As the OP of this thread, I can honestly say I've read all of your responses and I've appreciated all the great advice and encouragement. I've also enjoyed some of the commentary that had nothing to do with my original post but that's why I love the DIS...you never know where a thread will take you!
As an update, I've had great success over the past 5 days stalking
MDE for 7DMT fast passes. As of today, I've gotten 6 of 8 in overlapping time frames and if I don't get the other 2, I won't be too disappointed. I'm glad the first-timers will be able to ride without having to wait 75 minutes and my daughter and I will ride during evening EMH or we'll skip it as we've ridden it before. We will do A&E at rope drop and we'll probably go to MSEP and Wishes if the spirit moves us--bot not planning for those.
I am officially done planning this behemoth of a trip, and I'm so happy it's over. It has been a rough ride, but I'm happy to be "pencils down" and now on to enjoying the anticipation of our first ever trip to Disney with our whole family.
Cheers everyone and thanks again