New Year's Eve 2008 12/27/08 SEE POST#1 FOR LIST

[CustardTart]

...Life is short, suck out the marrow and live and enjoy....I have grown into a person that knows life is fleating. Family is everything. There is not much sense dwelling on our losses but more important to savor the good stuff...

So very, very true! When I was younger, I lived life at 110 mph - never paused to smell the roses and appreciate what we had. It took my Mother's death from cancer at the age of 50 to really stop me in my tracks and make me understand that I/we have to live every day...

Hi guys
Here is my 2 cents on babies. I was fortunate to have two beautiful daughters. However, if that hadn't been possible I would have adopted. I am adopted. When my mom told me about it - I will remember my thoughts until the day I die - I might not have it as good as I have it.

We would love to adopt. Sadly it's not straightforward in the UK and we've been dissuaded by our social services - which is sad...

 

[nskjerven]

I do believe that everything happens for a reason as well.. I just would like to know the reason up front.. therefore.. it dont seem so bad when you are going through it.

That said.. I hear about people that have kids and dont know how to care for them.. or just plain shouldnt have been allowed to breed (child abusers and such).. then there is Brian and I.. I know we have a nice loving home to provide.. and a great life to offer (of course filled w/all things Disney)..

I still have hope that for our NYE 2008 cruise I have a baby to bring w/us...


Hopefully, some of grim's luck rubs off on us.. and we can bring home a souvie from Disney World in Jan... as that is when we can probably try again.

Has your daughter figured out she was a Bridal Shower gift?? lol.. I remember the day I figured out that I was around prior to the wedding.. HA.. it was kind of funny.. we had just learned that it takes 9 mths to have a baby (I think this was 5th grade) and so I knew that I was born before their first anniversary.. so I tried to figure out if i was a honeymoon baby.. and kept coming to that I would had to have been a premie.. So I finally asked.. lol.. Not sure when or IF my mom was ever expecting that question. She was very good about answering it though.

Forgot to answer your question. I decided early on to tell Molly that she came to the wedding in my tummy. I bet by now she has put and made 3, but we haven't had the talk of the actual date of events yet.

What did you mom say that made it ok for you?

 

[trinibjill]

Nan, no I do not know my birth parents. All my mom knew was they weren't married & dad was a sailor.. My birth certificate was made to look like my adoptive parents were mine. pictures that are available - I am walking. The birth certificate is dated about two years after I was born. I have never attempted to look into it.
Look at it this way. I do not know what diseases they may have had. Therefore, I'm not going to say "oh, that runs in the family". If I don't know what it is that way I won't look forward to getting it.
the people that raised me wanted me.

 

[nskjerven]

So very, very true! When I was younger, I lived life at 110 mph - never paused to smell the roses and appreciate what we had. It took my Mother's death from cancer at the age of 50 to really stop me in my tracks and make me understand that I/we have to live every day...



We would love to adopt. Sadly it's not straightforward in the UK and we've been dissuaded by our social services - which is sad...

Karen:

Would you adopt now? Even with your kids being grown? I look at the idea of Paul and I having kids in college and retirement in the same breath and think oh it might have been nice to be a young mom.

 

[nskjerven]

Nan, no I do not know my birth parents. All my mom knew was they weren't married & dad was a sailor.. My birth certificate was made to look like my adoptive parents were mine. pictures that are available - I am walking. The birth certificate is dated about two years after I was born. I have never attempted to look into it.
Look at it this way. I do not know what diseases they may have had. Therefore, I'm not going to say "oh, that runs in the family". If I don't know what it is that way I won't look forward to getting it.
the people that raised me wanted me.

Jill,

I think that is a nice way to see it. If I was in your shoes I think I would feel the same way. What ya don't know can't worry yourself over.

I'm so glad we didn't know that mom had breast cancer before the China trip. I bet we wouldn't have taken it. Not on the same level as what you are talking about but similar perscpectives.

What's new with you these days? Any skating comps coming up?

 

[trinibjill]

Nan, it is said "Ignorance is bliss" In that respect it is true.

What is new? I have a new car. A 2008 Pontiac G6 Hard top Convertible. Metallic red (more like a burgundy). A lot of bells & whistles that are standard equip. Love it.

I truly believe I will do well in competition this year. I practice 4 days a week. There are some contests going on now. I prefer not to participate until the beginning of the new year.

I have a new bid at work & have sunday & monday off.

These last few weeks I have been cleaning my house top to bottom & preparing the windows & doors for old man winter. Washing the curtains cleaning the woodwork with clorox w/bleach. Re-arranging furniture or just moving it out & cleaning behind it. It's amazing how many things the cat puts under the furniture. I'm trying to get it done so that when Colleen has her scrapbooking party she won't break out in hives & the dust will be settled by then.

My family - everyone seems healthy & happy.

Other than that I lead a quiet life. Prison Guard, competitive skater & tv watcher. Oh, & dis board lurker.

 

[tiggerwannabe]

I had asked John when we were younger if he would adopt and he had said no way...he's totally turned around backwards on me on that one and would adopt in a heartbeat if asked...I would still prefer a puppy.

 

[nskjerven]

Wilson and I have been feeling crappy today and we're just back from the doc.

good news bad news....

good news...no strep throat

bad news....no strep throat (so just feeling crappy and have to fight it with home remedies )

Wilson does have a sinus infection so good old zithromax for him....

Tigg, I can't think that you'd want a rug rat at this point either. Freedom the kids are grown!!!

 

[tiggerwannabe]

Kelly...I have seen a few couples go thru the "we can't get pregnant" bug. Of five I can name, four have had children. One has had two. It happens, sometimes it takes aloooooooooooooooooong time, but it'll happen.

