off topic but please hug your children and tell them you love them today

[VACAMPER]

We're all here for you.

 

[Minnie&Mickey]

I am so sorry for your loss. Find comfort in the fact that Jeff's grandmother is going to be taking care of him in heaven.

 

[polkadotsuitcase]

Oh, no -- I'm so very sorry for the loss of your mom, Dan. Others here have said things so eloquently, and I don't have much to add except I hope you can feel the support and prayers helping to hold you up during this amazingly difficult time. Take care of yourself and hold tight to your family.

 

[mnsprk]

When we lose someone we love, The loss seems too great to bear, God sends us friends to comfort us, and to show that He deeply cares.

Dan you and your family are in our continuing prayers.

 

[mnsprk]

Double post..

 

[disney4dan]

We were away this weekend camping and I saw this on my not so smart smartphone. It would take me hours to post on that, so I waited until tonight.

I have no new words to add, other than to pass along my condolences and hope that you find peace soon.

I hope you and your family help each other through this and take the time to go somewhere to just reconnect. I know the Fort would not be the place just yet, maybe somewhere like the beach where you can all just hang out together and grieve, reminisce, talk, whatever it takes.

Take Care

Dan

 

[Tri-circle-D]

Dan- I am so sorry to hear about your Mom.

Sometimes, when it rains, it pours.

I don't know if this will help you or not, but I wanted to share it.

For some reason, it came to my mind recently.

I don't know if you remember, but Tony Dungy, the former Tampa Bay Buc's coach, lost his 18 year old son back in 2005.

This is an excerpt of a speech he gave at a breakfast for the 2006 Superbowl:

Tony Dungy's 2006 Superbowl Breakfast Speech

In this he mentions how he expressed his regret that he didn't give his son a big hug the last time he saw him when he spoke at his son's funeral. And, he mentions what a blessing it has been to him to hear from people who were inspired to rebuild their relationships with their children after hearing what Tony had said at the funeral.

Well, Dan, I hope that you, like Tony Dungy, can find some comfort in knowing that you have inspired me to make sure to give my kids a big hug every chance I get.

Hang in there, buddy.

TCD

 

[des1954]

Not intending to hijack the thread, but, I've read Uncommon and Quiet Strength by Tony Dungy. I highly recommend them both to anyone - but especially to all the fathers out there.

 

[DisneyBishops]

Today marks 2 mths since Jeff died. Mom's death last friday just seemed to bring it all back again. At her wake and funeral I am sure most people thought I was sheding tears for her. But I think i was still just shedding tears for Jeff.

I miss and love him just as much today as I ever did.

 

[Just Beachy]

I wish there was something I could do to help ease your pain. I still pray for you and your family every day.

 

[mgsmom]

You are in my thoughts and prayers.
I'm so sorry for your losses.
Hang in there!

 

[mgsmom]

Sorry about the "hang in there" - I meant it, but it looked dumb once I posted it. (I would have been saying "Hang in there? YOU hang in there... mutter mutter...)
You will learn how to deal with all this - it just takes time - and a lot of crying I think.
Hug often.

 

[2goofycampers]

You will always love Jeff as much as you did 2 months ago and even more. Letting go of the pain in due time is not letting go of the love you will always feel for him. Sometimes the 2 things get confused in our grief, I know mine did when my Mom died. I hope you get to smile, Jeff and your Mom would definitely want that for you.

 

[DisneyBishops]

Thank you all for the kind words

 

[mgsmom]

Still thinking of you and praying for you and your family.
I know it is so hard for you.

 

[A Mickeyfan]

I just happen to come across this thread. I know some time has passed but your pain and hollow feelings are still there. I just wanted to post this poem for you. I have in on the Compassion boards from when my mom died. I hope this helps you, it did me....


To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, ""I welcome you.""

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......""My day was not in vain.""
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.

 

[DisneyBishops]

I just happen to come across this thread. I know some time has passed but your pain and hollow feelings are still there. I just wanted to post this poem for you. I have in on the Compassion boards from when my mom died. I hope this helps you, it did me....


To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, ""I welcome you.""

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......""My day was not in vain.""
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.

Thank you that is very nice.

But it did cause tears to run down my face. But that is nothing new it happens everyday anymore.

 

[DisneyBishops]

I used to think i was a big strong man. I never cried about anything. I was always strong and could carry a huge load on my shoulders.

Now since Jeff left, I am not that big strong man any longer. Not a day goes by that tears don't roll down my face.

This is the worst thing that could ever happen to a person and I would not wish it on anyone.

 

[polkadotsuitcase]

Dan,

Crying doesn't mean you're not strong. It means you loved someone so deeply and so completely that you're strong enough to shed tears of grief. It means that even though you're in pain, you're strong enough to continue on because that's what your loved one would have wanted. Feel what you're feeling.

Take care of yourself,
Kate

 

[BigDaddyRog]

Dan.....tears are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of human emotion, a good sign.