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[SeaSpray]

Is there a general "vent" thread here on the DIS? You know, when it's not worth it to start a whole new thread, but you still want to vent to total strangers??

If so, please direct me to it! And if not, there here it is...

I'll go first:

A few months ago it was revealed that the morons who owned and ran the company that I work for were being indicted on fraud, by the SEC. Think Bernie Madoff, but a slightly smaller scale. But still, it means that approximately 225 investors lost millions of dollars.

The owners/officers of the company did not set out 17 years ago (when they founded the company) to bilk their families, friends, and others, out of money. They let greed and ignorance do that for them.

A trustee has been appointed by the state (or should I say Commonwealth) of Massachusetts to operate the company in the hopes of recouping funds for the investors.

In February almost everyone got laid off. I did too, but only for 1 day. I then got called back by the trustee to resume my job. I happily went back to work.

Cut to this past week when I had to go to Boston to give a deposition regarding one of the company's biggest investors. Apparently the owners/officers (Ok, from here on out, they shall be called the Bozos ) did not handle the collateral for one specific investor properly. For the last several years he (as well as most of the employees) were under the misapprehension that he was "secured".

Well, he's not. And now because *I* was the person within the company who used to assign new collateral to him on a weekly basis, I have to court to on Monday to testify as the main witness!

I'm angry at the Bozos because I have read all of the pages of SEC complaint against them, and because I also was the person who reconciled their AmEx statement each month, I know firsthand how they were living the high life, on other people's money that basically did not exist in reality.

Ok, I guess this vent is long enough, and I don't want to bore anyone. But I really hate the fact that I have to go to court against this very nice older man investor, and that the bozos would've kept up the charade, using non-existant funds to pay for their lavish lifestyles, while many people in the company went without raises. (I personally got a raise last year because I put up a good case for myself as to why I deserved more money! Unbeknownst to me at the time, the Bozos already knew they were in deep trouble but were lying to the employees in the hopes that it would all magically go away).

Ahh...I feel a little better now.


So who's next? Would anyone else like to vent about something small, big, important or not?? Go for it...

 

[richmond282]

I'm sure I'll be back later when I'm ticked off at my incompetent coworkers once again, but, for now, I'm enjoying my weekend.

 

[SeaSpray]

I'm sure I'll be back later when I'm ticked off at my incompetent coworkers once again, but, for now, I'm enjoying my weekend.

That's good. The purpose of typing that all out was so that I could enjoy my weekend. I was handed a copy of my deposition this afternoon so that I could study it for the hearing on Monday. Umm.... no. The facts are the facts and I don't need to study to speak about procedures that I followed weekly for 3+ years.

I think I'm going to grab a Greek yogurt out of the fridge and kick back. Woo hoo. LOL

 

[happygirl]

Agh, my hubby job told him he could have time off he requested and then changed there minds out the last minute

 

[scbelleatheart]

I actually LOVE your post! Everybody needs to vent and still keep the "pleasant" face in real life.

 

[worm761]

Can we include family crap? My younger sister won't fix her life but wants to wine about all the time. Her husband just put their house up for sale without discussing it with her first. She is pretty sure he is planning on moving out of state. Her teen son has chosen to live with his dad so she won't leave the state they are in. My older sister needs to pick a darn wedding date and just plain stick to it! Every year they move it back. It is hard to plan and budget to go to an out of state wedding if I don't actually know a day. Killing me here.
Boyfriend and I are planning on getting married. No ring bought and no date set, just starting to plan. His mother is going to have a FIT when she finds out. She cannot stand me. She actually refuses to acknowledge that I am my daughter's mother. I don't know how she thinks her son had a daughter without me but whatever. She also doesn't treat my DS (15) like she does anyone else. Probably because she doesn't like me. Thankfully, they live in New York and I am Florida so I don't have to deal with her. And the worst part is that it does actually get worse with her.

 

[Planogirl]

My son is having his wrestling banquet tomorrow and today I found an email from the coach wondering why some of us hadn't send in our pictures yet. Huh? DS knew nothing about it either and I'm sure that we'll get comments. I'm annoyed because we've had the same email address all throughout high school and for some reason they keep showing the wrong email address this year. Then they wonder why we haven't done certain things.

Anyway, small thing so just a minor vent. It still feels good though.

 

[SeaSpray]

Agh, my hubby job told him he could have time off he requested and then changed there minds out the last minute

Well that really stinks! I hope you didn't have vacation plans already. I'd be quite annoyed to have to change vacation plans. It's not the end of the world, but annoying nonetheless!

