Needing some support here!

[Tigger&Belle]

About the Weavers, maybe it was because I often DIS while watching the show (darn laptop with wireless internet ), but I hadn't really caught onto them being so nasty. My 15yo son and my DH were sure commenting on their attitude and do not like them at all. They do seem to try and stand apart from the other groups, which doesn't exactly endear themselves to them.

 

[Dan Murphy]

I have used the ignore feature here several times, all those I have had on ignore are now thankfully booted. I have a good dozen or so on mental ignore, I just don't really read their posts or threads nor interact with them.

If I make a statement that is a response to some sort of debate or discussion, I almost never revisit; I have stated my viewpoint, I am not going to change, others are not going to change. I do like debate for debate sake, for me, life it too short.

 

[disykat]

Kind of like the "eating in grocery store" thread, but at least some humor was injected into that thread.

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Yeah, that fun kind of humor where you poke fun at people with a more "judgemental" opinion than yours.

 

[JennaTX]

As someone new here, I am kind of shocked (but not really) by some of the responses to the OP. Saying that "she doesn't belong here" is just rude, IMO. I get that there are certain groups who back each other up, especially on any political thread, but this is about reality tv. And since there was a debate about this family on the AR thread, why is the OP the one who doesn't belong here? Because she is new, and doesn't have a "group" to back her?

I don't always understand the hostility on these boards I guess. Hopefully I won't get into trouble for this reply, lol!

 

[inaminute]

If you don't want to debate then stop doing it. Simply state your position on a topic and move on.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Yeah, that fun kind of humor where you poke fun at people with a more "judgemental" opinion than yours.

Wow, a bit judgemental, are we?

I was referring more to Lisa and Pooh eating that cake in the virtual bakery with me (which of course she did pay for first) and other such goofyness. Playfully poking fun is one thng, but taking message boards so seriously is another.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

If you don't want to debate then stop doing it. Simply state your position on a topic and move on.

That's what Dan was saying that he does, which obviously works for some. I think the point that was being made is that some can argue and nobody says anything and people notice the arguing of someone else.

I'm not saying that I agree with that, however, and I think that the OP was being a little over the top, but I chalk it up to the nature of message boards. We don't know each other, can't hear *how* the person is saying what they are saying.

I do try to use the little smilies to help with that, but as cute as what they are, they don't always do the trick and can be overlooked (or someone can question why a particular smilie was used...such as the smilie)

 

[Livie's Mommy]

I will preface this by saying that I am as cool as a cucumber, I am not foaming at the mouth (as far as I can tell) and I have no look of utter disgust upon my face while I type. Just so we all know the tone I am using here, not to be a smart alec , I swear .

Well, it seems here that people mistake my expression of a dissenting opinion as being argumentative. Some of you have even stated something like "well, you sound like you coming across as argumentative, even if you don't mean to." I don't think some of you realize how you come across when you post. Really, re-read your posts and add a little "attitude" to the tone of it. Do they sound like you are politely stating an opinion? Not from my point of view. Some people have said I should re-read my posts before I hit "submit". Am I really the only one here? Really, I know a lot of you came on here trying to be polite, but re-read your post with a belligerent tone (as I have been mistakenly been accused of). Is it fair to say that I was being arguementative for stating and defending my opinion and asking questions about where others are coming from? Not really. Especially when the "tone" some of the posters used could just as easily be mistaken for being "less than kind".

Also, to defend myself for being called argumentative, I just need to repectfully point something out. I started this thread to get get some support and encouragement from others who have dealt with it before. Within a few posts, people from the "other thread" , as well as others, came over to this thread and started stating their opinion of me all over again. Was this because they were sincerely responding to my thread? No, they were coming here to start trouble. Isn't that somewhat argumentative too?

 

[grlpwrd]

Welcome to the DISboards!

You'll soon find out
1. yes, there are cliques here
2. dissenting opinions are not welcome and/or they receive confrontational response
3. we have recurrent debates here without any resolve so get used to it (LOL)
4. threads get hijacked a lot and many spiral and decay

It'll grow on you, though!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I think that everyone should reread their posts before hitting the submit button. I just had someone post to me that perhaps should have read it over first to see the sarcastic tone that she was presenting in response to my post.

