"No we are not married"

[Gillian]

pixiedust23 , I'm sorry that everyone felt a need to comment on your situation. It sounds like they were just being friendly and it's not worth getting too up set about. I would guess that they wanted to talk and just couldn't think of anything else to say.

As you get older you'll find people everywhere who will have something to say about you, your life, your family, your lack of a family, your hair, your hair color, your clothes, your car, etc. Sometimes it's friendly, sometimes it's not. But it's gonna happen.

 

[tone.def]

My BF and I have the same problem at Disney every year
I call to book the trip agent asks "Your husbands name please", he is not my husband.
Checking in Disney hotels, is this your honeymoon?
ADR party of two, your husbands name?
We have been going to WDW together for the past five years and it always happens, they put our reservations with the same last name and I have to call and correct them.
Then the quetions about kids start
Why does everyone who goes to Disney have to have kids

Can't two consenting adults go to WDW without all the questions and assumptions

I feel your pain

I will be answering all those questions again in 3 weeks

My problems exactly!!!!!!! At it's not just at Disney


Um hello out there - it's perfectly acceptable to not get married at 18 anymore. I'm 26, not an old maid and I have a career and my own retirement savings. I don't NEED to get married, I'll do it when I WANT to.

 

[tone.def]

I think that one day you will be sorry for this choice you have made. There are many, very good reasons for settling down AND living. My DW and I have not missed much in our life.

Am I sorry for my choices? NO WAY!!!

I grew up with a bunch of girls who got married very early (i'm talking 18-21) and have had children and some their husbands have already cheated on them - with younger women, some are suffering in counselling and divorces and my poor friends have watched their educations go to waste because they were busy with their children. I'm now hearing - "I wish I had done what you're doing" and "I wish I had your life".
I left the small town and went to the big city.
I'm a home-owner and a landlord.
I have a very good career and I'm on my way up.
I've travelled to Europe on my own twice because I could.
I've dated a variety of men and I know I don't have to settle for the first nice guy that comes alone.
I'm 26 and I wouldn't trade my life for anyone else's.

 

[chipmunkfan]

I'm not married either, but I get so tired of just calling my significant other my boyfriend that we just refer to each other as husband and wife. We even give each other cards referencing ''to my wife...etc...to my husband" After a while the whole boyfriend thing sounded so cheap so we upgraded ourselves to husband and wife. We've been together for 5 years and have no plans of ever getting married.

Moral: After a while you just get used to it

 

[Tink522]

I am 3 months from my wedding date (eeeek!) I've never once been asked if we're married. Although we do get,"It's so nice to see siblings who get along so well." comment all the time. It makes for very interesting looks when we tell them we're getting married without telling them we're not related!

Just look at them like they've just grown a 3rd head when you hear those comments!

 

[kellyanne731]

I get asked those types of questions all the time. When my brother and I are out, people assume we're a couple. Same thing sometimes happens when I'm out with my dad. Even when I go out with my brother and his girlfriend (dad, brother and I are black, his GF is asian), people assume my brother and I are "together".

The best was when dad, my fiance (who's about as white as you can get), and I were in Disney last year. People had no idea what to make of us!

It was actually pretty funny watching people's faces trying to figure out our family dynamic.

 

[ilovefh]

I'm going in a few weeks with my best friend and I am sure we'll get those comments! Heck..we get those comments now, even from our friends who think we are just confused and that is why we are not together! We just kind of take it in stride! We understand why people think we're together, we have a great relationship, end a lot of time together and even spend holidays with eachother's families. It's not so bad, except it's hurting my dating scene!

 

[PIRATEGIRL007]

We've only had that issue at WDW once, but at a semi-local tourist town we have had that issue several times. Of course since it is one of the best honeymoon locations in the US what do we expect? On our very first trip DFi and I were asked about 25 times in 2 days if we were married. It is an attempt at soliciting for timeshares and after answering no so many times, he finally said yes i am, but not to her. We were not asked the rest of our trip. I guess the word traveled fast.

 

[iggbees]

hey it's okay. i was standing in line at pirates in dl with my boyfriend and my family and we started chatting to the really nice lady in front of us. she asked us if we were married, we said no. then she asked us if we were on a date. we said no. we had to eventually tell her that we were on a family vacation in california and that we were from nj. i never realized i looked like i was from california. i look like i've not spent a day in the sun for a year i'm so pale.

i really think there are a lot of young married couples that go though. at least it sure seemed that way from our trip.

