No one really rsvp'd! How much should I buy for?

[Lisa loves Pooh]

In my very sad experience--I'm the person that if folks don't RSVP, they are not coming. So I don't know what to tell you.

I hope more people come!

 

[aprilgail2]

I hate when people don't RSVP- it is SO rude to not simply pick up the phone and say yes we are coming or sorry we can't come-- I have always lucked out being I was the treasurer for the PTA so I had all the class lists and phone numbers so I could just pick up the phone and call the rude ones that did not respond and say "hey are you guys coming." My daughter had good classes though and usually all the kids other than 2 or 3 that were invited always came to all the parties.

 

[krcit]

How annoying!

Do you have phone #'s of any of the parents?

I saw a great tip on here about a week ago. Next year don't fill in where the party is, put Will be announced when you RSVP. I'm going to make sure my sister knows about this for my niece's birthday. Makes things so much easier.

IF you have left over pizza, you could freeze it and re-heat later.

I don't know whay but that idea just rubs me the wrong way. I would annoyed if I got an invite like that.

 

[KNJWDW]

Not replying is so rude. This just happened to us a couple weeks ago. It was my son's 7th birthday party. We invited 19 and heard from 13 people. Of the 6 that didn't reply, 4 showed up and one even brought his little brother! (Besides showing up without RSVPing, bringing the sibling really irritated me the most!) Luckily, I had made extra goodie bags and had enough of those.

I hope your party turns out well!

 

[MSSANDRA]

Rude, Yep..Reality...yep....And we often have had people that do not RSVP show up..I would have at least enough for everyone that you do not know is NOT coming to have at least one slice. Better too much than not enough.

 

[Kay1]

It must be hard to live in an area where there's no pizza delivery. Once, I invited every child in my son's class and few RSVP'd, but every single one showed up.

I learned to start the party with games, then do a head count, then call Pizza Hut.

 

[luckyfin]

So I'm curious, OP, did a lot of people end up showing up who hadn't RSVP'd?

 

[DawnM]

What happened? I hope people came.

Dawn

 

[kacaju]

First off please let me agree that yes it is very rude not to RSVP.

Saying that, I will be honest... I am sure over the years I have forgotten to RSVP to a few parties. I am not a fan at all of *whole class* parties. My daughter gets an invite to your sons party....and I have no idea who your son is, and I ask her who is Danny and she says some kid in my class. Yeah, I may forget to call you.

Sorry, with 3 kids and a very full schedule... I may look at the invite, put it aside and forget all about it.

Now little Susie...who is my daughters *best friend* now that party I will remember because my dd will be super excited to attend her *best friends* party.

Is it right...no, but I am just being honest. My kids true friends they go to those parties... I will not have my kids go to every single party they are invited too just because they are in the same class.

If you do not include where the party is..or leave off information on the invite..that is just as rude and I would probably throw that in the trash. I have no time for wild goose chases to figure out where your kids party is.

Thankfully at 17, 15 and 11 we are way past the party stuff, but when we did have parties, I always only invited a few close friends and never, ever had any of these issues.

 

[albertamommyof4]

u did invite them so u make sure you have enough incase they show up. I know that it isn't the right thing to do by not rsvping but sometimes parents do forget and u would feel really bad if they all showed up and there was nothing for them to eat or goody bags excetra.
I always make sure i bring the items just incase
I sure hope it was a great party

 

[LilyWDW]

I don't know whay but that idea just rubs me the wrong way. I would annoyed if I got an invite like that.

Well, until people start actually RSVPing... I can understand doing it that way. I mean, you are supposed to call one way or another so you would be making the call anyways.

RSVP means call whether the answer is yes or no, unless it specifically states one way or another.

 

[MinnieForMe]

Hi:
I would guess that they are not coming and not go crazy ordering more food. What a shame!

We only invite kids if we know the parents. It almost always results in a response. I've also found that adding my email address to the RSVP allows people to say "no" without feeling badly about telling you on the phone.

I hope your daughter has a fantastic birthday. I always tell my kids it's not the quantity of friends but the quality of friends you have!

 

[java]

Can we play guess how many actually do show. I see you said expecting 8 kids. But I'll base it off the 3 relatives and 2 yes so with those 5 I am guessing you'll have 4 actually show.

 

[Shanna-like-Banana]

i sssoooo know what you mean

It's very frustrating, we went to a party today infact, where I ran into the dad at the store a few hours before the party, he said they only got 5 RSVP's out of nearly 40 kids, 1 was the birthday girl and 2 were my own kids, about 12 kids showed up.

Personally, what I do, is put a lil RSVP card inside the invite. It's super simple with preschool ages. Parents get the invite from the ped-board outside the class, open card, check yes or no, put the return card under my child name on the pegboard, done.

It was very cute for DS5's party, it was pirate theme, so the RSVP cards said something like :
_____ Yeah's me climbing aboard with me's crew of #______ mates
_____ Na's me's walkin' the plank

They just checked yes or no and how many people were coming.

 

[dntd]

We had a good time but only 4 kids from school showed up, with a few family and friends it brought the number to 13. We did order too much, the adults got to eat and we had left overs for dinner. The candy buffet was a blast but as there were not as many kids as planned all the kids walked away with huge overloaded bags in which I told them to share with siblings/friends. She had the best time!

 

[Declan2]

Glad the party turned out well. I am so surprised that people do not call to let people know. When someone says they are so busy and sometimes throw them in the trash it made me think about this boy in my daughter's class. He has Down Syndrome and a variety of other health issues as well. We invited him to our party last year and the mother told me it was his first party invite in years. I cried. He was so excited that someone asked him to come. Just a reminder that even though he was on tthe receiving end that a party to some kids can be important.

 

[java]

We had a good time but only 4 kids from school showed up, with a few family and friends it brought the number to 13. We did order too much, the adults got to eat and we had left overs for dinner. The candy buffet was a blast but as there were not as many kids as planned all the kids walked away with huge overloaded bags in which I told them to share with siblings/friends. She had the best time!

Glad it went so well!

 

[Lees3rwe]

That is frustrating.

I remember those days... I am so glad that we have outgrown the big party stage... now he just wants a couple of buddies to come over and have pizza, cake and ice cream and watch movies and play video games.

That is much easier!

Glad your day turned out ok.

 

[MrsPete]

I saw a great tip on here about a week ago. Next year don't fill in where the party is, put Will be announced when you RSVP. I'm going to make sure my sister knows about this for my niece's birthday. Makes things so much easier.

This is a GREAT tip. When my kids were in the "birthday party years", I used it myself. On the invitations, give them the date and maybe the time, but DON'T give the location.

It WORKS.

 

[krcit]

Well, until people start actually RSVPing... I can understand doing it that way. I mean, you are supposed to call one way or another so you would be making the call anyways.

RSVP means call whether the answer is yes or no, unless it specifically states one way or another.

I always RSVP. If I recieved an invite like that, I would RSVP "no". I have 3 kids with full schedules and I need to know where a party is before I say yes or no. For example, last month my son was invited to a party on a Friday evening at a party place that is about 40 minutes away. Between my husbands work schedule and my dd's softball games, I couldn't manage to get to a party that far away so we had to decline. If I don't know where aparty is until I call to RSVP then we will decline.