No Alcohol at a Wedding?

[disykat]

Oh, pardon my mistake. I thought "poor taste" and "sheesh" were judgemental. I can't find words in my own post that were more judgemental than that. I simply sort of assumed it was a joke and asked how the guests should be notified. I am surprised by your answer to my question though. "You are invited to a dry wedding?" I guess since I've been to so few weddings with alcohol, they should put "wet wedding" on the invitation to notify me so I won't be surprised?

I have never heard of informing guests whether or not alcohol will be served at ANY occasion unless it was a "keg party" or a "wine tasting," etc.

I'm still having a really hard time grasping that people think alcohol is essential at a wedding. I think the only thing essential at a wedding is two people taking wedding vows.

 

[stevenpensacola]

We did not have alcohol at our wedding (if you grow up Southern Baptist that's just the law).

I've seen/heard of too many instances of what should be one of the most sacred times of your life being ruined due to someone getting stupid drunk.

I've never understood the mentality that having a "good time" means that alcohol must be involved.

I'm amazed when I hear coworkers talking about what a good time they had getting drunk...I just don't get it...and these are grown professionals...who are talking like they're back in high school.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

...I never said that I (or anyone ELSE, for that matter) NEEDED alcohol at a wedding, birthday, shower, barmitzvah, or any OTHER social gathering. Whenever I go out, I usually have MAYBE a glass of white wine, which I nurse throughout the evening. Wow, why are you people SO JUDGEMENTAL about my opinion because it isn't necessarily in agreement with YOURS????

Because your post sound like you were angry that you couldn't have alcohol at someone else's wedding.

Anger at that would denote to me that you must have alcohol at every wedding you attend. You also sound angry that you weren't told as to why there was no alcohol and question why they didn't tell you. Imo, that's none of your business.

Even this post of yours seems really angry.

Maybe if you had worded your OP a little differently, the responses to it would have been different.

 

[Kickapoo Joie Juice]

...I never said that I (or anyone ELSE, for that matter) NEEDED alcohol at a wedding, birthday, shower, barmitzvah, or any OTHER social gathering. Whenever I go out, I usually have MAYBE a glass of white wine, which I nurse throughout the evening. Wow, why are you people SO JUDGEMENTAL about my opinion because it isn't necessarily in agreement with YOURS????

Honey, with thirty six THOUSAND posts, are you really surprised you're getting hammered for your statement?

I mean, it's the disboards. You put it out there, somebody's gonna shoot it down...no harm, no foul.

 

[Inigo]

I didn't have alcohol at my wedding at all, and I've been told it was a very nice wedding. (I didn't have but one child there, but that's another thread!)

My maternal grandfather died when I was 1 1/2. I was the favorite grandchild of my maternal grandmother, and the youngest of her 36 grandchildren. (My oldest cousin is 42 years older than I am, BTW.) Mamaw died when I was 14, halfway through my freshman year in high school. (34 of the other grandkids would tell you I was the favorite. The remaining cousin thinks he was the favorite, but he's wrong. )

When DH and I got married, we made the decision to get married in her church. She had gone to that church her whole life. Way back in the 30's, my Papaw was one of the elders in charge of raising the money to build the current church building.

Having my wedding there was my way of having her with me on my wedding day. We had the reception in the church hall next door. It was a Baptist Church, so no alcohol. To me, not having alcohol was less important than getting married in that specific place.

 

[C.Ann]

Wow! This thread is still going?

Have we come to any definitive conclusions yet?

 

[ntsammy5]

Have we come to any definitive conclusions yet?

 

[Planogirl]

Wow! This thread is still going?

Have we come to any definitive conclusions yet?

Just that we should all skip the wedding and go to the bar.

 

[C.Ann]

Just that we should all skip the wedding and go to the bar.

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Please clarify: Cash Bar or Open Bar?

Thanks!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

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Please clarify: Cash Bar or Open Bar?

Thanks!

Open bar but you have to give a large cash gift.

 

[C.Ann]

Open bar but you have to give a large cash gift.

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Got it!

 

[TiggerTails57]

Help.......just how much $$cash$$ should I give?

 

[disykat]

Wow! This thread is still going?

Have we come to any definitive conclusions yet?

Sure, absolutely! Though there may be some disagreement about what those conclusions are.

 

[Stacerita]

Open bar but you have to give a large cash gift.

Would the amount that I give be determined by how much I plan to drink?

 

[Philagoofy]

What will I do with my kids while we are at the bar? Will there be an adjacent kiddie bar where they can hang out?

 

[Carys]

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Got it!

We need someone to write a cliff notes post complete with one line conclusion to finish off every thread over 10 pages!

 

[ICF]

Will there be an adjacent kiddie bar where they can hang out?

yes they will serve Shirley Temple's, Capri Suns and Sprite....but we're not sure if kids should have to bring their allowance money or not to pay for it!

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

What will I do with my kids while we are at the bar? Will there be an adjacent kiddie bar where they can hang out?

Didn't you know children aren't allowed at weddings. Never heard of that either. There was nothing cuter than my little cousin and some of the other children playing in the reception hall.

yes they will serve Shirley Temple's, Capri Suns and Sprite....but we're not sure if kids should have to bring their allowance money or not to pay for it!

Maybe they could pay with play money

Suzanne

 

[minkydog]

Gasp! We had our reception in the church fellowship hall(think: butter mints and finger sandwiches, with punch and cake.) We forgot to order the alcohol! and we had children at our wedding! Eek! What kind of social misfits are we?

 

[fussymonkey]

Our reception was alcahol-free (but not dry, we had a great time). My family is all very evangelical, and even though I drink a little on occasion, it would have hurt my mom so much if we'd had a bar, that I didn't even consider it. It would totally not have been worth it to me to upset her, especially since DH and I are not really drinkers.

We did go against the grain and were the first in my family to have a DJ and dance floor though. My mom really protested that, but eventually gave got over it. Wouldn't you know, she was out there boogying with my family, dancing with all the kids and cousins. It was so much fun!