I actually LOVE your post! Everybody needs to vent and still keep the "pleasant" face in real life.

Thanks! Yes, I do try to be very pleasant in real life. And I didn't want to make my family crazy by venting to them. I did vent for a few minutes when I first got home from work this evening, but I knew that I needed more... like the power of a DIS thread... to kick that bad mood.

Can we include family crap? My younger sister won't fix her life but wants to wine about all the time. Her husband just put their house up for sale without discussing it with her first. She is pretty sure he is planning on moving out of state. Her teen son has chosen to live with his dad so she won't leave the state they are in. My older sister needs to pick a darn wedding date and just plain stick to it! Every year they move it back. It is hard to plan and budget to go to an out of state wedding if I don't actually know a day. Killing me here.
Boyfriend and I are planning on getting married. No ring bought and no date set, just starting to plan. His mother is going to have a FIT when she finds out. She cannot stand me. She actually refuses to acknowledge that I am my daughter's mother. I don't know how she thinks her son had a daughter without me but whatever. She also doesn't treat my DS (15) like she does anyone else. Probably because she doesn't like me. Thankfully, they live in New York and I am Florida so I don't have to deal with her. And the worst part is that it does actually get worse with her.

Definitely include family crap! I hope that your BFs mother accepts you; otherwise she's going to miss out on a lot. Not everyone has the same bad attitude that she does. When my mother married my father, he already had 2 little boys because his first wife was an alcoholic and ran off with another guy, leaving her kids behind. My mother married him and treated those little boys (my big brothers! LOL) extremely well. My mother and father then went on to have 5 kids together (I'm the youngest) and until I was older, I didn't even realize that my oldest brothers had a different mother. LOL My mother was a very good example of how a mother should treat step children, and also how to be a good MIL. I'm actually looking forward to being a MIL one day. Don't let her negativity get to you.

 

[worm761]

Definitely include family crap! I hope that your BFs mother accepts you; otherwise she's going to miss out on a lot. Not everyone has the same bad attitude that she does. When my mother married my father, he already had 2 little boys because his first wife was an alcoholic and ran off with another guy, leaving her kids behind. My mother married him and treated those little boys (my big brothers! LOL) extremely well. My mother and father then went on to have 5 kids together (I'm the youngest) and until I was older, I didn't even realize that my oldest brothers had a different mother. LOL My mother was a very good example of how a mother should treat step children, and also how to be a good MIL. I'm actually looking forward to being a MIL one day. Don't let her negativity get to you.

Thanks. She just drives me nuts because she rides Boyfriend. I just don't like it. Right now the battle is that we are going to Disney to meet my BFF (that I haven't seen in 8 years) but we aren't going to NY to see her. She thinks He should move there and take our daughter with him. Yeah, NOT gonna happen.
I do know how step families should work. We have all sorts of them in my family. My older brother and sister were my dad's step kids. He has never treated any of us differently. My uncle adopted his step daughter. My cousin is super excited because her daughter is getting married and she gets 4 grand kids in the deal. So my side is good with it. His dad and step mom treat us like family and love my son to pieces, Autistic quirks and all. Boyfriend wishes to adopt DS so that should be fun too. He gets into with his mom about DS all the time.

 

[SeaSpray]

My son is having his wrestling banquet tomorrow and today I found an email from the coach wondering why some of us hadn't send in our pictures yet. Huh? DS knew nothing about it either and I'm sure that we'll get comments. I'm annoyed because we've had the same email address all throughout high school and for some reason they keep showing the wrong email address this year. Then they wonder why we haven't done certain things.

Anyway, small thing so just a minor vent. It still feels good though.

I can understand why you're annoyed and I know that I'd be annoyed too. I'm sure you're also disappointed that your DS won't have any pictures at the wrestling banquet tomorrow night.

I'm sure you'll still have a great time at the banquet.

And yes, sometimes it does feel good to vent, even just a little.

 

[pigletgirl]

I guess this is a vent, but I took the MCAT this past week, and now I have come down with a cold/sinus infection (which is why i'm up at 430am..) but I have been starting the Dukan diet. . (needless to say I've gained some unwanted weight, and this seems like the best way to approach it IMO). I feel FAT and I HATE IT!!

 

[Swan4Me]

In February almost everyone got laid off. I did too, but only for 1 day. I then got called back by the trustee to resume my job. I happily went back to work.

