New TTC Thread

[luvsmickeymouse]

I don't chat on this thread, but have been following it, I am so happy for you WDWAURORA> you have been through so much. I have been thinking about you all day, couldn't wait to get on here to see if you had posted.

 

[esbrick]

Hi Everyone! I've been gone for a while due to work stuff but I have spent a good bit of the last hour catching up! I am so excited for you Courtney! OMGoodness what glorious news!

Allison ~ Keeping up the positive energy for you! Hope you are doing well!

Still status quo here. I have heard wonderful stories though this week so I am determined to keep that energy flowing!

Sticky Baby Dust to ALL!!!!

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[soontobewed07]

Courtney Congrats I am so happy for you Please post you numbers Friday it will be interesting to see if there are 2 on the way


Well as for me I'm hanging in there the bleeding keeps coming back and I am exhausted now I need to go see a reproductive endocrinologist and a hematologist in Boston we are trying to get this all under control and figure out what is going on then it's going to be the fertility specialist and we will see from there the hard part is waiting to get in to see all of these doctors ARGH!

 

[7beasley]

Aurora

Congrats!!! I am so happy for you. I have been lurking and following your story (especially since I am going through IVF in the fall!)

Enjoy every second of your pregnancy -- the hardest fought victories are often the sweetest.

Best,
Nicole

PS: Hi Allison -- pulling and hoping for your bfp soon too!!

 

[Tasha+Scott]

I posted on this thread a bit when I was ttc my son and I followed it for about a year prior to that when we were just thinking of ttc him so I still lurk some in hopes of seeing either Courtney or Allison get their great news.

So glad to see you have great news now, Courtney! You've gone through so much and I'm glad it's finally paying off! Congrats and I wish you a very healthy and happy 9 months!!

Allison~ I pray that you are next and very, very soon! You definitely deserve it!!

 

[si-am]

Allison, when do you test this month?

 

[skuttle]

I'm 11dpiui. I tested yesterday and today even though I know it's early. BFN. I'm freaking out already and not handling it well. I don't know if I can go through another iui next month. I can't justify the cost of ivf when I already have ds. I already feel guilty for the money I've spent on the iuis. I'm just really down about it all. I haven't felt this down in a while.

 

[mickeyboat]

Allison. It's still really early to test. My fingers are still crossed for you.

Don't count out IVF just because you already have DS. Secondary infertility is painful and your desire for another child is valid. Don't convince yourself that it's not.

 

[Angelhalo]

coming up on the end of month 2 off the BC pills for me. My Dr. told me to give it 4 months and if nothing happens then to come back in and see her. Because of my surgery last year on my ovaries we have no idea how well they are working. So we'll see what happens....

 

[si-am]

I'm 11dpiui. I tested yesterday and today even though I know it's early. BFN. I'm freaking out already and not handling it well. I don't know if I can go through another iui next month. I can't justify the cost of ivf when I already have ds. I already feel guilty for the money I've spent on the iuis. I'm just really down about it all. I haven't felt this down in a while.

I'm sorry. I swear those home pregnancy tests are evil. There's something about the negatives, even when you know it's too early to really be testing, that are so upsetting.

I'm going to try not to POAS this month at all unless AF comes late.

 

[DMickey28]

I'm 11dpiui. I tested yesterday and today even though I know it's early. BFN. I'm freaking out already and not handling it well. I don't know if I can go through another iui next month. I can't justify the cost of ivf when I already have ds. I already feel guilty for the money I've spent on the iuis. I'm just really down about it all. I haven't felt this down in a while.

Allison - It is early ... with DS I had a squinter at 14DPO and he is here as a beautiful stubborn 2.5 year old. Please don't feel guilty at all. This is the money that you and DH work hard for and decide to spend together. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that ... a baby is a very valid reason to spend the money. Also, like Deanna said ... your want for a second child is very valid and do not discount it. I can't imagine how hard it is to be in your shoes. I personally feel that having that first child makes the desire for a second one so much stronger than the desire for the first one in the first place. Does that make sense? The emotions and the want come from a different place because we already know what it's all about and we know how wonderful it is first hand ... I think that all the reasons for going through IUI again or IVF are the best reasons when moving onto baby #2.

I have no idea if I got what I wanted to say across. :HUG: Allison.

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Allison It is still early though. Don't beat yourself up over any of this. It sucks to want another baby, to see everyone else with kids, and not be able to have it happen quickly for you.

 

[Minnesota!]

Allison. It's still really early to test. My fingers are still crossed for you.

Don't count out IVF just because you already have DS. Secondary infertility is painful and your desire for another child is valid. Don't convince yourself that it's not.

