I have a friend who is going through an ugly divorce. Her husband came home one day in June and told her he wanted out. It came as a total shock to her, they have 4 kids and have been married 21 years.
He told her that she didn't need a lawyer, he would get one lawyer to handle everything for both of them. Well, fortunately she is a very smart woman and got her own lawyer right away. She has a great family, and her sisters and brother have been very supportive. Surprisingly, her husband's family has been supportive as well. She has a good job so I would say for the most part she financially has all her ducks in a row.
Here is where the problem comes in. Her self esteem is in the gutter. She comes over to my house and cries quite often. I don't mind at all, I am happy to be there for her. The problem is, she wants me to say what a total *** he is, and agree with her that he is a horrible person. Truthfully, he is a horrible person. She brought over their last credit card statement, and he spend $15,780 on his new girlfriend IN ONE MONTH. He spent $6800 alone on a 4 day trip to Vegas with this woman. Hundreds of dollars at Victoria's Secret, thousands of dollars at a jewelry store, etc. He took ALL of their kids college money and blew it on this woman. BUT she still says she would take him back. I am reluctant to say anything too horrible about him in case he does come back. I have a feeling it would come back to haunt me.
She tells me she is fat, ugly, worthless and that her whole life up to this point has been a sham (they have been together since they were 15 years old). I have tried to convince her to get some counseling, but she says it won't help. She already knows that she has issues and doesn't need someone else to tell her that. I am at the end of my rope. I want to be there for her, but I am running out of things to say. We seem to be going over the same territory over and over again. I don't want to abandon her, but this is driving me nuts. Any advice?
He told her that she didn't need a lawyer, he would get one lawyer to handle everything for both of them. Well, fortunately she is a very smart woman and got her own lawyer right away. She has a great family, and her sisters and brother have been very supportive. Surprisingly, her husband's family has been supportive as well. She has a good job so I would say for the most part she financially has all her ducks in a row.
Here is where the problem comes in. Her self esteem is in the gutter. She comes over to my house and cries quite often. I don't mind at all, I am happy to be there for her. The problem is, she wants me to say what a total *** he is, and agree with her that he is a horrible person. Truthfully, he is a horrible person. She brought over their last credit card statement, and he spend $15,780 on his new girlfriend IN ONE MONTH. He spent $6800 alone on a 4 day trip to Vegas with this woman. Hundreds of dollars at Victoria's Secret, thousands of dollars at a jewelry store, etc. He took ALL of their kids college money and blew it on this woman. BUT she still says she would take him back. I am reluctant to say anything too horrible about him in case he does come back. I have a feeling it would come back to haunt me.
She tells me she is fat, ugly, worthless and that her whole life up to this point has been a sham (they have been together since they were 15 years old). I have tried to convince her to get some counseling, but she says it won't help. She already knows that she has issues and doesn't need someone else to tell her that. I am at the end of my rope. I want to be there for her, but I am running out of things to say. We seem to be going over the same territory over and over again. I don't want to abandon her, but this is driving me nuts. Any advice?
