Need help potty training!

[kuhltiffany]

Yes, that’s what we have in both bathrooms. He seems to like using the regular toilet. We have a small potty and he won’t even look at it. He appears to feel pretty secure with his potty seat and feet on a stool.

Awesome! Sounds like now you just need to implement a routine to catch him when he's going. Don't ask him if he has to go, just make after lunch/before nap a sitting time where he is relaxed and has the opportunity to get used to being on the toilet and hopefully something will happen...

 

[Marchand63]

I took my friends mother's advice(mother of 9) - he'll do it when he is ready.

 

[mjkacmom]

I’ve trained 5 kids, 2 have had this issue. One kid went to preschool for a year still pooping in a diaper, it wasn’t an issue, not only wouldn’t he poop in a toilets, but he wouldn’t poop in his pants. Both kids refused all bribes, and I’m guessing you’ve goggled this already, and see how dangerous it is to force the issue, causing permanent bowel damage. Try some miralax, and trust me, eventually it will just slip out when he is peeing, and then you are done! The good news is, these kids are so bowel trained, you don’t have to worry about poop accidents.

 

[SmallWorld71]

This is extremely common and will likely just correct itself with a little time and patience.

https://happyhooligans.ca/child-wont-poop-potty/

Here's a link with some good suggestions since you are looking for some.

 

[dyna]

I'd put underwear on him under his pull up an have him clean them.....take advantage of it being warm outside right now give him a bucket an water to wash his undies in and a place to put them when done. You get to supervise make sure he doesn't drink the water etc. Put a potty by his bed is another good idea.

I agree#2 is harder to get them to understand

My youngest potty trained easy I had potty in living room where she watched TV another 1 outside so she had no excuse not to potty outside ( sis did not want to stop playing long enough to go inside to potty) I had a pup I was potty training at the same time it worked out well the potty being outside as we was always outside that is until it started getting cold outside an DD got up 1 morning headed outside to potty I said Honey it cold outside you can potty in potty in house.

 

[Cheetie]

My oldest son was the same way. We tried going the no pull-up route and he would hold it for days, sometimes more than a week. Miralax didn't help, fruit didn't help - nothing helped. Not wanting him to do permanent damage, we just kept giving him a pull-up to poop until he decided he didn't want to use one anymore. I think we made it worse by trying to intervene and control it. I'd wait. Your son will decide when he's ready.

 

[1Mouse2RulethemAll]

I'll admit, the only way I could get my son to use the potty was to let him go bare-butt in the house. He would have accidents up a storm if he was wearing something, but if he was bare, he used the potty.

 

[mummabear]

We had this issue with my 1st.
I remember reading something about how young children can be scared by it as they haven't seen it, and often when they are young and we are changing the diaper we are chatting away saying things like "man that's a smelly one" etc

So we changed it up, "What a great poo, would you like to see it? Your tummy must feel better getting that out" etc
We couldn't get a copy of the book Everyone Poos but we did talk about how everyone does it.
Also we didn't get mad at her doing it, but knew she could control it (as she was going and hiding to do it in her pants so we knew it wasn't that she was having an accident) so we made it her problem. You need to come sit with me in the laundry while I clean this up sort of thing (and take my sweet time doing it), not shaming her, or telling her off but she wasn't getting to have fun while I was sorting stuff out.

I also remember reading about some kids being scared of the splash and or flush of the toliet si yoj could try a potty too if you aren't, and lastly that some kids apparently feel ownership of their poo and dont want to "give it away" (man kids can be weird)

 

[mummabear]

I’ve considered that, but he literally holds it until I put one on him. I don’t want him to get constipated...I feel like that will make the situation even worse. And he doesn’t pee in them (except for an occasional accident).

He actually doesn’t seem to care, which may just mean he’s not ready yet. I dunno.

I do try to catch him before, but he tells me he doesn’t have to go and then waits until he’s in his room by himself.

So he is ready, because he can hold and choose when/where he goes.

The other thing we did for all of potty training now that I think of it was a treat for doing it right (like a jelly bean) and a sticker, when you had x stickers you could get *insert thing or activity that would motivate them. For some kids it works well to have a few smaller things to earn rather than one bigger one.

