No sex please - we're daddy's little girls

[shortbun]

I agree... very creepy.

Creepy and sets their daughters up for a VERY weird life as a grownup. Wonder what the mothers and sons do as an abstinence ritual?

 

[Allison]

I find this really creepy.

 

[declansdad]

To each their own I guess.

A couple of things did struke me as I was reading the article. First, what 9 year old girl will understand what they are doing/or even resist their parents on such a thing. Second, how many of these vows will end up broken.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Really do you think someone made this up to scam money out of these people???
Seriously?

They are being conned...

 

[disneynutt1225]

What a strange practice. I hate to think what will happen to one of these pledge girls if they wind up pregnant before marriage.

 

[Pam]

That is the creepiest thing I've read ever. Ick, ick, ick.

Reminds me of that creepy father of Jessica Simpson. Way way too involved in his adult daughter's sex life (or lack thereof), imo.

I guess that if the sons want go out and get laid, it's okay? "Atta boy, Son, go on out there and nail a whole bunch of chicks and make Daddy proud because I have to keep pure thoughts and behavior until I get your virgin sisters married off!!"

Growing up, I knew several girls who went to Church where the views on virginity and marriage were just drilled into you. The result? The girls would get married at age 16 while they were still in high school. (The old adage, "Better to marry than to burn...." ) Of course they usually got pregnant right on their honeymoon.

I believe most of them divorced 10 or 15 years later. They had left the Church by then -- good thing, because the Church had a fanatical believe about not getting divorced.

 

[I'mNoPrince]

Well as a father of a 13 DD I have to say I like the concept. Bribe them with Diamonds and a party. Do they get this each year like a birthday party or is it a one time deal.

However I would never ask DD to do something that was from the onset set up to fail. If she chooses that route then yes I will support her in everyway .

I'm from the try on the shoes before you purchase side.I hope she waits until she finds and understands what love really is.

This is just really creepy .

And YES a wedding planner must have had an off few months and needed to fill some halls.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

I too find this creepy.

I also wonder what about sons and mothers--do they also have such promises and why should fathers and daughters only be involved?

Are they focusing too much on abstinence-- are they also teaching about STDs and other dangers? Most importantly are they setting these girls up for failure? What if the girl isn't able to keep her promise --is she shunned for life?

I agree that it shouldn't take a big ceremony like this to have a bonding session or to put these girls on display and set them up for failure-- too much pressure. I won't even go there on the pressure for the dad's -- they should just be able to do the right thing w/o having to announce promises either.

 

[bicker]

Second, how many of these vows will end up broken.

I remember reading studies that unwanted teenage pregnancy is more prevalent among young women who pledge to remain celibate than among those provided sex education. FWIW.

 

[Free4Life11]

If it prevents any more unwanted pregnancies that get pawned off on taxpayers I'm all for it. Somehow I've made it nearly 22 years without being anyone's baby's daddy.

Seriously though, if someone think's sex before marriage if wrong I have no problem with it. But this "ball" seems really creepy.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

It is a recipe for failure, plain and simple.

 

[RitaZ.]

There is something ewww about the whole thing. If remaining a virgin is what a young lady has chosen for herself, then no vow is necessary. Why all the pomp and circumstance around something that should be a private and personal decision?

I think it's extremely important for little girls to have a healthy relationship with their dads as they're growing up. I really believe that if girls have a positive role model in their father, they will grow up to be confident young women who'll make smart choices when it comes to choosing a boyfriend and husband. If dad doesn't value and respect women, then that's what he is teaching his daughter to expect from other men.

Forget the "ball", just work on the foundation. This ball/vow ceremony sounds like it's all about keeping up appearances.

 

[Chuck S]

Not only is the Purity Ball creepy, think of the photos that wind up framed in living rooms of them reciting their vows and and "Daddy" giving the rings...sort of like a wedding photo. Ewwwww. Ewwwww. Ewwwww.

 

[monsterkitty]

Creepy!

Just how many 9-year-old girls really know what sex is? They may think they know what it is, but do they really?

 

[Saffron]

Ewwwwwww Chuck!

A lot of nine year old girls would think having a fake wedding type ceremony with their dad would be fun and or funny! Then maybe a tea party afterwards! What little girl doesn't like being the center of attention for the day!? I know I would have thought that was a blast! On the other hand, if I had any concept of what "virginity" meant at the age of nine, I would sooner hide under the sofa for the day then have my father involved in anything that had anything to do with my virginity, let alone celebrate it with a ceremony that ties me with my father until I was married.

Maybe I understand why some little girls are doing this, but the men?!?!

 

[Ilovefozzie]

EEEWWW Ok that said, there is something very troubling about the whole thing.

We have a son who is 11 and a daughter 6. The son has gotten the "talk" the daughter's will take place about the same time. 4th grade here is the start of the "talk" in school. Mainly hygiene, but still. I can't imagine "forcing" my kids to be pure. Do I hope and pray daily that they will wait? AB-SO-LUTELY!!! But, they need to know about the birds and the bees and how to be careful and safe too.

I have a feeling that those conversations don't happen because these girls are supposed to be pure before their wedding night.

Very scary!!!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Not only is the Purity Ball creepy, think of the photos that wind up framed in living rooms of them reciting their vows and and "Daddy" giving the rings...sort of like a wedding photo. Ewwwww. Ewwwww. Ewwwww.

It is wrong on so many levels.

 

[eclectics]

Maybe I understand why some little girls are doing this, but the men?!?!

Probably for the thrill of "control". Showing his family and friends he is the boss? Maybe putting the symbolic chastity belt on his daughter in front of all his friends makes him the big cheese for the day? Who knows...and who cares. The whole thing is medieval and creepy.

 

[chobie]

Probably for the thrill of "control". Showing his family and friends he is the boss? Maybe putting the symbolic chastity belt on his daughter in front of all his friends makes him the big cheese for the day? Who knows...and who cares. The whole thing is medieval and creepy.

ITA. Sick and wrong, the whole thing.

 

[Kath2003]

How many girls at 9 know what it is to be sexually attracted to another person?

Creepy, creepy, creepy. My father stayed out of my sex life and that's the way it should be! My mother told me she'd prefer it if I waited until I was married but if I didn't I should have sex safely - and that meant not only protection from pregnancy but protection from sexually transmitted diseases too.

I wonder why there's not yet a "I'd prefer you to wait but if you're going to have sex please take responsibility for your actions" ceremony - or would Daddy not want to be in on that?