Allison - I am sorry about the BFN. However, as others have said, don't discount IVF b/c you already have DS. My want for a child became even worse after I had DS#1. Secondary Infertility hurt me more than the initial issues we went through to have DS#1. Your desire for a second child is very valid and very real and no one (including you) should say "My feelings don't matter because I already have 1 child". My prayers are with you!

And I agree - my test at 14 dpo with my second son was a squinter. Had I tested any earlier - it would have been a BFN. Keeping my fingers crossed for you!!

 

[WDWAurora]

7beasley-If you have any questions, let me know.

Allison-don't give up yet! It's awfully early. As low as my HCG was on Tuesday, I'm positive if I had tested at that point it would have been negative. Don't give up hope. You have a miracle-it can happen again. Don't feel guilty about the money, either. You've got to do what you need to do, and I know the need to have a child. We just financed a small fortune to try IVF, and I don't regret it. Even the failed IUI...I just can't bring myself to regret any of this money, even before, although I did consider that it might be better spent toward adoption.

 

[skuttle]

Thanks for all the kind words. I'm just having a rough time right now.

I have realized that I need an outlet to vent. And I hate venting everything on here b/c I don't want to be "debbie downer" all of the time!! So, I'm copying Courtney and I've started a blog. When I was younger, I kept a journal and that's how I dealt with the jr high and high school drama. It helped me so much. So I figured why not try it again. I need to do something to try to come to terms with things!

If anyone is interested in checking it out, just pm me your email address and I'll invite you.

I do need opinions: Should I invite my BFFs? I was thinking about it b/c this way they could keep updated with how things are going, but I don't have to actually talk about it. I haven't mentioned this 2nd IUI to them b/c I didn't want to have to go through the whole "it didn't work" conversation again. But I want this blog to be an outlet for my feelings. And honestly, sometimes my feelings are just awful, especially towards pregnant girls (Not you Courtney!! ). I don't want to hurt my BFFs' feelings. What do you think? I did add a disclaimer on my first blog post and apologized in advance, jsut in case I do decide to invite them. I just thought it would be a way for them to keep up with things without having the awkward "how's it going" conversations." What do y'all think?

 

[KiKi Mouse]

Allison, I PM'd you.

I don't have much time as I have to leave in two minutes to take my mom to the hosp. for breast cancer surgery. Ugh.
DH and DBIL are riding in the MS Bikeathon tomorrow (in my honour). They are the Kruising Kossacks and they are pedaling on perogy power...LOL I will have to post pics after the weekend. DBIL made the coolest t-shirts.

I digress.
I wanted to quickly pop on and say do not get deflated with an early HPT. Trust me. I've been there and so have so many others. It's not over until AF shows.
Are you temping???

As for inviting your friends to read your blog. All I can say is if you think they will be supportive. Otherwise I wouldn't. It's been my experience that when you have expectations of people giving you the support you need and they don't live up to those expectations then it hurts.

xoxox and hang in there.

 

[D&DDisney]

I will be another to agree that secondary infertility is very hard. Not quite as hard as the first time around, but still VERY DIFFICULT. You just keep thinking how wonderful it was the first time around and sooooo wish you could take that "ride" again. And it doesn't matter what your age either. The desire to have a child is something that knows no time limit.

Allison - Don't give up hope. It took us 3 times to get the iui positive. Going into the 3rd time I really had very little hope. Dr. says it takes 3-4 times to get a positive. You still have hope!

Aurora - so happy for you. I too had this wierd feeling in my tummy area when I was pregnant. Kinda tingly/slightly bloated like. Hard to describe. Pretty soon, any time I bent over the sink, etc. I felt something. Kinda like I was bumping into something even though it was very early on. Probably all in my head.

As for everyone else, very actively TTC or just casually TTC, don't give up hope. We've got to give those lurkers to this thread another saga to follow.

 

[WDWAurora]

Well, had my second beta. My numbers haven't quite doubled, so I go back on Monday. The doc apparently thinks things are ok, but I'm very worried. Any beta levels experience ladies? Mine went from 126.5 to 233 in 3 days.

 

[Minnesota!]

How many hours in between betas?

 

[D&DDisney]

Checked 2 different websites on this and here is what they said...

Caution must be used in making too much of hCG numbers. A normal pregnancy may have low hCG levels and result in a perfectly healthy baby. The results from an ultrasound after 5 - 6 weeks gestation are much more accurate than using hCG numbers.

As long as the numbers are going up, I wouldn't worry too much.


Don't worry Aurora. Everything will be fine.