need to vent....

[fletchers5]

It is bad enough that the father doesn't support his children, but it is really BAD when the judge keeps continuing the hearing.....month after month....


My friend's ex is 15,000 behind. She finally took him to court in January...The first day of court the judge granted him 2 weeks....since he just found a lawyer the week of the hearing ( mind you he knew one month before the hearing was). So then the next hearing the Judge grants him another two weeks and so on and so on. So this last hearing ( in which he was supposed to bring in his w-2's) the judge granted him 6 weeks. WTH. He knew 6 months ago he was supposed to have this information. The judge doesn't even care or listen's to what the two lawyers are saying.

I feel really bad for all you people that are having this same kind of problems with the ex's.

 

[MOREMICKEYFORME]

It is bad enough that the father doesn't support his children, but it is really BAD when the judge keeps continuing the hearing.....month after month....


My friend's ex is 15,000 behind. She finally took him to court in January...The first day of court the judge granted him 2 weeks....since he just found a lawyer the week of the hearing ( mind you he knew one month before the hearing was). So then the next hearing the Judge grants him another two weeks and so on and so on. So this last hearing ( in which he was supposed to bring in his w-2's) the judge granted him 6 weeks. WTH. He knew 6 months ago he was supposed to have this information. The judge doesn't even care or listen's to what the two lawyers are saying.

I feel really bad for all you people that are having this same kind of problems with the ex's.

WOW!!! Are you in Vermont??? This is the story of my case for the last 16 years! Now $44,000.00 behind, no payments in years, he is self employed and his mommy does his taxes and hides his money...

And FYI: I am very well employed with the Federal Government, I own my house, car, and provide all my kids needs. I don't need a man to take care of me!!, I need THIS "man" to HELP take care of our DAUGHTER!! BIG DIFF!!! (yea, that was meant for you, Lexie!!)

 

[Disney Crazy Debbie]

Your son will be the better person for the limited contact he has with his real dad. My ex didn't work, wouldn't babysit because then he couldn't look for work, and then he not only abused me but him as well. When I could actually get him to believe that I wanted him to move out (difficult on his part with no money) because of the abuse and the money that I spent on his beer and cigarettes (seems to go with abuse) my then 5yo DS did not want anything to do with him. I never sued him for child support and he didn't get any visitation rights. I raised my child alone and he's turned out better than I could have hoped for. He is now in college and, no, he didn't ask his dad to come to his high school graduation. He hasn't had any communication with him in almost 15 years.

You should put an ad in the paper! Maybe that would get his attention as to his duty.

Be good to son and always remind him just how special he is and that he was worth everything to be in your life!

 

[livie1205]

THANKS GUYS! that is what I am talking about...my dh and I take care of our children and ourselves but that does NOT make it ok for my ex to be a deadbeat dad!When your own kid thinks you do not take care of him there is a BIG problem...my son knows his dad does not help take care of him and he is very hurt that he is making another child...I had another child with my dh and the boys love their little sister 100% but they know we love and take care of their needs also.
I think it is sad when a women thinks it is ok for a man NOT to support his kids...my ex girlfriend thought it was all well and good when he did not pay his support...well now guess what she is pregnant and he is out with other women and when she files for CS she will see how it sucks!I did talk to my atty and her CS will be done AFTER my sons is taken out,now she will see what kind of dad he is!He took my son to the dr about a month ago and had them send ME the co pay!! oh yeh the co pay was 10.00! HE is the one that is obligated to pay the health care that we pay, and he can not even pay the co pay? DEADBEAT!
oh and lexie is it? If you think it is ok for your man not to take care of his kids then your no better...can you say KARMA? my exs current girlfriend can tell you allll about it!

 

[MarriedToAPrince]

I am sorry your ex is such a jerk but so glad that you have a wonderful DH now. I hope that the state takes the CS out of his paycheck and his new girlfriend wakes up to his ways.

 

[luckymom4]

Kudos to you Livie for being an awesome Mom! I think it's obvious to most of us that you don't expect anyone to help with your son. And I don't blame you for being fed up with your ex! It's sad that some people want the perks of being a parent without the responsibilities that come with it. Women who are owed child support are not looking for someone to take care of them, they expect the man who fathered this child to step up to the plate and do what's right! My ex (who was ordered to pay me $240 per month for our son but pays his ex wife $971 per month for his daughter) was a little over $1000 behind in April. I contacted Georgia Child Support Enforcement and for a $25 application fee they will verify that he does indeed owe the money and then enforce an order so that it's taken directly out of his check. I'm sure your state has a CS agency, I'd definitely check into that and save myself some money. I am already receiving payments to my account by doing this. On the other hand...I worked with a lady whose son was 19 years old. His dad had NEVER paid child support. They finally put him in jail (when the son was 19) but he was allowed out after paying $250 towards his case. And has not paid one penny since! Ok, shutting up now. Guess I had a little venting of my own to do. Completely off the subject...I would much rather my ex spend his TIME than his money. If he had at least been making regular visits to see our son, I would never have enforced the order. But the fact that he was making no effort to be a Dad in any way is the straw that broke the camel's back.