Need some advice on Dating, please.......*BIG UPDATE ON PAGE 5*

[zen1]

I feel a little funny about posting something like this, but I really need some advice on dating. I have not really been much in the dating game, so this is all kind of new to me. And this sounds really bad for me as I am 25. The guy I went out with just turned 26 this June.

Well I out on my first date tonight, with this guy I met on an internet site. We met at a coffee place and had one of those coffee coolers together. I got there first, so I got us a table and when he came through the door I knew it was him, so I got up and he walked to me and gave me a big hug. And boy is he cute! We really seem to hit it off really good and had a nice talk. After we got done with our drinks we went down to the lake and went for a little walk and talked some more. He said someting to me that makes me think I will see him again( I sure hope so because I really like him, a lot), he said maybe you will not have to pay to be a member on the site that we met on( in order to email someone you have to pay there fee). But he de-code his email adderess for me and I was able to figure it out! Okay the thing is I really like this guy and I would really love to see him again, but I am not all sure how to go about all this( with out messing up, I don't want to do that). I was thinking of sending him an email tonight(while he is at work), telling him I had a really nice time and I hope we can see each other again. And see where things take us.

What do you think I should do?

 

[Ranatra]

I would let him make the next move.
(Btw, I have a 26 yr old son and a 24 yr old son and the 26 yr old is available!!)

 

[Blueeyes101817]

sarah!! im so glad to have seen you post this--our thread has gone down and is gone!! i think it sounds good so far, and just maybe do what you were thinking, writing the email...just see how things go, dont push it, you know?
now does he have any brothers for me near jersey?!?! ill be 21 in a few months

 

[Blueeyes101817]

or maybe wait a day or 2..and see if he writes to you..

 

[hiwaygal]

I don't think there is anything wrong with sending the guy an email and thanking him for sharing a wonderful evening with you. Just be "casual" about it.

And one piece of advice I'm sure you've heard a million times...take it slow and be very careful! I met many a *wonderful* guy from internet sites who turned out to be a toad!

But still...good luck!!!

 

[Microcell]

I agree on the next move being his, because I know I will get flamed, but you don't want to appear too eager.

Maybe wait to see if he e-mails tonight and you wait until tomorrow night if you can't take it!

BTW Will you be my daughter? I will trade your mom for a very good, but too social seven year old girl.

 

[cindrelly31]

I think it would be a great idea to send him an e-mail thanking him for a nice time. Then you are opening the door slowly, but nicely. You can think about adding something to the effect that you wouldn't mind sharing more evenings like that also.

But I do advise that you keep meeting in public places for a few more times before inviting him to pick you up at your house. Maybe even invite a couple of your closest friends to sit at another table and get their opinion of him. Sometimes someone removed from the situation might see something that you don't.

And GOOD LUCK!!!!!

 

[zen1]

Ranatra, LOL well if it does not work out with this guy, I would to go out with your 26 year old son! Does he like Disney?

Hey Jen, long time no see! LOL Hows it going? I did ask him if he has a brother, but he does not. He just has two younger sisters( 18 and 23, he said), sorry. But maybe his guy friends are cute, you never know!

And I think I am going to take all of your advice and let him make the move, but I won't wait to long( maybe I will send him an email tomorrow night or wait one more night). I see how long I can take the wait, it might kill me! LOL

 

[chadfromdallas]

Forget emailing...just call..What the heck

I agree on the next move being his, because I know I will get flamed, but you don't want to appear too eager.

A man will not care if the woman is too eager or not if he likes her. Well, at least not me I could be different

 

[zen1]

I agree on the next move being his, because I know I will get flamed, but you don't want to appear too eager.

Maybe wait to see if he e-mails tonight and you wait until tomorrow night if you can't take it!

BTW Will you be my daughter? I will trade your mom for a very good, but too social seven year old girl.

Thanks for your advice. And sure I will be your daughter, so when do I move in mom? LOL I'll let my mom know she gets a new daughter and see what she says! LOL

And thank you to everyone else that has been giving me advice, this all helps!

 

[jrydberg]

Forget emailing...just call..What the heck



A man will not care if the woman is too eager or not if he likes her. Well, at least not me I could be different

You are most assuredly different but that's a separate issue

I'd agree that I wouldn't worry about appearances, as long as there is no mention of bearing his children or rings at this point

Say what's on your mind IMO.

Best of luck!

 

[lulugirl]

I would e-mail him. Forget about seeming too "eager", you like him, I see nothing wrong w/ letting him know that!
Good luck, keep us posted!

 

[zen1]

I would e-mail him. Forget about seeming too "eager", you like him, I see nothing wrong w/ letting him know that!
Good luck, keep us posted!

Thanks, I think I will do it. I was going to try and wait, but it's already killing me! LOL

And I will be sure to keep you all posted on how things go!

Thanks again everyone!

 

[Blueeyes101817]

sarah--good luck,,make sure you PM me sometime!

 

[Tink123]

I would not email him, I agree wiht not seeming too eager. Play it cool, boys like that!
When I met my DD he was a little bothered that I called him after the date. I guess he was not too bothered, he stuck around.
DId you give him your email address or phone number?

 

[zen1]

I would not email him, I agree wiht not seeming too eager. Play it cool, boys like that!
When I met my DD he was a little bothered that I called him after the date. I guess he was not too bothered, he stuck around.
DId you give him your email address or phone number?

I did give him my email address and my cell phone number.

 

[swilphil]

Maybe wait until tomorrow before you e-mail him. You don't want to look desperate. And do keep it very casual. Who knows he may e-mail you first.

 

[chadfromdallas]

I personally cannot believe this....the idea of being too eager or needy has never passed through my mind when calling someone back I figured it was something they just made fun of in movies. You are putting too much thought into this....Either do it or don't, but to worry about something so dumb as being eager or crazy stuff like that.

Signed: The 20 year old college guy who hasn't had a bad date or one not turn into a relationship

 

[jfulcer]

I would not email him, I agree wiht not seeming too eager. Play it cool, boys like that!
When I met my DD he was a little bothered that I called him after the date. I guess he was not too bothered, he stuck around.
DId you give him your email address or phone number?

When you met your DD?

 

[Papa Deuce]

I personally cannot believe this....the idea of being too eager or needy has never passed through my mind when calling someone back I figured it was something they just made fun of in movies. You are putting too much thought into this....Either do it or don't, but to worry about something so dumb as being eager or crazy stuff like that.

Signed: The 20 year old college guy who hasn't had a bad date or one not turn into a relationship

Wow, we agree.... basically. I wouldn't rush right home and make a call or shoot off an email, but I certainly would wait very long. Why play games?