 

[#1_Donald_Duck_Fan]

me and my GF are in the same boat it gets annoying trying to explain it over and over

 

[Sarahkath]

yea my bf and I got the same thing last year, only I am 18 and he's 20! At the MK we were asked if we just got married and I replied, no we're on spring break! and on his ticket they printed my last name!

 

[miste76]

Wow, I never realized that this would happen. I always go to WDW with my family - mother, step-father, brother (12 yrs younger) and sister (14 yrs younger). My DBF and I are going in November and I never even considered this... although, I have to be honest - I don't think it will bother me too much.

Thanks for the heads-up though!!!

 

[jenelope]

I think I've got you beat. A CM recently assumed that I was married to a guy I had just met the day before. I went to WDW as a group of fourteen people, mostly couples, and aside from one couple, I met everyone for the first time on Saturday morning. We split off into smaller groups rather often and I found myself at MNSSHP on Sunday night with two couples, and one guy who was also travelling solo. When we stopped for our free photo, we did a group photo, then the couples got a picture, then I got my photo alone. The CM had been joking around with us and said, "No, you can't do this alone. Where's hubby?" I just stared at her and said, "Uh, hubby is nonexistant. I'm rather happy about that, actually." She was very apologetic, but it was pretty awkward. I kind of brushed it aside, because it was an honest mistake, but I did tend to avoid being inadvertantly coupled up for the rest of the trip.

After reading some of these posts, I've come to the conclusion that I can never tour WDW with my brother. Ish!

 

[florida-again]

As we stepped of the DCL, a bus boy said to me and BF 'ooh, honeymooners'

I was delighted but I think BF wanted to run out of the port and all the way back to London!

 

[Disney Dee]

I can relate on another note. Since I am the trip planner, and not my fiance (been engaged for 4 yrs, maybe we will get around to getting married someday )I always book our room for our trips in my name I am divorced so still have my ex's last name. Nothing irks my fiance more then when they call him Mr Disney Dee He just hates to be called by my ex's last name I guess i understand, and he always mumbles why do people assume we have the same last name this day and age? I tell him to relax, after all, when we get married I will have the same last name as his ex

 

[nightshaderose]

goodness, I guess I'm going to be in for a lot of "newlywed" type comments on my next trip. The gentleman who will be accompanying me this time, while a lot of things (roommate and best friend in the world, among others), is not only NOT my husband, he's quite gay. Because we're so close, I can see how people might think we're dating/newlyweds (If they're not paying enough attention to see us pointing out other "scenic" men to each other). It might be interesting, though to hear him called "Mr. (my last name)", since I'm making all the plans, instead of it always being me getting called "Mrs. (his last name)"

Eliz

 

[Downrivermama]

I am still amazed by what total strangers say to other people on a chance encounter! Is it really anyones business? Some have gotten way too personal.

I have a good friend who in our younger days would do a lot together and we use to get the "are you 2 married" question. One time he lost it and went off on the person! But it still happened every once and awhile.

 

[twojo21]

disney is a big honeymoon destination, theyre just trying to be nice, note if its a special occasion, etc. i wouldnt take it offensively.

 

[robsmom]

I'm not married either, but I get so tired of just calling my significant other my boyfriend that we just refer to each other as husband and wife. We even give each other cards referencing ''to my wife...etc...to my husband" After a while the whole boyfriend thing sounded so cheap so we upgraded ourselves to husband and wife. We've been together for 5 years and have no plans of ever getting married.

Moral: After a while you just get used to it

Hi, not being judgemental (I am pretty liberal) but I don't understand this. If you are comfortable calling each other dh/dw why are you so adament about never getting married. Soundsl to me like you would like it!!

 

[BankBunny]

I'm not really sure what the big deal is either. People are just trying to be polite and make small talk. At least you appear to be that much in love that people think you're married. On a personal note...DH and I have been amrried for 6 years and have no children. We started trying 2 years ago and a couple of issues have come up. One has been corrected and one cannot be. So, we may never have children. If I got offened or upset every time someone asked about us and children I would never be happy. I just tell them that we're working on it or someday we'll have children. People don't mean any harm when they ask these questions or make these comments. They don't know what the circumstamces are and are just trying to be friendly.