And I'm glad that you are not foaming at the mouth!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

3. we have recurrent debates here without any resolve so get used to it (LOL)

And if you really want to have some fun, you can go to the resorts board and ask if it's ok if you squeeze 5 people into a value room and that you are planning on bringing your mugs back to refill and that you're not happy with the value resort pools and would prefer to swim at the Poly pool!

And yes, I'm kidding!

 

[Livie's Mommy]

And I'm glad that you are not foaming at the mouth!

thanks!

 

[TKERBELL]

Welcome to the DISboards!

You'll soon find out
1. yes, there are cliques here
2. dissenting opinions are not welcome and/or they receive confrontational response
3. we have recurrent debates here without any resolve so get used to it (LOL)
4. threads get hijacked a lot and many spiral and decay

It'll grow on you, though!

I loved this post - so true so true - especially #4

But I do want to add this when anyone reads threads like this and then goes back to research the OP it becomes like a bad train wreck - our morbid curiousity sets in and we can't help but "look" and in this case read....

To the OP of this thread - Opinions are like belly buttons everyone has one however some are more prominent than others and my "advice to you" would be this (not really advice but just my POV) - I stay away from posting on any Political, Religious or anything with the words Debate in the title - I don't debate well AT ALL in writing!!!! Not that I don't have an opinion or think that I am entitled to have one - but in the short time I have been here I have read enough posts to realize that I come here to have fun and to chat and to get to know some people who share my love and passion for WDW and other things - if I want to argue or debate anything - I will turn to my DH or my Dad.....

I am sure I will get flamed for my post - but again I am breaking my own rules and posting on a thread that is on a debate.....

Janet

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I am sure I will get flamed for my post - but again I am breaking my own rules and posting on a thread that is on a debate.....

Janet

Good advice I think.

I do think, though, that we need to debate whether or not this is a debate thread. I don't really view it as such. At least Livie's Mommy was asking for support and maybe even some insight and advice.

Oh, no, here I go debating!

 

[Bob Slydell]

To the OP of this thread - Opinions are like belly buttons everyone has one however some are more prominent than others and my "advice to you" would be this (not really advice but just my POV) - I stay away from posting on any Political, Religious or anything with the words Debate in the title - I don't debate well AT ALL in writing!!!! Not that I don't have an opinion or think that I am entitled to have one - but in the short time I have been here I have read enough posts to realize that I come here to have fun and to chat and to get to know some people who share my love and passion for WDW and other things - if I want to argue or debate anything - I will turn to my DH or my Dad.....

There's the problem -- she didn't jump into a "debate" thread and start arguing. She jumped into a seemingly innocent thread about a TV show and started going off on people.

 

[TKERBELL]

Good advice I think.

I do think, though, that we need to debate whether or not this is a debate thread. I don't really view it as such. At least Livie's Mommy was asking for support and maybe even some insight and advice.

Oh, no, here I go debating!

And if I keep posting I will be debating as well -

There's the problem -- she didn't jump into a "debate" thread and start arguing. She jumped into a seemingly innocent thread about a TV show and started going off on people.

Agreed.......but is it possible that "views" on a TV show can be debated????

So taking my own advice as this is becoming a debate and as I stated earlier - I DO NOT do well with debates in writing - ( this statement will one day come and bite me in the butt I am sure)

I bid this thread a farewell with this : I harbor no hard feeling toward anyone and I hope no-one harbors any against me....

Take care fellow DISer's

Janet

 

[Sunny37]

...could this be a case of "You can dish it out, but you can't take it"?

I think you hit the nail on the head!

One thing I've found over the years of being on the 'net is that the energy you put out is the energy you get back.

Very true!

 

[cats7494]

To the Op.....
Just let it go.

 

[disykat]

I think that everyone should reread their posts before hitting the submit button. I just had someone post to me that perhaps should have read it over first to see the sarcastic tone that she was presenting in response to my post.
:

Some posts are MEANT to be sarcastic!

 

[disneymama73]

Just a question! Livie's Mommy, is the DIS your first message board experience? I think it takes a while to get used to contributing to a message board. I've been posting to boards for about 7 years and found that I would sometimes be misunderstood, or sometimes people just don't agree with you no matter what you say.

You look like a happy, friendly person which you probably are! Just try not to take everything to heart, and when people don't agree with you, take it for what it's worth.