off topic but please hug your children and tell them you love them today

[clovermeg]

May peace find you and your family in the days ahead.

 

[disney4dan]

Dan, I wish I knew what to say - I just logged on and could not read all the pages. I will pray for you, your family and my own family. May you find peace and comfort soon. I have an 18 year old son (will be this week) and I just could not imagine...

 

[lklasing]

Dan - I'm so very sorry for your loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers. And, I will definitely do what you said and tell my kids how much I love them even more.

Leslie

 

[disney4dan]

In order to try and find words I resorted to a book handed to us when we needed it (actually, there is a greater book, but this has a lot of quotes from that book as well);

Give sorrow words: the grief that does not speak whispers the o'er-fraught heart and bids it break - William Shakespeare​

That first quote seems to explain why this board can be a place to heal.


Still praying

 

[Just Beachy]

Oh, Dan. I am so sorry to hear about Jeff. There are no words that I can say that can even come close to being able to comfort you right now. Please know that your family is in my thoughts and prayers. I'll send you cyber hugs for now until I meet you and Kris in person and can give you real hugs. And anytime you need to talk, we are all here for you!!!

 

[RvUsa]

Dan, never apologize to us for telling us how you feel, I can't be there for you in person, but I am proud to be here if you need to talk online. You and your family are all hurting, and if it helps to talk to someone who is not burdened with the loss of your son, then that is the least we can do for you. I know I can't accurately convey how I feel in words, but know that we are all here for you to help any way we can.

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When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. ~Kahlil Gibran[/FONT]

 

[clkelley]

So sorry to hear about this, we'll be thinking and praying for you!!

 

[ftwildernessguy]

Dan - this is horrible. I am so sorry. Be strong.

 

[LONE-STAR]

So sorry for your loss.

 

[DisneyBishops]

For you that have asked Jeff's funeral will be at Brownlie-Maxwell Funeral home. That is located in Melbourne, FL on US 1

The viewing will be on Tuesday 3-23 and the service on wed 3-24


Thanks to all of you for letting me vent on here.

Today has been no easier. All of his friends have made a memorial on the side of the road where he died. It is heart breaking to watch all his friends crying and staying at the site for the entire day. One of his friends (they have been friends since they were 4) has not left the site except to go home and sleep. My heart is breaking for him. He says he has lost his best friend and now doesn't know what he is going to do.

On the newspaper forums here in Brevard county. Some people have made some very negative statements. Some have said he must have been drunk to have done this. Other have said we are not good parents as he was out at 3 am. All i can say to them is that they must not have teenagers. Unless you lock them in, and then they might find a way out. You won't be able to keep them from making some terrible decisions. Jeff was 18 and when I went to bed he was home. He made a dumb decision to leave and it cost him a terrible price. so to all those who throw stones. I wouldn't even wish this on you.

This has only been day 2 but it doesn't seem to be getting any easier at all. If anything it is hurting more than yesterday and I didn't think that was possible.

again thanks for letting me vent.

 

[CampingChristy]

Oh Dan, screw those people! You are right about throwing stones. I raised twin boys as a single mom and I know what you mean about not being able to "lock them in". Wouldn't we all as parents love to be able to do this.

Continue to know in your heart what an awesome man/father you are and try to look past the ignorance. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and your family!

 

[DaveInTN]

Dan - I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through. Ignore those ignorant posters on internet newspaper forums. Anonymity leads to incredibly insensitive and stupid comments. Don't allow those fools to bring anger into your heart at this time.

I will hug my girls extra hard tonight. And, we will pray for your family.

 

[auntie]

Dan, don't read that BS. Who gives a crap what people who don't know you or your family think. What selfish pigs they must be! EVERY parent of a teenager that is reading this thread is thinking..."this could have just as easily been me". You're right..you can't lock them up. IT WAS AN ACCIDENT.
We know that this could have been any one of us. It doesn't matter how it happened...why it happened. It just did, and please know my heart breaks for how badly you hurt right now.
HOLD ON... JUST...HOLD ON TIGHT...your family really needs you right now.

 

[Millermouseketeers]

The people being critical do not have a clue what it is like to have a teen. Before mine became teenagers I was ignorant. I have prayed and prayed for you and your family. May you find some peace soon.

 

[OK GRUMPY]

Dan my heart go's out to you and your family. Don't let them insensitive idiots cause you any more grief.. you have enough on your plate. I would say more is this a on line new paper? If so I would like to give them a little piece of my mind!
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!
God Bless!

 

[OK GRUMPY]

Dan, don't read that BS. Who gives a crap what people who don't know you or your family think. What selfish pigs they must be! EVERY parent of a teenager that is reading this thread is thinking..."this could have just as easily been me". You're right..you can't lock them up. IT WAS AN ACCIDENT.
We know that this could have been any one of us. It doesn't matter how it happened...why it happened. It just did, and please know my heart breaks for how badly you hurt right now.
HOLD ON... JUST...HOLD ON TIGHT...your family really needs you right now.

You are so right Phylis

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

Dan,
I never had the pleasure of meeting your family but my thoughts and prayers will be with you, your family and your son's friends in this horrible time.
Please ignore the horrible posters on that newspaper site. Some people are miserable, ignorant ********* that like to share their miserable, ignorant opinions. Don't waste your time with them.

 

[bunkkinsmom]

So I will use my anonymity to say that I am saying a special prayer for you and your family tonight. I have hugged my 5 year old boy especially tight tonight, and I pray that you have peace soon.

Many prayers from my entire family to yours.

 

[3happydancers]

Dan,

I just wanted to extend my deepest sympathy to you and your family. I can't imagine having to face loosing my child. Our thoughts are with you

And as for the remarks written in the local paper, well I just can't print what is really on my mind but listen to your friends here on the boards, they speak from the heart!

 

[4mickey2]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. feel free to vent on us anytime. we are all here for you.
my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

we had one of the guys at work lose his son last year in a car accident. very sad. the other driver blew a stop sign and t-boned him on his way to work in the morning. his son didn't have a chance. the other driver was still drunk from the night before. his son was tested for alcohol. the other driver wasn't tested until later and walked away. they are fighting him in court but there have been a lot of loop holes for them.

so, they have been also fighting for a law that was just PASSED. it is called tims' law. "Today Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD) urged support of Tim’s Law in the Wisconsin State Assembly. The measure requires for blood to be drawn of a driver who caused a death or serious injury related crash. "

it has been a rough year for them and you will also have a rough road ahead of you. but hang in there. a lot of people need you to be strong. prayers to you.....