Non-Disney Loving Spouse

[michelleiada]

My husband doesn't LOVE Disney like I do either. My daughters, 17 and 15, love it too and thank goodness for that. It really is awful when your hubby doesn't share the same loves. I am verry passionate about Disney and can't ever get enough of it and he tells me he is sick of hearing about it. Ugggh! Makes me so sad.

 

[TangaroaTiki]

My DH has an appreciation for Disney parks, but is nowhere near the geek I am

 

[okeydokey]

Where does he want to go on vacation? Let him pick the next vacation and then you can all go there. Marriage is a partnership.

 

[Sugar Jones]

This picture pretty much sums up my dh's opinion on Disney

In his defense he was so motion sick from the rides, the bus rides to and from the resort etc..... That afternoon he went back to the room and slept for 3 hours while the kids and i played in the pool. The next day he felt somewhat better and stayed off all rides.

We had a pharmacy of motion sickness stuff and non of it helped him

 

[RMulieri]

My spouse is the same way, I can't make him love it and i have stopped even trying to force the issue.some people just don't love it,get it and never will.I have simply learned to accept it.I found that the more I push the issue, the more I push him away

 

[Jessica14]

My husband could care less if we ever go back. He had a good time when we went in December but would rather camp in a tent in Upstate New York. No thanks! After I spent months and months working on a touring plan, to which he was fully aware, he says day tow at the POFQ, "It's a vacation. I'm not rushing to go anywhere." Among other things I said, I added, "Why don't you stay here and I'll take the kids." He changed his mind pretty quickly and ended up having fun. He especially liked all the good meals he had and thanked me for picking good resturants and keeping him full.
The way to a man's heart apparently is through his stomach!

I do plan on offering the" I'll go with the kids and you can stay home" option if he wants.
Jessica

 

[MelissathePooh]

Disney is a strange thing - even with the not so great trips and downright horrible ones - I'd still rather be at Disney than most any place else. I can TOTALLY see why some people would not just be neutral to it, but really NOT like it. We took our neighbors with us twice (we we're close friends) and while everyone had a great time on both trips - our neighbors would not blink an eye if they never went back - and don't plan on going back. They are outdoors, "authentic" experience people.

Everyone in my family is a Disney fan - never have to ask twice. Funny thing is now I wouldn't mind a solo trip to Disney I love going with my family, but can't help to think it would be nice to have some solo time at WDW too. That'll never happen

 

[fottafamily05]

After reading this whole thread I feel so fortunate and blessed that my DH is as much if not more of a Disney lover than myself! We have been going since our oldest was 3. Through all the years we have became AP holders and have made over 26 trips to the world. Our kids have the same love for Disney that we do.

I am so sorry that you must feel this way. Hopefully your DH can compromise and start to like to go to Disney just as much as you and your sons.

 

[eliza61]

I LOVE DISNEY...and our boys love Disney. I never went as a child but we started making Annual trips in 2006. I started going with my Mom and Dad and then eventually just my Mom. I took DH for the first time in 2009 for a big family vacation.

We just went back in Feb...I suckered him by dangling the Daytona 500 in there...my problem...he would be happy probably never going back to Disney. He has a good time but doesn't understand my fascination. Taking a trip without him is not an option (unless I go with my Mom) and even then I would feel guilty because we have both decided to make sacrifices to pay off debt...but if we can afford to pay cash yearly...why not go? The kids are only little once...right...I just can't make him love it...I love the Disney bubble and he just doesn't get it.

Sorry Racemom, but why do we use that as an excuse to get what we want??
I know I'm probably over reacting but that excuse just makes my skin crawl, it's like saying "I know I'm being selfish so I'm going to make it sound acceptable by throwing our kids into it".

Your kids want mom and dad, they would have a great vacation any place you take them. I know it's hard to believe but there are a lot of other places in the U.S. that thousands of kids manage to have a great vacation.

