Divamomto3
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Well my feelings are a little hurt. I'll try to keep this short and sweet. We have neighbors across the street that moved in to our neighborhood about 8 years ago. Their youngest and our oldest are the same age. We grew up in the same old part of town although we didn't know each other before. We hit it off immediately and became extremely close friends. We went out a lot, went to each other's homes for dinner. They came to all of our family parties, we went to theirs. We went to each other's kids' important events. They know my extended family, we know theirs. The wife and I are actually in the same profession and work at the same place. They are the kind of neighbors you call in an emergency and we've both had to many times. They felt as close to family (if not closer sometimes) than you can get.
Admittedly, over the last 3 years or so, we've spent less time together. My DH and I attributed it to the fact that their oldest 2 were in college and their youngest and my oldest no longer had a lot of similar interests. We still had 2 younger kids at home and not many babysitters so they had more freedom and we just did less together. But that feeling that you can count on each other for anything was still there. Also in the mix is that we are moving away (due to a job offer, not a neighborhood problem) and I think that caused some sad feelings.
In April, their 20 year old daughter asked me when we were moving b/c they were going to have a "big surprise 25th wedding anniversary" party for them "this summer." I said I had no idea...it depended on when our house sold, but no matter what, we'd try to be there anyway. Never heard another word about it. Last weekend my friend borrrowed my overnight bag and garment bag b/c her and her DH were going to a fancy B&B to celebrate their 25th anniversary. Since I never heard anything about the party, I assumed the kids decided to send them away instead of paying for a big party.
Fast forward: Friday night at 6pm my phone rings and it's their 20 year old daughter from her workplace. She's sorry she forgot to give me an invitation, she had it addressed but couldn't mail it b/c her mother picked up my mail for 4 days last week while we were in Florida. And she knows it's probably too late now, but could we come the next day (which was Saturday) to her aunt's beach cottage for the big surprise party. Well I couldn't because at the end of May, my son planned a big pool party for his friends on that same day. We picked that day b/c I had nothing else going on.
She said she was sorry and I said don't worry about it. Of course, I'm angry and hurt.
She didn't just plan this party the week before while I was in Florida and her mother was getting my mail. I consider her parents my top 3 closest couple friends and I guess mistakenly think they do too and you forget to ensure that we are invited to an important party where they'll be LOTS of people. And now I'll have to go to work also and hear about it.
I'm not sure if the daughter said we weren't there b/c we had a bunch of 14 year olds over for a pool party or if she admitted she didn't remember to invite us.
How do I handle this? Am I unnecessarily hurt? The party was 2 days ago but b/c it's a busy holiday weekend, they've only driven by and beeped and waved once so far, so I haven't spoken with them yet. Discussion and opinions wanted. Thanks.
Admittedly, over the last 3 years or so, we've spent less time together. My DH and I attributed it to the fact that their oldest 2 were in college and their youngest and my oldest no longer had a lot of similar interests. We still had 2 younger kids at home and not many babysitters so they had more freedom and we just did less together. But that feeling that you can count on each other for anything was still there. Also in the mix is that we are moving away (due to a job offer, not a neighborhood problem) and I think that caused some sad feelings.
In April, their 20 year old daughter asked me when we were moving b/c they were going to have a "big surprise 25th wedding anniversary" party for them "this summer." I said I had no idea...it depended on when our house sold, but no matter what, we'd try to be there anyway. Never heard another word about it. Last weekend my friend borrrowed my overnight bag and garment bag b/c her and her DH were going to a fancy B&B to celebrate their 25th anniversary. Since I never heard anything about the party, I assumed the kids decided to send them away instead of paying for a big party.
Fast forward: Friday night at 6pm my phone rings and it's their 20 year old daughter from her workplace. She's sorry she forgot to give me an invitation, she had it addressed but couldn't mail it b/c her mother picked up my mail for 4 days last week while we were in Florida. And she knows it's probably too late now, but could we come the next day (which was Saturday) to her aunt's beach cottage for the big surprise party. Well I couldn't because at the end of May, my son planned a big pool party for his friends on that same day. We picked that day b/c I had nothing else going on.
She said she was sorry and I said don't worry about it. Of course, I'm angry and hurt. She didn't just plan this party the week before while I was in Florida and her mother was getting my mail. I consider her parents my top 3 closest couple friends and I guess mistakenly think they do too and you forget to ensure that we are invited to an important party where they'll be LOTS of people. And now I'll have to go to work also and hear about it.
I'm not sure if the daughter said we weren't there b/c we had a bunch of 14 year olds over for a pool party or if she admitted she didn't remember to invite us.
How do I handle this? Am I unnecessarily hurt? The party was 2 days ago but b/c it's a busy holiday weekend, they've only driven by and beeped and waved once so far, so I haven't spoken with them yet. Discussion and opinions wanted. Thanks.