Stress hurts. You gotta relax about it. My hubby knows no matter how stressed I am about something, Disney will make me smile. Maybe yours knows this too. Don't wish away your days. Enjoy them.

You got it right Nan. I love my kids. They are 21 and 19 and still live at home. Babies are ALOT of work, puppies train quicker

 

[Aisling]

Kelly...I have seen a few couples go thru the "we can't get pregnant" bug. Of five I can name, four have had children. One has had two. It happens, sometimes it takes aloooooooooooooooooong time, but it'll happen.

My younger sister had two sons 18 months apart, and then it took her 12 years of continual natural trying, and she did finally conceive again, and got a girl for her efforts! They had no medical issues that prevented it, they were told. It was just meant to be at that time.

I waited 3 years after I got married to try for a baby, and we hit on the first month, when I was 23. Then we waited six years, and it took 5 months, but I lost it at 11 weeks. Three months later, I was preggers with my Jesse.
The doctor said to wait six months before trying again, but I really couldn't wait and decided to try after three months. Bingo with the first try.

Kelly, I'll be praying that the stork decides to visit you very soon!

 

[CustardTart]

Karen:

Would you adopt now? Even with your kids being grown? I look at the idea of Paul and I having kids in college and retirement in the same breath and think oh it might have been nice to be a young mom.

I miss the craziness of having a young family, Nan! Tho' I suppose I could just wait to have grandchildren...

I can't see Richard retiring - ever! He loves his job and will more than likely move into consultancy work when getting up at 5am palls...

 

[CustardTart]

Kelly, I'll be praying that the stork decides to visit you very soon!

 

[disneykelly73]

Thank you everyone.. this does help... and I too have a friend that tried for 3 years unsuccessfully to have a baby and got pregnant only after all the dr's told her it would never happen, so miracles do happen!!

I got married later in life, I met my husband when I was 30.. and we were married when I was 32. He was out to sea a lot in the 2.5 yrs we have been married.. and so we started trying once we knew he was being transferred to a land station and that he would be around for 4 yrs. That said.. we have been trying for the majority of 2007...

Jill, While I would have no hesitation in adopting... My husband has 2 children from a previous marriage.. and from what I have gathered.. If it doesnt happen.. HE still has 2 children.. why adopt!?! Again, being a stepmom is nice and all.. but they dont look at me or treat me the way they would their mom, and I really dont want to lose out on that experience... So I guess I am afraid that if I dont get pregnant and stay that way, that I will never get to experience a child of my own.

We found out 3 weeks ago that I was pregnant. We had about 3 days of being happy before the dr's and nurses started testing my blood 20 ways to Sunday.. and would make comments like.. well.. your HcG levels are rising, but not doubling (apparently that is really bad!!) so tomorrow I have to go and have them confirm that this is not a viable pregnancy. They pretty much told me that last Wed... and just wanted to wait another week to be sure. Soooo... We now have to wait 2 mths they said past the miscarriage before we can begin trying again.

I am discouraged and it kind of makes me want to just get a puppy.... Although the 3 cats probably wouldnt like the puppy.

 

[tiggerwannabe]

Puppies actually acclimate to cats easier than a dog having to adjust to a kitten

I know your situation is heartbreaking but you have a good attitude about it and a good husband to support you thru this. Any husband who will take you to Disney to cheer you up is a keeper

As you can see, we are all here whenever you want to talk~

Happy Tuesday Magic Mateys

 

[CustardTart]

...We found out 3 weeks ago that I was pregnant. We had about 3 days of being happy before the dr's and nurses started testing my blood 20 ways to Sunday.. and would make comments like.. well.. your HcG levels are rising, but not doubling (apparently that is really bad!!) so tomorrow I have to go and have them confirm that this is not a viable pregnancy. They pretty much told me that last Wed... and just wanted to wait another week to be sure. Soooo... We now have to wait 2 mths they said past the miscarriage before we can begin trying again...

Oh Kelly, I'm so sorry! Believe me, I know how that one goes...

...I am discouraged and it kind of makes me want to just get a puppy...

Well, I love my girls and they've made difficult times considerably easier...

Suzy was the cutest puppy ever...

...And Dinah the deaf Dalmatian is just hilarious! Bless 'em...

 

[tiggerwannabe]

~Since we are sharing, here are our three furbabies~

(clickable as usual)

 

[tiggerwannabe]

Oh Kelly, I'm so sorry! Believe me, I know how that one goes...


Well, I love my girls and they've made difficult times considerably easier...

Suzy was the cutest puppy ever...

...And Dinah the deaf Dalmatian is just hilarious! Bless 'em...

They are absolutely gorgeous puppies!

Your Suzy looks sooo huggable

 

[CustardTart]

I got sent this pic in an email yesterday! Dick better hide his wallet - Old English Sheepdog puppies for sale!!!!

 

[tiggerwannabe]

I got sent this pic in an email yesterday! Dick better hide his wallet - Old English Sheepdog puppies for sale!!!!

Awwwwwwwwwwwww~

 

[disneykelly73]

All of those furbabies are adorable.

I have 3 kitties.

Figaro, 11, he is a maine coon.. and well.. looks like Figaro from Pinocchio, his nickname is Fig or Figgy.

Cinnamon, 9, she is a maine coon, she looks like Cinnamon Toast all swirled up.. she has grey and tan swirls in her fur.. and a cute white splotched nose.

and last but not least...

Marie, 8, she is a Himilyain Seal Point, she kind of resembles Marie from the Aristocats... she has chocolate ears, legs, paws and tail.. and the rest is an off white. Her personality resembeles that of the Aristocats Marie.

Those have been my furry babies over the years.. or furry angels as they are sometimes known...

I am hoping that Disney does its normal magic.. and makes me feel all better!