 

[jalapeno_pretzel]

We had that problem ... older one was terrified of #2 in the potty but we had #1 down fine. Terrified, like no amount of bribes was going to fix it, and either she was going to make herself really constipated or I was going to get used to cleaning poo out of underwear on a daily basis. I eventually convinced her to tell me when she needed #2 and I would put on a diaper, let her do it, and change her. We were in this mode for awhile. Eventually one time we were out at a museum and she had to go. I showed her how she would have to get changed on the changing table once she had done her business, and just like that, she went in the toilet and the problem was fixed from then on.

 

[MrsCobraBubbles]

A friend recommended this to me when I was training my daughter: let her go without diapers or underwear. The summer after her second birthday I would dress her in a sundress every day with nothing on underneath. Then I bought her a potty chair that we put in the living room, right in front of the tv. When she wanted to watch tv she would sit on the potty chair, eventually she had a few bowel movements that coincided with sitting on the chair and before I knew it she was trained. If he is having some issues with pooping in the big toilet, maybe buy him a little chair? I know they're gross, but training this way was so easy it's ridiculous. Then I just had to phase out the potty chair, but that wasn't hard.

 

[PrincessShmoo]

The lesson in all this is that your child is in charge and will use the toilet when he/she decides to do so.

Exactly.

 

[mjkacmom]

I'll admit, the only way I could get my son to use the potty was to let him go bare-butt in the house. He would have accidents up a storm if he was wearing something, but if he was bare, he used the potty.

I nakey butt trained 3 - 5, and it was so fast, but with pee, not poop. # 3 was 100% pee and poop before age 2, but still needed a pull-up for sleeping, same with #4. #5 was pee trained by 27 months, poop trained by 3, but needed a pull-up at night for years. Those who don’t poop train tend to use nap time and early mornings for pooping, and some kids just don’t remain dry while sleeping (and you can’t train that, it’s biological, usually boys). But I agree, I think pull-ups are evil during waking hours, it took much longer with #1 and 2 because I used them instead of underwear.

 

[runwad]

I took my friends mother's advice(mother of 9) - he'll do it when he is ready.

Yep that's what I did for our son. He was 1 month shy of his 3rd b'day and all of sudden started doing everything in the potty. Once he started using the toilet he never had any accidents, not at night, not at nap,never. In fact I don't even remember him EVER in his life, wetting the bed at night like our girls would do occasionally.

Easiest thing is let him go when he's ready.

 

[stephk1981]

Potty training is so frustrating! My son did the exact same thing. He peed in the potty all day everyday but as soon as he needed to go #2 he asked for a diaper. You need to do what is right for your situation, but honestly what worked for us is to stop pushing him. After we stopped pushing him, one day about 6 weeks later he went on his small potty by himself....no coercing. It was so easy, it made me wonder why I had put so much pressure on both of us. He was pee toilet trained by 2 1/2 but #2 he finally accomplished on his own at 3 and 3 months. Good luck on whatever you all try!

 

[robinb]

My DD took forever to potty train ... somewhere between 3.5-4. I tried everything. I finally just had to let it go and let her take the lead of her own body. She started college last year 100% potty trained.

 

[Imzadi]

I finally just had to let it go and let her take the lead of her own body. She started college last year 100% potty trained.

I hope it didn't take till college before she got 100% potty trained.

 

[robinb]

I hope it didn't take till college before she got 100% potty trained.

No, but we used to make a joke that she wouldn't go to college in pull-ups ... and she didn't.

 

[AuntieMe3]

I took my friends mother's advice(mother of 9) - he'll do it when he is ready.

I work in childcare and as my boss says unless there is something medically wrong, none of our kids have ever gone to kindergarten in diapers. It's pretty common in our childcare for the boys to be a little behind the girls in potty training and #2 always happens later than #1 with both. Good luck and don't stress it.

 

[neverlandsky]

My DS (2.5) wouldn’t do #2 in the potty. So he would wear underwear and bring me a diaper to change him in to do #2 and then change back into underwear immediately afterwards. I just let him be on his own terms with #2 for about 3 months. Then one day I asked him as he brought me the diaper, hey wanna try #2 in the potty for m&m’s and stickers. He did. Celebrated huge! Never went back.

We did the party potty training method.