Ask dh where he would like to go, take turns picking a place and then go some where he would like.

Ask yourself, how would I feel is some one was always forcing me to go some place I didn't particularly like???

 

[eliza61]

My husband could care less if we ever go back. He had a good time when we went in December but would rather camp in a tent in Upstate New York. No thanks! After I spent months and months working on a touring plan, to which he was fully aware, he says day tow at the POFQ, "It's a vacation. I'm not rushing to go anywhere." Among other things I said, I added, "Why don't you stay here and I'll take the kids." He changed his mind pretty quickly and ended up having fun. He especially liked all the good meals he had and thanked me for picking good resturants and keeping him full.
The way to a man's heart apparently is through his stomach!

I do plan on offering the" I'll go with the kids and you can stay home" option if he wants.
Jessica

See I don't understand this, he wants to go camping, which you immediately nixed but you totally expect him to always want to go where you want? I guess it's just if I suggested some thing and my husband immediately said no, then turned around and planned a vacation I was less then thrilled about, we would definitely be discussing things like "compomise".

As much as I love disney, I love my spouse way more (not saying you don't) and if that means I have to skip a year and do some thing he really likes, than disney will have to wait.

 

[disneychic2]

I am very blessed to have a DH who loves Disney as well. It's my kids who aren't fans. They are grown now and I have some very young grandchildren who I hope to take to Disney one day, but not sure if it will happen. Meanwhile, I am loving our empty nest vacations to Disney and enjoying other trips with the four kids and their families, like camping and the beach.

Compromise is the name of the game. Good luck, OP.

 

[deuceswild10]

I say compromise. I would be so sad if I was always forced, or at least coerced, into a vacation I didn't want to take. Vacations are too special for that. I say find something you all want to do, or do an every other vacation type of thing. I think that would be the fair way to go.

 

[Racemom17]

Sorry Racemom, but why do we use that as an excuse to get what we want??
I know I'm probably over reacting but that excuse just makes my skin crawl, it's like saying "I know I'm being selfish so I'm going to make it sound acceptable by throwing our kids into it".

Your kids want mom and dad, they would have a great vacation any place you take them. I know it's hard to believe but there are a lot of other places in the U.S. that thousands of kids manage to have a great vacation.

Ask dh where he would like to go, take turns picking a place and then go some where he would like.

Ask yourself, how would I feel is some one was always forcing me to go some place I didn't particularly like???

Actually I don't think it is a selfish excuse to get what I want...first off the kids all want to go...as often as possible and secondly I see it everyday with the time I don't have as an adult to spend with my parents...that is one of the reasons I enjoy going on vacation with my Mom.

Also I am not a Disney Nazi...we will go to Disney and only Disney...I embrace EVERY adventure he wants to expose the kids to...and I am just asking for him to do the same.

There are plenty of things he likes to do that are not my favorite...not only do I do it...I do it with a smile...because why should I ruin his special thing and attitude is everything...I always have a good time...he on the other hand acts like a spoiled baby at Disney and even when I make the touring plan easy he whines because Disney just isn't his thing....I could go on 5 vacations of his choice and one Disney and it still wouldn't make a difference.

 

[mrmdisneyfl]

I envy those that have spouses that love to hear about the planning and that cannot wait to go to DISNEY!

My husband goes along, and states he goes along for our DD. When there he does everything planned and enjoys dinners throughout Dinsey. So I should be lucky he goes with the plan. My concern is, when I am on the Disboards and planning the trips, he makes reference that I need to go on Dr. Phil since I spend an hour a day on the computer. Not happy about those comments at all. I used to go 6 times a year, since we live in FL. Now I am down to 2-3 trips a year. We pay cash for the trips and it makes me and DD happy. I do not complain to him when he is glued to the coach every weekend to watch sports .

Again, I am lucky he goes with the plans I have set, but I do have a husband that does not understand it at all.

