke up and it's been 8 years.

Unfortunately I think we all see flaws in our parents that we wish they didn't have. I love mine but my dad is very racist and my mom has mental health issues due to menopause. We have to remember the good times. Hopefully David A has had those good times and I hope his parents are using him.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

I bow to no one but I might have knelt.....

 

[HoneyBee06]

i don't think that Michael Jackson moon walked in that music video tho. i saw it on pop-up video a few weeks ago, now that i remember. how ironic! lol. but yeah i don't remember him moon walking. just stepping on the sidewalk and it lighting up.

Didn't Michael Jackson do the moonwalk for the very first time on a t.v. show while performing Billie Jean? I think it was something like that but I can't quite remember. I just remember the white socks.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

Didn't Michael Jackson do the moonwalk for the very first time on a t.v. show while performing Billie Jean? I think it was something like that but I can't quite remember. I just remember the white socks.

i honestly don't remember, but that would be hilarious if it were true! lol.

 

[TwinsinCA]

I think so. It was something like Motown's 25th anniversary special. I am old enough to remember that!