First off- what is RD? I haven't seen that abbreviation before.
Next, I was getting super disappointed in planning my 2017 trip -between the bad dining reviews and how many "WDW has lost the magic" threads I've seen, it was just depressing.
I thought a lot about my two previous trips, both were very spontaneous trips. We just did what we wanted, no planning, no long term ADRs we just made same day reservations at an available spot. Nothing was an "omg we have to this or our whole trip is ruined" thing. We just let the magic unfurl around us and had spectacular trips on both occasions. I rearranged my thinking for my upcoming trip and tried to get on the minutia planning wagon but I just can't trying to do that is killing the magic for me. I'm sorting out which parks I'm going to on which days (so I don't miss fireworks or things only offered on certain days) but I'm going to wing it on the rest.
One thought I have, and no one take this the wrong way, but it seems like a lot of the complaining about lost magic seems to be predominately from folks who go to WDW every year or every couple years. Maybe it's too often - maybe something gets lost when something becomes that familiar.
I don't think you should be disappointed at all. I think I spent too much time lurking here before my last trip. Don't get me wrong- some of it was enormously helpful. But some of it had me more worried about WDW than my trip to Europe next year- and it took the first couple of days at WDW to put it into perspective. It does tremendously help to have those fast passes if only as a general framework. But seriously, I think the people who wring their hands over not having a certain fp or not getting a certain number per day just make themselves crazy. I wait in line at my local amusement park for easily an hour or more to ride my favorite coaster sober and over. Not paying for the fireworks dessert up sells...well, have you never fought the crowds in your town to see the Independence Day fireworks? Have to show up an hour early for that parade to claim your spot? Have you never showed up to a play an hour early because you only have general admission tickets?
And your kids learn a valuable lesson to boot- the best experiences in life often involve waiting in line or fighting crowds. I'm not sorry I went to WDW during the summer just like I'm not sorry I went to Yosemite last year. It was go then or don't go at all!
The people who obsess over ADRs- I actually do sort of get that, I'm not sure disney's system works all that well. But I never had a problem finding sit down dining at the resorts. And that's honestly more for the adults- I mean, sure, BOG was a highlight of my trip at WDW just like the Bayou is at DL- but if you've got a kid that eats nothing but chicken nuggets and Mac and cheese- well, just admit it, they can eat that anywhere in any park, no ADRs required. If feeding the kid in a timely manner is the priority, then why worry about ADRs at all?
I totally get your last remark, and I'll follow it up with a slightly stronger opinion- how can anyone stand to go multiple times a year, every year??

They push DVC pretty hard in the parks and I just don't get it. I don't even repeat the same city every year- no matter how much I love Boston or SF or Chicago, there's so much of the country or world I want to see.



For there to be magic, there's got to be a little mystery left!