need help with touring plans

[nkereina]

Visiting US/IOA for the first time the week before Thanksgiving. We'll be staying at RPR for 3 days, so we will have EE and EP and also have park to park tix. We'll be arriving there late Wednesday, and I tentatively have US with EE planned for Thursday, IOA planned for Friday, and then Saturday we'll revisit what we liked or missed at either park.

My questions:

1. Does it make sense to do US on day 1 and IOA on day 2, or does it make no difference?
2. With Gringott's wait times leveling off a bit, does it make sense to rush there during EE or wait until later in the afternoon? I hate to be part of the aggressive rope drop crowd, so we don't mind waiting about 30 mins or so if we have to.
3. When's the best time to do Hogwarts Express and does it make sense to ride it over to IOA and then ride it back to US if we are mainly focusing on one park each day?
4. Is there any time of day that's better for the other Potter rides in either park that we should focus on early or late? Or are their wait times pretty manageable that any time will be fine?
5. Currently, EE is only at US correct? Is it ever at both parks simultaneously?
6. I do fine on coasters but any spinning or intense simulators do me in. What rides should I avoid that initially come to mind?

Thanks all!!!