Nosy neighbors

[RitaZ.]

I have one of those neighbors that has to know everyone's business. Yesterday, I took my vehicle in for regular maintenance. I got a loaner car from the dealership. This morning, I got a call from her. The funny thing is that when I saw her name in the caller ID window, I knew the purpose of her call. She wanted to know if I had company over because there was a "strange car" in my driveway. This happens every time we take in our vehicles for service and she sees the loaner car in the driveway.

I'm not sure what she's expecting to hear. Maybe next time I'll answer and tell her that I can't talk to her because she is interrupting my wild orgy.

BTW, she doesn't like to talk about what's going on in her life. She is just interested in everyone else's.

How about you? Do you have neighbors that are this nosy?

 

[minniecarousel]

HA! My neighbors don't have my phone number! We wave as we go by. We talk to the guy next door when we all put out our garbage cans.

We had a neighbor who knew everyone's business when we were kids. We called her "007"!

 

[RitaZ.]

HA! My neighbors don't have my phone number! We wave as we go by. We talk to the guy next door when we all put out our garbage cans.

We had a neighbor who knew everyone's business when we were kids. We called her "007"!

She is very resourceful. She got our unlisted # from another neighbor.

 

[Pumbaa_]

Nope, strictly on a wave and hello basis

 

[RitaZ.]

Nope, strictly on a wave and hello basis

We had a conversation among friends about neighbors not long ago. Most of them felt the same way, a wave or hello is enough. They don't want to know their neighbors. I can see the benefits of that.

 

[pilotwife_02]

Our next door neighbor is like that too. He has a lovely deck but decides to drag his check plastic 1980's lawn chairs out onto his driveway and watch the neighborhood.

He'll tell you anything about anyone in the neighborhood if you let him (which I don't since I don't talk to him, but DH does) and I tell DH "DO NOT talk to him about us, there is no need for him to be in our business".

DH travels a lot and I swear when he is gone he will text DH things like "looks like your wife is having a party" Or "who is she hanging out with tonight?" This is when I have a friend or two over for movie night. I just don't get why he sees the need to "keep track" of me for DH.

Friends of ours moved in across the street and she's been here for 2 months and within a month knew he was bad news. It's frustrating because we feel like we have to make nice with him or who knows what kind of bad things he'll tell all the other people in the neighborhood

 

[kc10family]

Never more than a wave or quick hello for us.

Next time tell her you joined a new group and the High Priestess is over to gather hair and blood samples for the ceramony later. Then ask her if she might be interested in joining

 

[Wishing on a star]

Caller ID and screening the answering machine are your friend.

 

[RitaZ.]

Never more than a wave or quick hello for us.

Next time tell her you joined a new group and the High Priestess is over to gather hair and blood samples for the ceramony later. Then ask her if she might be interested in joining

That ought do it!

 

[RitaZ.]

Our next door neighbor is like that too. He has a lovely deck but decides to drag his check plastic 1980's lawn chairs out onto his driveway and watch the neighborhood.

He'll tell you anything about anyone in the neighborhood if you let him (which I don't since I don't talk to him, but DH does) and I tell DH "DO NOT talk to him about us, there is no need for him to be in our business".

DH travels a lot and I swear when he is gone he will text DH things like "looks like your wife is having a party" Or "who is she hanging out with tonight?" This is when I have a friend or two over for movie night. I just don't get why he sees the need to "keep track" of me for DH.

Friends of ours moved in across the street and she's been here for 2 months and within a month knew he was bad news. It's frustrating because we feel like we have to make nice with him or who knows what kind of bad things he'll tell all the other people in the neighborhood

That's way beyond nosy! That guy is trying to undermine your relationship!

 

[whatsup]

You may want to be a little THANKFUL for this neighbor to give you a phone call after seeing a "strange" car in your driveway. That "strange" car could have been there unloading your home contents and later you would have wished you had a neighbor that was paying close attention to what is going on. When I go away I tell all my close neighbors if they see any strange cars at my home to call the police. I LOVE RETIRED neighbors!

 

[pilotwife_02]

That's is way beyond nosy! That guy is trying to undermine your relationship!

I agree, it really bothers me, but DH just ignores him. DH will usually text him back some sarcastic like "oh great, another party I'm not invited to" or "hope the girls don't go through my underwear drawer AGAIN!"

 

[Disneylanding]

I'm not sure what she's expecting to hear. Maybe next time I'll answer and tell her that I can't talk to her because she is interrupting my wild orgy.

 

[RitaZ.]

You may want to be a little THANKFUL for this neighbor to give you a phone call after seeing a "strange" car in your driveway. That "strange" car could have been there unloading your home contents and later you would have wished you had a neighbor that was paying close attention to what is going on. When I go away I tell all my close neighbors if they see any strange cars at my home to call the police. I LOVE RETIRED neighbors!

I'm thankful for good neighbors and they know when we go out of town. I didn't say that she is a bad neighbor, just very nosy. The reason these calls bother me is because I get the feeling that she is looking for something more than just showing concern for my home. She didn't call me to tell me that there was a strange car in my driveway. Why ask if I have company over?

 

[TwinsinCA]

She didn't call me to tell me that there was a strange car in my driveway. Why ask if I have company over?

To me that is asking the same question in a different way.

The pp's neighbor who texted the out of town DH is WAY over the line. But asking if the strange car in your driveway should be there or not? Not something I'd do, but I don't think I'd be offended either.

 

[RitaZ.]

To me that is asking the same question in a different way.

The pp's neighbor who texted the out of town DH is WAY over the line. But asking if the strange car in your driveway should be there or not? Not something I'd do, but I don't think I'd be offended either.

I guess you would have to know her to know where I'm coming from.

 

[tomthebarncat]

" I don't feel comfortable discussing this matter with you" and then wish her well and hang up the phone. She will get the picture and probably/hopefully find someone else to pester or something more constructive to do with her time.

 

[Disneycrazy!!]

yep...well sort of...it is a friend who I have distance myself from. She wants to KNOW everything about everybody. She will ask a million questions and really personal ones too...like what kind of birth control do I use...etc. But what really gets on my nerves is she also tells people what they are doing wrong. She wants people to do things HER way... and if you don't she lets you hear it and tells everyone else all about your business.

 

[dimimi]

You may want to be a little THANKFUL for this neighbor to give you a phone call after seeing a "strange" car in your driveway. That "strange" car could have been there unloading your home contents and later you would have wished you had a neighbor that was paying close attention to what is going on. When I go away I tell all my close neighbors if they see any strange cars at my home to call the police. I LOVE RETIRED neighbors!

WE Have always lived in a
Neighborhood that shared phone numbers with one
another. Yes she is a bit nosey but some day you may like that.

 

[tink20]

My sister's neighbor is very nosey and bored. He doesn't work. He comes over to her house all the time. He even wrote down someone's tag number once, they were dropping something off at her house, and left it on her porch, and he wrote down the tag number, and then called her at work.

My neighbors are friendly, will get our mail while on vacation, I am going to feed the lady down the streets dogs this weekend. I don't mind. One of the neighbors is a little nosey, but less now that she is working full time.