Need help letting go of a dream

[SplshMtn99]

How do you let go of something that you work hard for & waited for? I thought I was doing ok, but the last 2 weeks have had so many reminders in so many places & events. I've just been so sad the last 2 weeks.

How do you let go?

 

[JimFitz]

Whats the dream and why do you need to let go?

 

[drgnfly30]

Read your tag & have a

 

[Chipperdini]

How do you let go of something that you work hard for & waited for? I thought I was doing ok, but the last 2 weeks have had so many reminders in so many places & events. I've just been so sad the last 2 weeks.

How do you let go?

Speaking for myself:

Positive:

1) Faith, i.e. trust in God/Christ.
2) Focus on others and not myself.
3) Time.

Negative:

Most everything else.

 

[Mike.Wazowski]

hugs from friend?

I am sorry you are sad right now!
sometimes there are better thigs to come that we can not see yet! stay tough and enjoy life!

 

[SplshMtn99]

Read your tag & have a

I know, I was just thinking that. But right now I can't. And I was doing SO GOOD TOO!!!!!!

The dream was a newer home. I know there are bigger problems in the world. I know some people don't have homes or have lost homes. DH saw that first hand after spending a month in NOLA in Oct for Katrina/Rita support.

We found the newer condo project almost 2 yrs ago. Put our deposit & waited & DREAMED. Picked out stuff; got all excited.

This Feb, I quit my job unexpectedly after boss being real jerk for too long. DH & I decided I was burned out & would stay home for a while; & give up the newer condo dream & got deposit back. I cried at first, but got over it pretty fast I felt. Returned stuff we bought & tried to erase any visual reminders.

Even started a few home improvement projects here so I (we) could fall in love with our current home again since I had already emotionally detached myself from it.

Well, in the last 2 wks, they've started the foundation to the condo. So the reality of it hit me again. Then they listed all the available units on MLS...and ours was there. (I watch MLS listings in case something cheaper we can afford comes up.) We moved a piece of furniture we had gotten (used) & that I really liked to my DSIL's house. No room here & she can use it.

And then just people in general building, moving,.......that stuff brings it all back too.

I just want the reminders to go away. I'm not ready to go back to work. And the reminders keep making me feel bad that we don't have the new home because I'm the one not working. And common sense tells me its a REAL GOOD thing I didn't quit AFTER we moved in, because we would really be in trouble.

But it still just hurts right now.
I'm sure its just bugging me too since DH is military & he hasn't been around much lately....and won't be either for a while.

 

[Mike.Wazowski]

HEY Hold on a bit!
the market will crash and then you will be ready to pounce on all those foreclosures from people who are getting in WAY over their heads!!!!

 

[SplshMtn99]

I know. I already thought of that. That's how we got our current home in 1993.

AND I should be REAL happy with our current tiny mortgage balance instead of the huge one we should have had.

AND I should be happy that because we saved so much money for the new home, that I'm able to stay home & we can still pay bills without touching the savings.

THEN WHY THE HECK AM I STILL SO MISERABLE????

Letting go is something I've never been able to do. How do you do it?
I took the "quitting the job" as one door closes & another door opens, & I was fine with that. But can't handle this one this week or last.

 

[FroggyinArk]

seems to be the time for letting go of those.

i always dreamed of owning my own bizz, being successful and self supporting, how ever in my line of work and our location,, this just is not the right time. so after 7 yeras of self employment, and being the boss i am applying and interviewing elsewhere.


no real helpful suggestions, just remember that all things happen in ways and times that it will work into its own end.

 

[snowwhitesmom]

aw, cheer up everyone and remember that life goes on, with or without us, so we might as well go along for the ride! And count your blessings. I lost my Dad, my hero, my best friend just over a year ago, and when ever I get really sad and missing him, I remember one of his favorite sayings -"Everything looks better in the morning" - and it really does! Here's some hugs and PD and smiles from me.

 

[SplshMtn99]

So sorry to hear that Froggy. I think we both must feel that we've been working so hard, and others around us just seem to be moving ahead, & we are standing still with nothing to show for it.

I know that's all material junk. I'm glad I have my health; well not my mental health some days, but otherwise healthy. No other serious problems in life. I just want to be happy again. Is that too much to ask?

I hate feeling down. It's so not like me to be this way anymore.

 

[snowwhitesmom]

Hey! There's a certain thread or two floating around discussing certain articles of women's clothing that might cheer you up! Lemmmee see if I can find em..........

 

[snowwhitesmom]

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1144552

Here it is!!!

 

[snowwhitesmom]

Hope it helps!

 

[tarheelmjfan]

Sounds to me like you're just going through the, "I have no purpose" funk you go through after you quit work & have been home awhile. I think everyone goes through it. I know I did. Everything seemed to get me down. Don't worry. This too shall pass & you'll adjust to staying home. Soon you'll find something else to put your energy into, & all will be right with the world once again. I know how disappointed you must be. Things will get better though.

 

[snowwhitesmom]

tarheelmjfan sounds right on target - transistions are rough - give yourself time - [did ya check out that thread yet?]

 

[SplshMtn99]

Sounds to me like you're just going through the, "I have no purpose" funk you go through after you quit work & have been home awhile. I think everyone goes through it. I know I did. Everything seemed to get me down. Don't worry. This too shall pass & you'll adjust to staying home. Soon you'll find something else to put your energy in, & all will be right with the wold once again. I know how disappointed you must be. Things will get better though.

Thank you. That is exactly how I feel these past 2 wks. That's its all my fault.

I just want my DH to come home & hug me right now. Sorry.

 

[LadyDulcinea1]

Ok well first

To a certain extent I know how you probably are feeling. Not about the house, but I just graduated from college last month and as recently as November I thought I had a pretty good idea of what I was going to be doing after graduation. But then in a matter of months, my boyfriend dumped me (4 1/2 years......) and I realized that my chosen career path was just not for me. So here I am trying to figure out what the heck I want to do for the rest of my life

Hopefully you'll get that hug you need and just try to follow the advice of Monty Python, "Always look on the bright side of life"

 

[miss missy]

If it is a relationship dream... and it isn't happening.. it isn't a dream it's a wish... if it is a goal type dream.. don't give up!!!!!!

Take care of yourslef, do something nice for yourself... you behave happy and happy follows... not the other way around.

Go get a massage or something... treat yourself well!

 

[SplshMtn99]

If it is a relationship dream... and it isn't happening.. it isn't a dream it's a wish... if it is a goal type dream.. don't give up!!!!!!

I think because the house was just on paper when we let go, it was easy. But now, the building is starting to exists & it brought it all back.

I know deep down inside, that we'll someday find another when thinks are better & meant to be. And it's probably all for the best. It's just hard to let go right now.