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You are in a tough boat Seaspray-personally I would not go back if the company is in arrrears.Its got to be tough-Good luck

My rant-MY SIL owns a small gift store in her Father's old Former Drugstore (all the Walgreens, CVC's put the pharmacy out of business). She has a full time well paying job-but wont close the store and it struggles. No conversation with her can go on without a "Oh you need to come by and see the new Blah-blah we have at the store"


Our cousin's DD is graduation from HS this week-instead of a "Congrats" on her Facebook she posts this LOOONNG "Commercial"

"Have Susie comeby and register for the free Vera bradley Graduate give-away at the store and tell ALL her friends"
The NERVE!!

 

[mickeyboat]

Nothing to vent about at this time, but I will keep this thread in mind when I do. Everyone needs a place to vent every once in a while. DH is a good listener, but he has been working night and day lately, so I haven't had a chance to complain to him lately.

 

[nancycg56]

My facebook page and email were hacked this week. No huge problems just morons begging for money (no, I am not in London and don't need $2000) Lots of changing passwords, yada, yada, yada...

 

[lilmadgray]

I just wanna vent about all the laundry and housework I have and no one in this house but me lifts a finger. I'm so sick of it. I once went on strike and refused to clean up after anyone. But after 2 days the house was such a disaster and I couldn't take it anymore. I mean what is so hard about throwing your trash in the trash can or putting a dish in the sink. Ok vent over. That felt gooood!!!

 

[Brit17]

My seasonal allergies are just killing me and they are making me feel so miserable ... I can't sleep, I can't breathe, I keep running out of tissues, everyone around me is cutting their lawns so that doesn't help me much either & my allergy meds just make me feel blah - I'm a real mess ... but at least I got to vent, so that makes me feel a bit better now ...

 

[Debbie7452]

I've been wanting to vent about my extended family problems but thought I would get flamed for being whiny, so OP thanks for the thread and sorry about your issues!

I am blessed to be going on a big family cruise in two weeks with my DH's family. My MIL paid for everyone and I have never been on a cruise before and have not taken a vacation in years....sounds great, right? Well, my SIL and her family is also invited. She doesn't like me very much and has hurt me many times in the past, although it's always been subtle. Her DD 12 has serious mental health issues and just got released from a residential treatment center. SIL thinks she is "cured" and ready to go on the cruise. We are scared she is going to be allowed to run wild or that my kids will be saddled with keeping an eye on her. We had a family meeting about the "rules" and SIL said several times that DN could go off with my DD's(19 & 17) as chaperones, ugh! They don't want to baby-sit her. I also have two boys (5 & 12) to worry about. SIL gets mad quickly if she is challenged and I am a nervous wreck that my dream vacation will be ruined.

There, I put it in writing and it does sound whiny!! I am a worrier and there just seems like so much could go wrong. I know cruise ships are big, but they want to go on all the excursions together with us, too so I feel really trapped.

 

[KathyTX]

We are scared she is going to be allowed to run wild or that my kids will be saddled with keeping an eye on her. We had a family meeting about the "rules" and SIL said several times that DN could go off with my DD's(19 & 17) as chaperones, ugh! They don't want to baby-sit her.

This doesn't sound whiny... SIL sounds clueless! Your older teens shouldn't be saddled with a troubled 12 year old to watch on what should be a fun trip for them, too. Good luck, and I hope you all find a way to have a fabulous trip.

 

[Debbie7452]

This doesn't sound whiny... SIL sounds clueless! Your older teens shouldn't be saddled with a troubled 12 year old to watch on what should be a fun trip for them, too. Good luck, and I hope you all find a way to have a fabulous trip.

Thank you! I was afraid I would sound like, "poor me, I'm being taken on a cruise..." I will make sure my kids don't end up baby-sitting, but it might cause hard feelings with SIL so I'm hoping and praying it doesn't come to that.

 

[robinb]

My 72-year old disabled mother is driving up from Chicago (3 - 3.5) hours to see my DD dance in her recital next weekend. The one-way drive should be OK for her and I can arrange a hotel for her overnight. She is insisting that she can drive BOTH ways on the same day. I make this same drive about a dozen times a year and it is even wearing on me. She won't listen to reason and she doesn't want to stay overnight. It's making me crazy! I don't want her to drive 7 hours round trip just to see my DD dance but it's the only time she makes it to Madison to see my DD at all. We drive to see them the rest of the year. And, she's bring my niece with her. The grand daughter she sees every single day. Why can't my mother spend 2 days with my DD when she sees my sister's kids the other 363 days of the year?