off the subject but need prayers.

[rvoto]

My husbandshas been self employed since 1984. About 10 yrs ago he was offered a job as a subcontractor to install windows the offer was great so he took it over the past 3 years This guy has been kinda nasty to my husband. He has not called him since Nov. (no work) (no money) So we have to start over. DH has been Working in Florida flying home twice to see us. Just to pay the bills. We need lots of prayers from everyone. Dh is going back in business for himself. We Have no contacts Putting out ads praying for calls. This is very expensive. I am frightened. I need him to be able to stay home with us. I feel like a whiner. I can't tell him that and most of my friends say don't worry but it is hard not to. It is hard to start over. I feel like we are going backwards.
I just need to vent and try not to be mad. But please We need prayers.

Besides if he does not get the business I do not get Scrapbooking supplies!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks everyone
Lisa

 

[Spinning]

Oh Lisa I am so sorry to hear this. I think change is hard for anyone but this is really tough. I pray he gets work and things work out. Hang in there!

 

[nicki dahling]

Lisa ,
you guys will be in my prayers. Hang in there. I am a firm believer that prayer changes things.

Cyndi

 

[pattyT]

Oh LISA!
I can relate TOTALLY -
my DH got laid off in 2002 (2 weeks before our BIG trip for 10 days in DIS) and it was scary...

but we took it as an opportunity and he got his General Contractors License and became self employed. It has been 9 months for us since he started the business and it is a tough business - I can COMPLETELY relate with what you are going through.

I am sure once he gets a few jobs - and does a good job word will spread and the number of calls will increase.

It is a good market for the business - depending on what exactly he does - Mark is a jack of all trades and is finding that a lot of the 'Big Contractors' either don't want to deal with smaller stuff or just don't have the time to return calls and such so it has been a big benefit to him, and the jobs he has been getting have been getting bigger themselves!

Wishing you all great success - I don't know how you did it having him away!
that must have been the hardest part!

 

[Gadget Girl]

I'm so sorry for you all, too. My husband works evenings and sleeps during the day. I'm getting off work at the same time he has to be there and we all only have one day of the week off together. I understand how lonely it can be. That's why I was so happy to discover these boards....someone to talk to at night when the girls have gone to bed! Hang in there. I believe in prayers, too. And Mickey Magic .

 

[Swan]

My prayers are with you.

 

[welovemickey]

We moved from Florida to Massachusetts 10 years ago because the economy was so bad down there.

My husband had a hard time finding work up here (he's a contractor as well) and decided to go into his own business. The first years were very tough, but it's gotten better over time.

It really does pay off in the end. We couldn't imagine having to work for anyone at this point in our lives. It's stressful at times, but well worth it!

Good luck!

Lisa

 

[Twigs]

You'll be in my prayers. Hang in there.

 

[soccerchick]

Prayers and good thoughts coming your way

 

[crazyforpooh]

Lisa,

You and your family are in my prayers. I am a firm believer that all things happen for a reason. The road may be long and tough but somehow you will all come out of this on top.

Sending s, prayers, and a little bit of pixie dust your way.

Feel free to vent to us anytime. That's what we are all here for.

Laura
A scrapaholic

 

[nicurn]

pixie dust coming your way lisa! maggie

 

[rvoto]

Thank you all so much for the prayers and good thoughts. I hate to complain I feel like a whiner. I just cant complain to dh he has enough stress. Thanks so much for being here. This is why I love these boards. You all seem like a little bit of family.

 

[WDWMom]

Lisa, My prayers are with you too. My DH is a builder and self employeed. He does work for several developers and one does not pay well. Sometimes Dh is owed $15-$20 thousand (yes, thousand) at a time and is usually 60-90 days past due. Most of that $$$ pays wages for employees and supplies, but we need that $$$ too. Some months are done right tight, so I understand how you feel. I finally convinced DH to stop doing work for this developer. i could not handle the stress anymore even though we would eventually get the money and get our bills caught up.

 

[rvoto]

wdwmom
That was the problem that we used to have. That is why this subcontracting job was so nice. (for awhile) We had no pressure and I at the time was going through a terrible depression. He didn't have to go on estimates he pretty much went to work. It was like a job but he was able to take time off for the school plays and that was so nice. The big problem that I am having is that This guy is also my next door neighbor, and my Church brother..... He is playing a game with my husband and I do not see anything funny in it .....He called about a month ago when dh was in Florida he wanted to talk to DH and I asked if he had work His reply to me was "I always have work"" I was so upset I wanted to tell hiom off right then and there. I didn't. But one would think that as a neighbor and christian brother he would be a more stand up Guy..... Here I am at home with 3 children no money and The jerk didn't even ask if things were going well.....I Had the most calls from my husbands Drunk friend (nice guy really just drinks way too much ) It has really hurt my feelings. I feel like he is not just playing a bad game but I also thought he was a friend.. Boy was I wrong!!!! Enough venting again.. I guess I am really mad.... Sorry
Lisa

 

[JudithM]

My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family as you go through this change. You are not a whiner. Please keep us posted on how things are going for you. Sure wish we could find a good, reliable home improvements type worker in our area.

 

[pattyT]

hhmm
I know tht mu husband works it so he gets paid 1/3 up front, 1/3 half way through the job, and 1/3 at the end...

so really the only thing they can get behind is 1/3 (of course that is usually our third - lol)

do you guys not do it that way?
just curious

 

[rvoto]

When it is our work ..... THats how we do it. As a sub He got pd at the end of the completed job.... We at times we went 5 wks with out cash flow... But a big pay off. Not a problem during peak season really stunk in the winter as the checking account emptied. My Dh never had those troubles when he was on his own. He is loved by all the customers I just wish when he started whith this guy that he would have kept his name out there. On the good side of all of this. This past summer we bought an Ambluance so The new business we are calling it the window Medic...Catchy Phrase!!!! and the ambulance is an Eye catcher.. So I hope we will get it going fast. We just put ads in the church bulitins (real cheep ) 5.00 wk per church and the paper and a monthly flyer. So we are trying to just be seen right now. They all come out the week DH comes home. I pray he will be busy when he walks through the door. Good thing I bought lots of scrapping supplies... and a new business to scrap..hmmm just thought of that... some thing to scrap. I should probably jot down some notes about what has been going on. good idea ... I feel better ....Thanks Girls!!!!!