Name change!!

[Disneylover79]

So I got married this past weekend and now I am wanting to change my name...my question is what do I change it to...do I drop my middle name and make my maiden name my middle name? Or do I drop my middle name all together??

What did you do?

 

[Kathi OD]

So I got married this past weekend and now I am wanting to change my name...my question is what do I change it to...do I drop my middle name and make my maiden name my middle name? Or do I drop my middle name all together??

What did you do?

It's up to you, do whatever makes you comfortable.

I kept my middle name and got rid of my maiden name altogether (except for on facebook, where I use both my maiden and married names). Some use their maiden name as their middle name. Others will hyphenate their maiden name with their married name, keeping their middle name. Still others won't use their married name at all, opting instead to keep their maiden name.

 

[PrincesCJM]

I think it depends upon how attached you are to your current middle name. When I got married a 1.5 years ago, I kept my middle name and only changed my last name. I had just lost my grandmother and since my middle name was her last name, it was important to me to keep it. I was not interested in two last names or two middle names.

 

[DMickey28]

I kept my middle name and dropped my last name. Like the PP on Facebook I have my first name, maiden name and married name.

I suppose it would also depend if I had a brother or not. I do so there is someone else to carry on our family name.

 

[MichelleinMaine]

I kept my middle name as my middle. I didn't like what my initials would be if I used my maiden as my middle. (Mine was nothing major, just didn't like it. It's something to think about though if your new last name would make your monogram something odd with either option.)

 

[Pigeon]

I did not change my name at all. Neither did my husband.

 

[ncmickeyluvr]

I think that you need to decide which name has more meaning for you.

I dropped my last name and kept my middle name. I have never had a relationship with my father and never felt a connection to his name. I did, however, have a connection to his Grandmother, my Great-grandmother. She was an amazing woman who moved heaven and earth to maintain a relationship with my sister and I when the rest of her family could not be bothered. I was lucky enough to carry her first name as my middle name. That was the only part of that family that I cared to remember.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

I kept my middle name and dropped my maiden name. I really like my middle name, and I think it all sounds better together. I'm not making any kind of statement about my family or my dad. When I was trying to make my decision, I thought about how my mom and dad took the time to pick out my first and middle names.

Just write them both out, write out the initials, see which one seems more "you."

 

[LisaNJ25]

I dropped my maiden name.. never though to drop my middle name.

If you want to keep both last names I will still leave your middle name.

 

[erincon23]

I got married 22 years ago, and decided to take my husband's name. I continued to use my maiden name at work rather than confuse that situation ( I dealt with a lot of outside people). My mom, who has a broad streak of radical feminism running through (while still basically living a traditional lifestyle), asked if I was going to keep my name. And she still writes checks or addresses envelopes to me with my maiden name -- sometimes you can tell she forgot to put my married name and then remembered, so it comes to "Erin Maiden Married." Makes me chuckle every time.

Seriously , if I were to get married now, I wouldn't change my name. It's becoming much more common to keep your own identity.

 

[kt_mom]

I did something totally different and actually dropped my first name. For whatever reason my parents chose to call me by my middle name. What sucks is my first name was so much nicer, I've always hated my middle name. But I've only ever been known by that so I dropped my first name and took on my maiden name as my middle name.

 

[jodifla]

I kept my maiden name. LOTS easier.

 

[lovetoscrap]

I had a professional license in my maiden name so several people told me to keep it because it would be easier to still have it on my forms of ID. But I didn't really care for my maiden name (too boring and common and no family connection to it) so I dropped it and kept my middle. Never had a problem with my license, but I also moved out of state and got a new one in my married name in the new state.

I do have my maiden name on FB so that old friends can find me. I actually have several friend requests from people that I *think* were in my class but they only have their married name so I am not sure.

 

[Angelhalo]

Legally I dropped my middle name and my maiden became my middle, but I still use my middle name because I have many friends who only know me by my middle name.

 

[Becky2005]

I dropped my maiden name and left my first & middle names exactly how they were.

I know some change their middle names but that would be weird to me...besides I liked the flow of my first & middle names...everyone mispronounced my maiden name anyway, so it would be a mouthful.

Honestly, I never even considered switching my middle name as to me it would seem to be the same as changing my first name.

 

[malibuconlee]

I dropped my maiden name and took my husband's last name. My facebook name is my first maiden married names so people can find me.

So whatever makes you comfortable. I had a friend who had two daughters that had her maiden name as her last name. When she married a man that wasn't their father she dropped her middle name and used her First Maiden Married names since she wanted to keep her maiden name in there as it was her daughters' last name.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I felt like my middle name was more a part of me than my surname, so I dropped my maiden name and kept my middle name. I didn't feel that taking my husband's name was "the right thing to do" and I certainly wasn't pressured into it. I just wanted to take his last name for two reasons, I felt it was romantic, and I thought it would be easier for when we had children.

 

[AustinTink]

Dropped the middle, kept the maiden. First Maiden Married.

 

[mjkacmom]

I dropped my maiden name and took DH's last name. Not only was it really important to me for all of us to have the same last name, but my maiden name was a mouthful!

 

[DisneyGirl928]

I dropped my maiden name and kept the middle. I never thought about dropping my middle name.