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- Oct 4, 2002
I've just gone back to work after maternity leave and our daughter is being cared for at home by a nanny (very, very common in my area).
My DH and I are not on the same page re: the Nanny.
Backstory: I met her two weeks post-partum and the next day she texted saying she had another offer and I needed to let her know yes or now within 24 hours.
I totally understood, but was not in any shape to make this decision. She was the only person I had met, i was thoroughly exhausted, depressed, overwhelmed, etc. But she came recommended by an acquaintance and I had heard nightmare stories of nanny-hiring.
So I said yes and hired her, after point-blank asking her if she could physically handle the job (her knees are bad, she wears braces on them and has difficulty with mobility sometimes). We have 5 somewhat steep stairs going in and out of the building and I was worried about her getting the stroller up and down (which I mentioned to her). She assured me it would be no problem. I was uneasy about it - but was too exhausted and not thinking straight at this point.
She helped us while I was home and I voiced my concerns again, as I saw she has some trouble walking here and there.
Then, I fell into a deep post-partum depression. I couldn't get out of bed. My DH called and she came over to care for the baby for two days (daytime only) until my parents could come pick me up and bring me and the baby to their house to recover.
Long story short - I'm fine, back at work and she still can't maneuver the stroller up and down the stairs on her own. She needs to hold the handrail for support and have someone else there with her to hold one side of the stroller.
My DH thinks it's no big deal - the super can help her in and out of the building each day when she takes the baby out. He also feels that she helped us out when I was unable to move and that we owe her for that.
I think if she can't get the stroller up and down the stairs, we may not be the right fit for her. He accused me of having no loyalty and taking away this poor woman's livelihood.
Help - not sure how to solve this issue and have a productive conversation leading to a solution that satisfies both of us.
My DH and I are not on the same page re: the Nanny.
Backstory: I met her two weeks post-partum and the next day she texted saying she had another offer and I needed to let her know yes or now within 24 hours.
I totally understood, but was not in any shape to make this decision. She was the only person I had met, i was thoroughly exhausted, depressed, overwhelmed, etc. But she came recommended by an acquaintance and I had heard nightmare stories of nanny-hiring.
So I said yes and hired her, after point-blank asking her if she could physically handle the job (her knees are bad, she wears braces on them and has difficulty with mobility sometimes). We have 5 somewhat steep stairs going in and out of the building and I was worried about her getting the stroller up and down (which I mentioned to her). She assured me it would be no problem. I was uneasy about it - but was too exhausted and not thinking straight at this point.
She helped us while I was home and I voiced my concerns again, as I saw she has some trouble walking here and there.
Then, I fell into a deep post-partum depression. I couldn't get out of bed. My DH called and she came over to care for the baby for two days (daytime only) until my parents could come pick me up and bring me and the baby to their house to recover.
Long story short - I'm fine, back at work and she still can't maneuver the stroller up and down the stairs on her own. She needs to hold the handrail for support and have someone else there with her to hold one side of the stroller.
My DH thinks it's no big deal - the super can help her in and out of the building each day when she takes the baby out. He also feels that she helped us out when I was unable to move and that we owe her for that.
I think if she can't get the stroller up and down the stairs, we may not be the right fit for her. He accused me of having no loyalty and taking away this poor woman's livelihood.
Help - not sure how to solve this issue and have a productive conversation leading to a solution that satisfies both of us.