If you refuse a male doctor because you see the exam as sexual, hence your refusal to let a MAN touch you in such a way but it's okay for a woman to touch you because sex and WOMEN are okay
Yes, by your definitions you have engaged in a sexual situation with another woman...
You're cheating on your wife.
By the way hope this is one of those funny threads where people purposly say stupid stuff. If not, then your wife deserves much better.
Thinking and knowing are two different things. As weird as this OP's issue is, I took it at face value, due to none of these. This is the DIS, you know. NOTHING surprises me.