Need Advise/Opinions...

[preb]

I'll try to make a really long story short...

There's a woman on my block that is very sick. She just won a large medical malpractice suit. She has an adult daughter that has been addicted to drugs for the last 10 years. The daughter has three children, all born out of wedlock and drug addicted. Two of the three children have very serious medical issues because of their premie/drug infancy. The daughter and her children currently live in a one bedroom apartment in another state on welfare. The various fathers of the children are not in the picture.

The woman who is ill is making a cash offer tonight to buy the house next door to us as a gift to her daughter and grandchildren.

This is a middle/upper middle class neighborhood. Houses range from the low 200's to the high 400's. We've lived here for 10 years and have a child in elementary school. We really had planned to raise our family here.

Would you be concerned? Freaking out? Or just play wait and see?

 

[tiggerlover]

I have to admit that if I were in your shoes I would be concerned about having this daughter and children as possible neighbors. However, I would not make any rash decisions, I would wait and see what happens.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

The daughter living next door might bother me, but the children wouldn't. I would take the wait and see approach. You never know how it'll turn out.

 

[disneynutt1225]

I can understand your concern, especially since you live in a nice neighborhood and planned to stay for a while. However, what if this woman's daughter wants to make a fresh new start? What if she's trying to clean up her life for her children's sake? You can't really make assumptions that she will be a horror to have as a neighbor (I'm not saying you are, I'm just posing a hypothetical). I think your only option at this point is to wait and see. Who knows, she could turn out to be a great neighbor, and then your worry will have been for nothing. Sometimes, when a person is in a bad situation, it's a cry for help and when they are offered that help they turn their lives around for the better. Keep your chin up, and try to keep an open mind.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Well, if they bought the house I would move. I grew with that crap and do not want to live next to it.

 

[disneymom3]

Hmmm, I guess I am of the wait and see variety although I will admit my first thought on reading your post was, "Oh, no." I would be concerned too, but like someone else said, perhaps with a fresh start she will be able to get her life on track.

That said, I would be the first person calling the police each and every time if I witnessed any suspicious behavior--drug buys etc.

Poor little kids. How on earth does she still have them?

 

[preb]

Poor little kids. How on earth does she still have them?

The grandmother had custody until she became very ill. They moved back with their mother about a year ago. As of August, she was still on drugs. That's why the grandmother wants to move them here...so she can keep an eye on things without having them live with her.

 

[Michie]

The grandmother had custody until she became very ill. They moved back with their mother about a year ago. As of August, she was still on drugs. That's why the grandmother wants to move them here...so she can keep an eye on things without having them live with her.

How do you know all this about the family?

 

[hemispheredancer]

Nice....now you will have a drug addicted mother next door to you and possible drug dealers coming in through a revolving door. I would be very concerned. Not anything I would want my kids to grow up around.

 

[preb]

How do you know all this about the family?

I've known the grandmother for 10 years. She's a talker, and unfortunately, I'm sometimes too nice for my own good!

 

[Michie]

I've known the grandmother for 10 years. She's a talker, and unfortunately, I'm sometimes too nice for my own good!

MAybe she is a drinker as well and making all this stuff up.

I hope she won a lawsuit, instead of a settlement which is supposed to be confidential.

 

[preb]

Unfortunately, it's not made up. I've had the pleasure of meeting her daughter and know the kids from when they lived with her. That's why I'm concerned.