 

[Balt ravens fan]

Good luck racemom. The important thing is that you and your husband love each other and have a great marriage for those kids! If he wants to rolls his eyes when he goes to Disney, well fine, he is there, he loves you and as long as he loves you consider yourself blessed when the divorce rate in this country is 50%.

Good luck with everything and I will praying that your marriage and your family stays strong and healthy! Keep lovin that husband and your kids!

 

[eliza61]

Actually I don't think it is a selfish excuse to get what I want...first off the kids all want to go...as often as possible and secondly I see it everyday with the time I don't have as an adult to spend with my parents...that is one of the reasons I enjoy going on vacation with my Mom.

Also I am not a Disney Nazi...we will go to Disney and only Disney...I embrace EVERY adventure he wants to expose the kids to...and I am just asking for him to do the same.

There are plenty of things he likes to do that are not my favorite...not only do I do it...I do it with a smile...because why should I ruin his special thing and attitude is everything...I always have a good time...he on the other hand acts like a spoiled baby at Disney and even when I make the touring plan easy he whines because Disney just isn't his thing....I could go on 5 vacations of his choice and one Disney and it still wouldn't make a difference.

Totally agree but special times can be had at other places besides disney. If you're mom wanted to go some place else would you not go because it wasn't disney? Of course not.

Now as far as the spoiled baby thing, you didn't mention that in your first post, that was the one I was responding too.

I totally agree, every one including the actually babies have to make a effort to act properly. no whining allowed. And when it's the other partners turn to pick, yep every one has to come into it with a positive attitude.

You are totally right with that one, but as I said, I was simply responding to your original post which sounded like many "how do I force my spouse to go to disney" post we see here. I'm just not into forcing anyone to go on vacation.

 

[let'sgo]

Actually I don't think it is a selfish excuse to get what I want...first off the kids all want to go...as often as possible and secondly I see it everyday with the time I don't have as an adult to spend with my parents...that is one of the reasons I enjoy going on vacation with my Mom.

Also I am not a Disney Nazi...we will go to Disney and only Disney...I embrace EVERY adventure he wants to expose the kids to...and I am just asking for him to do the same.

There are plenty of things he likes to do that are not my favorite...not only do I do it...I do it with a smile...because why should I ruin his special thing and attitude is everything...I always have a good time...he on the other hand acts like a spoiled baby at Disney and even when I make the touring plan easy he whines because Disney just isn't his thing....I could go on 5 vacations of his choice and one Disney and it still wouldn't make a difference.

I know exactly how you feel, being in the same situation myself. DH gets to do everything he wants and I go along with it, but whenever I want something, he refuses to do it. What a bunch of spoiled rotten, self-centered males we live with.

Tell me one place that you can go that there would be more to do than at Disney. Last trip I did parasailing, bass fishing, did a wave runner tour on 7 Seas Lagoon/Bay Lake, went on a tour, took in a water park, had a wonderful time and still didn't get to do everything I'd like to. I ate at restaurants I had never been to as well. Each trip is entirely different.

So many people seem to think of Disney as an amusement park. You stay for half a day and then you have seen and done everything, so why would you want to go back? It is sooo much more than that, but then I guess that I'm preaching to the choir. LOL.

 

[larryz]

Not that this hasn't been mentioned, but cutting back on trips to every other or third year seems to help. And you can always throw a Disney cruise into one of the "off-park" years to keep up the Disney magic in your lives.

 

[larryz]

What a bunch of spoiled rotten, self-centered males we live with.

You could at least smile a little when you say that...

 

[CTH3]

I can't help but think that this thread might serve as a cautionary tale for those who are not yet married. Being passionate about WDW is not the same thing as simply having a preference for a certain amusement park or not liking asparagus or something. Being passionate about WDW says a lot about your core values, worldview, priorities, imagination, sense of humor, etc. It's a small window into your soul. Seems like the degree of WDW-love should be a useful part of the overall litmus test one uses when evaluating compatibility in a potential partner for life.