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[JessicaR]

She isn't married yet (she is engaged and getting married next year) so I said that it was a husband card though so she couldn't really get it.

Like another poster said why does everyone think she is telling her friend she can't buy a husband card I do not get that anywhere. Even one of the last posters said she told her friend she couldn't buy a husband card I really do not see anywhere that she told her friend that.

Really? Perhaps you should re-read her posts then.

 

[declansdad]

Wow I must say after reading this entire post I cannot believe how rude ppl would respond to a fellow DIS'er who is asking a question . I also cannot believe how confused people are getting over what OP is asking. Like another poster said why does everyone think she is telling her friend she can't buy a husband card I do not get that anywhere. Even one of the last posters said she told her friend she couldn't buy a husband card I really do not see anywhere that she told her friend that. I also see where she is continuously saying she is asking if they are not is there something wrong with them calling each other it.

I am from Canada as well and I used to work for Canada Revenue and I can say that no they would not be considered husband and wife. Just like if she tries to call any company in which he has an account they will not give a "common law" partner any information because they are not his wife. Whenever these two classes are being distinguished the term husband/wife is used to refer to married couples whereas common law status is used for those of a common law relationship. Yes if they want to call each other it sure that is up to them but it isn't the correct term or "title" because they would not be considered this in Canada. I know the terms are looked at differently in the United States but since they reside in Canada that would not apply.

If a friend of mine who is not married told me they were looking at a husband card I would also give the same response wondering why. I don't see why she is being attacked for this

This thread is about what her friend calls her husband. If she wants to call him her husband, that's her business. It has no bearing on you, me, her friend at all.

Welcome to the Dis by the way.

 

[tinksfury]

From my understanding reading the original post that was to explain what started the conversation. She did say that she was trying to make sure it was the same card but she also said none of this is actually to do with the card. Obviously if someone is posting a conversation to show what happened you are going to see content for what started the conversation. In Canada if you are common law and you break up it is just as though you were bf/gf there are no legal steps..no divorce...therefore not a real marriage.

Now people on the board are taking what I said out of context. I would not care what kind of card a person buys my initial response would be similar to hers because I wouldn't even think of the fact that some people do this. I don't think someone should be condemned because they didn't think of that.

I just cannot get over how people are acting towards someone.

 

[tinksfury]

This thread is about what her friend calls her husband. If she wants to call him her husband, that's her business. It has no bearing on you, me, her friend at all.

Welcome to the Dis by the way.

thank you for the welcome. Although with all this unfriendliness I do not know if I will keep coming back to the board.
I am reading that the thread is asking if he is her husband not what her friend calls him. She can call him whatever she likes but if the question (which I think it is) is are they then the answer is definetely no.

 

[declansdad]

In Canada if you are common law and you break up it is just as though you were bf/gf there are no legal steps..no divorce...therefore not a real marriage.

That depends on the province. From one of my earlier posts:

Note: In some provinces, common law partners can register as domestic partners and be entitled to the rights and benefits of a "spouse."


In Manitoba, since 2004, there is a new law that after living together for a certain period of time, the property rights of unmarried couples will be the same as the property rights of unmarried couples. Find out about the Manitoba regime

 

[tinksfury]

Then the question would be is she in one of those provinces. But having some of the same rights still doesn't make them husband/wife. I have personally never thought of or heard of anyone who isn't married saying they are husband and wife.

 

[JimmyPicker]

Tinksfury, I have to say that it's extremely odd to me that you've just joined the Disboards today, and you've choosen this topic to be your first priority.

It's also odd to me that you have the same sense of rambling continuously without the use of proper punctuation, just like the OP of this thread.

And what a coincidence, you're from Canada also! AND you agree with the OP.

So, Tink, Wendy, whatever you're calling yourself these days, let me ask you this.

Were Adam and Eve married? There was no "government" then, so I guess it was never made official. Except in the eyes of God, if that's official enough for you.

Who's to say what happens between your friend, her fiance, and God? Not you, so maybe you should just save your friendship and let this go.

 

[Todd&Copper]

Oh my freakin' God! If this is the big make-it-or-break-it drama in the relationship then FMGWAC.

I've read posts written by a chick who calls her boyfriend's parents her in-laws but the chick and her boyfriend are not even engaged, much less married. Shall I PM you this person's ID so you can tell them they are WRONG WRONG WRONG, too?

If you were any kind of friend to this woman, you wouldn't give a flying fig what term she uses for her [common law] husband.

 

[declansdad]

Then the question would be is she in one of those provinces. But having some of the same rights still doesn't make them husband/wife. I have personally never thought of or heard of anyone who isn't married saying they are husband and wife.

Why doesn't it make them husband and wife?

One of my co-workers calls his common law partner his wife.

Laws governing marriage in Canada fall under the jurisdiction of both the federal and provincial governments. There is no one set of laws governing everyone, except for possibly tax purposes.

 

[crashbb]

Oh my freakin' God! If this is the big make-it-or-break-it drama in the relationship then FMGWAC.

I've read posts written by a chick who calls her boyfriend's parents her in-laws but the chick and her boyfriend are not even engaged, much less married. Shall I PM you this person's ID so you can tell them they are WRONG WRONG WRONG, too?

If you were any kind of friend to this woman, you wouldn't give a flying fig what term she uses for her [common law] husband.

Do I *want* to know what FMGWAC means? Or is ignorance bliss?

 

[Todd&Copper]

Do I *want* to know what FMGWAC means? Or is ignorance bliss?

Nah, you don't want to know. Really.

 

[wendyt_ca]

Tinksfury, I have to say that it's extremely odd to me that you've just joined the Disboards today, and you've choosen this topic to be your first priority.

