No Time Alone... Vent... Sorry

[makinorlando]

I have never just posted to vent before, but today is just one of those days that I want to be alone... all alone- lie in the bed, read a book, watch a movie, order take out... do nothing at all - ALONE, but.... sadly I can't.

DD8 is here, and bugging me to go do something - GOSH -we were at Disney three times this week, and a movie on top of that -

I just don't want to be out and about today, I want to hibernate.

Even the dogs are getting on my nerves.... they are hyper and anxious today too!

I love my DD dearly, I am a single mom, she does not ever see her dad, and I don't have any family here, so I don't have anywhere to "ship" her for a night - her friends families aren't into sleepovers yet..... so alas, my frustration builds.

It amazes me she has a boat load of toys, and electronic gadgets, but if I ask for one day of not being their entertainment, she tells me I am the worst mom in the world (did I mention we were at MK three times this week, and plan on going to MGM tomorrow????

Thankfully some friends are finally outside playing, but I am sure this will not last long! Yep - here she comes.....

Thanks for "listenting".... I just had to get it out!

 

[Christine]

Hey, I feel your pain.

I always attribute it to the fact that I am an only child and I grew up in a pretty quiet household. Now, I am married, with two children, and two dogs and I feel I never get a moment of quiet time, where I am alone.

The TV is always blaring, my husband and my kids, I swear must be deaf because they are always screaming, and someone always wants something to eat. Most days I handle it okay, but other days, I feel exhausted by it all.

Last weekend, my DH and my son went away for the weekend skiing. My DD (14) who is getting her own social life now was out a lot with her friends. It was pure heaven and blissful. You know, I almost felt like a new person and I saw a glimmer of my old self.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way and apparently there is no relief for you. It's tough.

As far as the kid thing--it's funny but the more we seem to give and do with our children, the less apt they are to quiety entertain themselves.

 

[mommyintn]

It's tough being a mom sometimes. Maybe suggest a video you can watch together and just lay in bed and watch it with some popcorn.

 

[L107ANGEL]

Can you curl up and watch a movie together?

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

Call me a horrible mother, but I'd tell her that she needed to occupy herself for awhile with some coloring books, books, videos, or something.

You're the mom, you make the decisions. She's the child, and from her "you're the worst mom" comment, when she doesn't get her way, it sounds like she's trying to manipulate you.

You deserve time for yourself too. Especially since you have nobody else to rely on. A burned-out mom, isn't going to be a good mom.

Trust me, I understand. I have two daughters and a seven-year old step-daughter. I was a single mom for awhile too, with no help from the father.

 

[HERSEY]

Being a single mom is not easy. I have the opposite problem Ds just wants to stay home most of the time. Can you enroll her in a park district program maybe then you can have at least an hour by yourself.

 

[btass]

I'm right there with you! We (DS7 & I) did the Intrepid, Ice Skating, Movies, Beach and Parks and other stuff this week and If I could run away right now I would! Hang in, school starts again soon!

 

[Nana Annie]

I can relate. Here is what I used to do. It is the movie thing, but with a twist.

Went to blockbuster and got a couple of movies. Stopped at Bed and Bath (next to Blockbuster) and picked up some bubble bath. Stopped at grocery store for horrible junk magazines and horrible junk food for kid.

Went home and put kid in master bedroom with movies and all the junk food. (This is a treat day for both mom and kid). Shut and locked master bedroom door. Told child that unless emergency - no interrupting mom in bathroom. Went to master bathroom (left door cracked just a bit to keep an ear out for kid - remember, bedroom door is shut and locked). Drew nice hot, steamy bath with purchased bubble bath, lit some candles, got National Enquirer, entered bath and ahhhh, relaxation. You have about an hour of sheer bliss before the movie or food runs out. Or the water turns cold.

Absolutely no guilt in wanting some "me" time. You deserve it, especially after taking DD to WDW three times last week!

 

[makinorlando]

I'm right there with you! We (DS7 & I) did the Intrepid, Ice Skating, Movies, Beach and Parks and other stuff this week and If I could run away right now I would! Hang in, school starts again soon!

Thanks everyone! You all are the best. I know no one can solve my problem, but just to know that someone listened helps!

Schools were not on break this week - I have that to look forward to Mar 10-19, just on Monday, and I worked all week (except a couple hours Mon & Wed). My office is in my home, so that is a plus, and I am home alone while she is in school, but I am working during those hours!!

DD has learned what buttons to push, and is relentless. It is so hard not to "flip" sometimes when she will just not let up! I walk away, but I can't walk far enough!!

We went to MK on Monday afternoon /evening, and Wednesday for my birthday dinner, and Ohana's last Sat for breakfast.

Well, I orderd a pizza (at her request), and she is outside right now. I'm hoping when she does come back in we can find a movie to watch together!

Okay - I need to get out of this pity party mood, and get something accomplished until the pizza comes! Thankfully again - she is back outside!

 

[Disney Doll]

When I was a kid and used to whine to my mother about "what to do" she came up with a list that consisted of:
Wash the car
Clean your room
Vacuum the house
Clean the kitchen
Dust
Clean the bathroom
Go outside and do yard work

Amazingly enough, I was always able to find something to do myself once I heard her list!!!!

 

[makinorlando]

I try that one too... read a book, do your homework, walk the dog, clean your room.....

Thankfully she is outside playing and the dogs are sleeping. I can sit and Dis and watch mindless cleaning and organizing shows...

A little bit of heaven!

(Don't get me started on the annoying Tana (from The Apprentice) Bedazzler commericals and some of these channels.... Hi I'm Tana from National TV (she must not have been able to use The Apprentice).... remember when I looked all over NY for one bedazzler...... when I was a single Mom, I made $10K with my bedazzler, in just 2 weeks. I'm still known as the Bedazzler Queen...;.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

When I was a kid and used to whine to my mother about "what to do" she came up with a list that consisted of:
Wash the car
Clean your room
Vacuum the house
Clean the kitchen
Dust
Clean the bathroom
Go outside and do yard work

Amazingly enough, I was always able to find something to do myself once I heard her list!!!!

Ha! Sounds like something I'd do!

If my kids slam a door in a fit of anger, I've been known to make them open and shut it properly 50 times in a row. That's my parenting style. It's not mean, but they get the point. Sounds like your mom was on the same page!

(BTW - by about number ten, my girls were usually laughing so hard they could hardly finish the punishment)

 

[va32h]

"Relentless" is a word I have used a time or two! I have three kids - and when dh is deployed, I sometimes feel like I am just going to go nuts. I can't even go to the bathroom without someone pounding on the door and "needing" something.

It gets to the point where you just don't want to hear the word "Mom". I actually said to them at one point "Could you just not need me for five minutes, please?"

My solution was just to make everyone go to bed at 7:30 or 8, so I could at least have the evening to myself.

Now that my oldest is 10, she is very helpful, and will play with her siblings, or help me with lunches, etc. Hang in there!