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[jen_uk]

I think my marriage is over We have been together for 5 years now and to be honest most of that has been unhappy. It just seems to be one problem after another and 99% of the time they are caused by him. After another day of arguing yesterday I think I am ready to say enough is enough and end it. I have been looking at houses to rent and am trying to arrange some viewings. Its just really scary tho, I can't help thinking that I am going to be 30 next year and what if I don't meet anyone else?? I'm not getting any younger and I do want children one day and I'm worried that I will run out of time.

 

[Chilly]

Oh Jen, I'm so sorry to hear that you are not happy. Some time apart might help you sort out exactly how you are feeling and what you want. You shouldn't stay together just to have children as you wouldn't want to bring kids into an unhappy home. 30 is still young these days, most of my friends are not married and don't have kids yet.

Sending you lots of I hope you find happiness soon.

 

[carolfoy]

email coming hon

 

[jjk]

so sorry to hear that Jen,sending you lots of hope things work out for you

 

[arieljasmine]

Sending you many So sorry to hear your news, Jen. I agree with Claire, I am the same age as you and although I am married none of my friends are married or have kids, it is still young and you have to think about yourself and your happiness first.

Thinking of you and wishing you strength to make the right decision for you. Remember we are always here to talk to even if you just want to get something off your chest.

Laur's x

 

[T16GEM]

Jen, So sorry to hear this, I aggree with the others though 30 is still very young these days so don't worry about that, and you will meet someone else - take care of yourself honey!

 

[Goofysmate]

 

[mandymouse]

Oh Jen, I'm so sorry to hear your sad news, and I wish I had some advice for you

Take care

 

[CustardTart]

Awww Jen, sending you some and ...

I hope you work out what's best for you soon and even tho' it's scary to think of starting again, being unhappy shouldn't be an option...

 

[natalielongstaff]

aww jen, ive nearly been there .....luckily some time apart helped me and dh !

you ARE still young and you must do what is best for you you know where we are if you need us x x

 

[DisneyJo]

Jen I agree 30 is still young you need to be happy, sending lots of love that you can make the right decision

 

[Netty]

Jen go with your feelings and your heart, Maybe time apart is the answer, you need to be strong and think positively, there is no point staying in an unhappy marriage because your worried you'll always be on your own if you left. You are only 30! Can he not move out and find somewhere for a few weeks or months?sending you we are all here for you

 

[Minniespal]

Maybe sometime apart will help you both re-assess your relationship.

30 is still very young. One of my friends recently got married for the third time and she is only 38.

IMO life is too short and too precious to spend it with someone who is making you miserable.

 

[alisonbestford]

Sorry to hear this Jen but you WILL be okay

I divorced at the grand old age of 29 and re-married at 35 (the re-marrying wasn't quite the best decision I ever made but......... )

Life is, indeed, too short and precious.........you need to enjoy it as much as possible

 

[wils]

Sending you hugs I am sorry

It must be difficult to know what is for the best but it seems like you are doing the right thing in trying to think about the future.

All the best

and 30 is young so don't worry about that

 

[wideeyes]

If you are so unhappy that it sounds like you are doing the right thing, much better to have children with someone you are happy with and you have plenty of time to find him

 

[jen_uk]

Thankyou so much everyone for the supportive messages , it really helps having somewhere to come and rant about it

 

[Nubbedy]

So sorry to hear this Jen. Like Nat, I'm another one who has nearly been there. Some time apart solved things for us, but even if it doesn't solve things for you, as others have said 30 is still young, and it would be best to have children in a happy relationship than a sad one. Sending you hugs , I hope everything works out for the best. Available to chat if you ever need it.

Sara.

 

[BRobson]

Jen -sending you a at what must be a difficult time for you!

Follow your heart

 

[mumloveseeyore]

so sorry to hear this, i dont really have any useful advice just lots of and hope it all works out for you.