Non-Smokers Would You Date A Smoker

[sarcasticblonde]

In response to the original post, as a non-smoker, I would never date a smoker. One time in high school, I kissed a smoker. Never again. I couldn't get that taste out of my mouth for 2 days!

 

[SandraVB79]

Not a snow-balls chance in hell. There is a saying...kissing a smoker is like licking an ashtray. My DH quit right before I first met him after his father died of a heart attack. He says he still misses it sometimes (and it's been over 10 years!).

I once kissed a smoker. NEVER AGAIN, it was so gross!!!
I can't imagine waking up next t someone smelling like smoke or so.
Next to that, it costs an awful lot of money. Life is already very expensive, and there are better things to spend the money on (for the smokers: just calculate how much you spend each year on smoking. I bet you can take at least one wonderful family vacation with that money)



In regards with the cost: last year, at my previous job, one of the other employees was quite jealous about me because I was going to Disneyland Paris, staying at a deluxe hotel, ... She had one of the jobs for the unschooled people, and she made less money than I did; next to that she also had a daughter, while I still lived at my parents. She made some mean remarks about life being easy for me, that I swam in money (right, I just have to pick it from the trees!) and that it wasn't difficult for me to go to DLP staying at the deluxe hotel.
I asked her how much sigarettes she smoked. I made a quick calculation. If she stopped smoking, she could spend many weeks at the deluxe hotel at DLP!
It made her shut up.

 

[JunieJay]

Sure I would. Then again, I was dating 25 years ago, long before smokers were the lepers of society they are today.

 

[Sleepy]

I am married to a smoker and I am a non-smoker. I understand his need to smoke and he understands my need for fresh air to breathe so he does all his smoking outside and he also understands my rule of no smoking in my car if he takes it our for an errand. I dislike the smell of smoke. It has actually gotten worse(sensitivity to the odor) as the years have gone by, but I deal with it. If we share a drink, it must be done before he smokes as the smell goes to the inside of the glass. No kissing me after a cigarette either. For me, the worst is when he smokes before bed. The odor drifts into the bedroom with him. YUCK, but I deal with it.

 

[daisyduck123]

No, never.

I never dated a smoker.

....been happily married to non-smoking DH for 15 years.

 

[LoraJ]

DH was a smoker. He didn't smoke around me though. And he quit about a month after we started dating. Now he is more anti-smoking than I am.

 

[PatsGirl]

I guess it would depend on the person. The one thing no one here has mentioned that is a huge pet peeve for me is that smokers are controlled by their need. When I am out with friends for dinner or out watching the game, they have to leave the table to got outside to smoke. I am forever finding myself sitting by myself and it truly bothers me -- not that I'm sitting by myself but the rudeness of leaving me there. It's like talking on the phone (non-emergency) while I'm with someone. You can't drive long distances without stopping every hour so they can have a smoke, that sort of thing.

I was a heavy smoker for more than 25 years but quit 8 years ago last month (Thanksgiving Day). It took me about five years to dislike cigarette smoke. For the first few years I'd sit close to anyone smoking just to get the second hand nicotine

Haven't kissed a smoker for many years now and I think if he were a social smoker I'd be okay with that but not a pack-a-day person. Brings back a memory from about 10 years ago when I met an unbelievably gorgeous guy and we danced a bit and had a cocktail. When he said goodbye about an hour later he said "I'd love to see you again but only if you promise not to smoke while we are together". Well, in my over-the-top attitude, I said something rather nasty -- now I really get it though.

 

[momof2inPA]

I tried dating a smoker once, but I couldn't get over the fact that kissing him was awful. His breath was terrible. I felt like I was kissing an ashtray. Too bad, he was a nice guy.

Same here. And he brushed his teeth and didn't smoke for awhile before we kissed, but the terrible smell/taste came from his lungs. That was more than 20 years ago, and it still skeeves me out to think about it.

I don't even like to sit next to a smoker in church, let alone date one.

 

[DVC Sadie]

GF was a smoker when we got together. It was a complete non-issue to me. The smell of smoke on clothes doesn't really bother me and GF never smoked inside of any homes/buildings (except bars once in awhile) so our apartment has never smelled of smoke.

She had wanted to quit and tried to do so a few times before we met but it never lasted more than a month or two. This time she quit for good (hopefully!)--it's been 7 months now w/out a problem.

ETA: I can't say I really understand the idea of not dating someone who smokes specifically because of their potential health risks. I mean, I eat way too much junk food and have a history of heart disease in my family and a very serious risk of breast cancer which I haven't been at all pro-active in talking to a doctor about. So I can't imagine having ever considered the health risks GF's smoking might have brought on as a reason not to date her. If I did, it seems she'd have just as much reason to dump me for the health risks I take/don't work against.

What a good post and ITA!

 

[Green Tea]

100% deal breaker. I would not date a smoker.

 

[golfgal]

Nope, big turn off here.

 

[chrismom2005]

my dh was a smoker but a very considerate one he would never smoke around me he stopped smoking in his house when we started dating. he never wanted to inconvenance me by his smoking i never had to wait while he finished a cigarette. i dont think he ever smoked a whole one if we were together. he quit a year ago it took a year of him trying before it happened but it did. i didnt make him do these things, except for the smoking in his house cause i have a ds who i wouldnt bring over there if he did, he did them cause thats who he is very considerate.

on the other hand my first boyfriend was so rude to me about smoking he smoked everywhere and when i got pg had a fit cause i didnt want him to smoke around me. once again his personality.

would i date a smoker yes just not one like my first boyfriend

 

[momof2inPA]

my dh was a smoker but a very considerate one he would never smoke around me he stopped smoking in his house when we started dating. he never wanted to inconvenance me by his smoking i never had to wait while he finished a cigarette. i dont think he ever smoked a whole one if we were together. he quit a year ago it took a year of him trying before it happened but it did. i didnt make him do these things, except for the smoking in his house cause i have a ds who i wouldnt bring over there if he did, he did them cause thats who he is very considerate.

on the other hand my first boyfriend was so rude to me about smoking he smoked everywhere and when i got pg had a fit cause i didnt want him to smoke around me. once again his personality.

would i date a smoker yes just not one like my first boyfriend

Does not paying child support negatively reflect on one's personality? I bet his ex-wife doesn't think he's considerate.

 

[PatsGirl]

Oh Boy....

 

[Passions71203]

DH is a smoker, but he only smokes outside of the house.

 

[Tigger Woods]

Dating a smoker would not be a problem. Dating someone who is obese is another story ..

 

[hentob]

It's all about the hygiene. Bad breath, smelly clothes/hair, yellow teeth...SEXY!

What she said

 

[lovemygoofy]

I have always been a non smoker and I married a smoker. I knew he smoked when I started dating him. He does not somke inside the house or in the car with me around. He very seldom very smokes around me and actually now he hasn't smoked in 3 weeks. I'm so proud of him!

I also understand that some wonderful people are smokers and it's an extremely hard thing to kick. I don't think I would write somone out of my life that would treat me like a princess and love me forever with a grace not found much anymore because of something that he/she could eventually stop especially with love and encouragement.

 

[bigolive9]

personally, I would not even start to date a smoker. I hate the smell. DH doesnt smoke.

 

[FoundMyPrince]

Complete dealbreaker. The smoke gives me migraines.