It's also odd to me that you have the same sense of rambling continuously without the use of proper punctuation, just like the OP of this thread.

And what a coincidence, you're from Canada also! AND you agree with the OP.

So, Tink, Wendy, whatever you're calling yourself these days, let me ask you this.

Were Adam and Eve married? There was no "government" then, so I guess it was never made official. Except in the eyes of God, if that's official enough for you.

Who's to say what happens between your friend, her fiance, and God? Not you, so maybe you should just save your friendship and let this go.

Someone agrees with me and suddenly that person is me. I also would like to say I know how to punctuate and do not ramble I find that highly insulting and didn't think this was a place to criticize a person's grammar. The sad thing is I love this forum and come on it everyday but I don't appreciate how I am being attacked because I don't consider someone who isn't married husband and wife...

 

[JessicaR]

Do I *want* to know what FMGWAC means? Or is ignorance bliss?

I can say with absolute confidence that its meaning can not be discussed here. But you can google it like I had to.

JimmyPicker, exactly what I was thinking.

 

[JimmyPicker]

And this proves that considering ppl who have not actually gotten married husband/wife is what I meant by taking the sacredness from marriage because it turns it into nothing more than a piece of paper that is a contract. That is the problem I did not get married to have a contract I got married to be the wife of the person I love and want to be with. They may be common law or "spouses" those are correct terms but husband and wife is not. That is the problem if ppl start calling ppl who live together (an I discussed this with many much older than her who have been with their partner a lot longer and they agreed they are not husband and wife and said if someone said they were they would correct them) because then when ppl get married it is turning into basically a party and it isn't.

Wow I must say after reading this entire post I cannot believe how rude ppl would respond to a fellow DIS'er who is asking a question . I also cannot believe how confused people are getting over what OP is asking. Like another poster said why does everyone think she is telling her friend she can't buy a husband card I do not get that anywhere. Even one of the last posters said she told her friend she couldn't buy a husband card I really do not see anywhere that she told her friend that. I also see where she is continuously saying she is asking if they are not is there something wrong with them calling each other it.

I am from Canada as well and I used to work for Canada Revenue and I can say that no they would not be considered husband and wife. Just like if she tries to call any company in which he has an account they will not give a "common law" partner any information because they are not his wife. Whenever these two classes are being distinguished the term husband/wife is used to refer to married couples whereas common law status is used for those of a common law relationship. Yes if they want to call each other it sure that is up to them but it isn't the correct term or "title" because they would not be considered this in Canada. I know the terms are looked at differently in the United States but since they reside in Canada that would not apply.

If a friend of mine who is not married told me they were looking at a husband card I would also give the same response wondering why. I don't see why she is being attacked for this

And notice how neither of them capitalize their usernames and both shorten the word "people" into ppl?

I thought I was bored. I guess I'm not half as bored as tink/wendy, because I guarentee you that I won't be creating a second name just to defend myself.

That being said, I hope you're enjoying yourself Wendy/Tink. Have fun!

 

[themarquis]

I also would like to say I know how to punctuate and do not ramble I find that highly insulting and didn't think this was a place to criticize a person's grammar.

You and tinksfury might find this really interesting -- enjoy!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Run-on_sentence

 

[Fintastic]

Who cares what a couple wants to refer to themselves as?

 

[JimmyPicker]

Someone agrees with me and suddenly that person is me. I also would like to say I know how to punctuate and do not ramble I find that highly insulting and didn't think this was a place to criticize a person's grammar. The sad thing is I love this forum and come on it everyday but I don't appreciate how I am being attacked because I don't consider someone who isn't married husband and wife...

Please read more carefully. I'm not saying that if someone agrees with you that they ARE you.

I'm saying that if someone joins today and their first post is to defend you, they might be you.

I'm saying that if their posting style is exactly like yours, they might be you.

Coincidentally, they're also from Canada.

Tink was just posting up a storm, and then as soon as I posted, Tink's light went off, and yours came back on (yes, we can tell when you're logged in and when you aren't).

You use the same wording, like "ppl", you both have run on sentences and skip words like "the" which makes it hard for everyone to read.

What I'm saying is that there are too many similarities and too many coincidences to ignore.

 

[tinksfury]

I am not OP. I joined today because me and my bf just booked our first trip to Disney and I am excited so I thought I would join to get some tips. There are a lot of ppl (this is a common way to shorten the word on the internet) who don't have a capital at the beginning of their userid. I didn't only post on this thread I put up posts on others as well. I did not know that answering a thread would involve me being criticized for my punctuation and being taken at. As I said before declansdad thanks for the welcome but I don't think I will continue coming to such an unfriendly board....and this is a Disney forum!

 

[wendyt_ca]

Please read more carefully. I'm not saying that if someone agrees with you that they ARE you.

I'm saying that if someone joins today and their first post is to defend you, they might be you.

I'm saying that if their posting style is exactly like yours, they might be you.

Coincidentally, they're also from Canada.

Tink was just posting up a storm, and then as soon as I posted, Tink's light went off, and yours came back on (yes, we can tell when you're logged in and when you aren't).

You use the same wording, like "ppl", you both have run on sentences and skip words like "the" which makes it hard for everyone to read.

What I'm saying is that there are too many similarities and too many coincidences to ignore.

I know how to type sentences. And I do not skip words. I work for a company where I have to type professional letters all the time so I know proper grammer. I have seen a lot of posts from Canadians on here so am I also them? How my grammar and intelligence has became a factor in this is beyond me.

 

[JimmyPicker]

All I can say is: Have fun and enjoy yourselves.