Not doing her best?

[chisnpeke]

And studies have proven that it's usually not the straight A student who goes on to great success in life. Remember the show on Oprah and they guy who wrote the book on emotional intelligence? Being in education I see that often the children who are being pushed are succeeding for the parents' expectations and are not doing it for themselves. They become stressed and burnt out and often rebel when away at college. Let kids be kids!
I sometimes think things were better in our day when parents didn't get so involved in their kids' lives. Parents didn't go and scream at children's sporting events and hire personal trainers for them or help with every single homework assignment.
I had a friend who was driving two hours on the weekends to help his daughter with COLLEGE assignments - where does it end? Are you going to follow your child to the workplace and interfere when he or she doesn't get a promotion?

 

[sunnyday123]

Amen. I was a "c" student, with a smathering of "a" and "b". My dad realized it and told me he was happy I was trying my best. He also said he would be proud of me if I failed trying but not so if I failed not trying. I ended up having a pretty successful life. Both in my working life (now retired) and social life. I'm now enjoying retirement. My only regret is him not seeing it. He died when I was 18. Nothing would not have made me happier than telling him thank you for your support and advise.

I'll have to second that. DD gets good grades, because that is her potential...I have never had to tell her to do her homework or study for a test. I have a very laid back attitude about it, and continually tell her all I expect is to do her best and that even if she doesn't do well, she can still learn from that.
I also don't get involved in school work issues. Last year she missed a week due to sickness and got her make up work. The teacher didn't give her the same set of instructions as the others, and she ended up with a D on a paper. She complained to me, and I told her to explain it to the teacher, I wasn't calling. She did and ended up with a B. I was more proud of the fact that she handled it then the grade.

Of course after that she wanted to negotiate all of her grades.