my wife says im cheating on her because

[FireDancer]

My pediatrician was a female and my current doctor is a female. I don't care what the sex of my doctor is. I choose my current doctor because she happened to meet the criteria of what I was looking for, not because of the posture she takes when she pees.

I guess there is nothing inherently wrong with choosing a doctor based on sex but the fact that his wife thinks it means he is having an affair is quite high school-ish. Not wanting a doctor of the same sex "touching you down there" sounds like it is on about the same level.

The whole post just stuck me as odd and something I would expect to read on a teen board, that is all.

 

[PRmamiDEdos]

My pediatrician was a female and my current doctor is a female. I don't care what the sex of my doctor is. I choose my current doctor because she happened to meet the criteria of what I was looking for, not because of the posture she takes when she pees.

I guess there is nothing inherently wrong with choosing a doctor based on sex but the fact that his wife thinks it means he is having an affair is quite high school-ish. Not wanting a doctor of the same sex "touching you down there" sounds like it is on about the same level.

The whole post just stuck me as odd and something I would expect to read on a teen board, that is all.

 

[disykat]

I could care less about the MD of a different sex thing...its more that his wife thinks he is cheating on her if he does go to a female MD...now THAT is what I think is really weird.

NO - his wife is making a point. It is HIM that wants to go to a female Dr for one reason and one reason only - he prefers a female to touch his private parts, not a male. The OP was very specific about his reasons.

I don't believe for one minute his wife actually believes he is having an affair. She is making a point to him - that going to a specific dr. because he prefers someone who he could be sexually attracted to to touch his private parts is not appropriate. I'm assuming OP is taking her out of context to make her the bigger idiot and try to win an argument.

As I said before, I've heard of people choosing a dr. out of discomfort that it might be sexual before, but I've never heard of someone choosing one specifically because he prefers someone of the gender he is attracted to to touch his privates.

I'm sure medical professionals don't mind someone choosing to go elsewhere if they are uncomfortable, but I'm guessing they mind terribly if someone is coming to them specifically because they want someone of the opposite sex to touch their private parts. Ick!

 

[disykat]

Doesn't make you odd, no more than it makes me odd that I am the opposite, I don't want a female ob/gyn only like men. What is odd is that the OP's wife thinks that by DH going to a female Dr that there is something going on. Unless he has given her other reasons for this belief.

HE was the one who gave her the reason. He prefers women to touch his private parts, not men. He listed that as his sole reason.

Nothing wrong with wanting a female DR for any other reason but that, however that reason is creepy IMO.

 

[disykat]

I must be enclosed in a passionate affair due to my doctor being a man.


Magic touch.

Did you choose your DR solely because you prefered him touching your private parts to having a woman do it?

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

HE was the one who gave her the reason. He prefers women to touch his private parts, not men. He listed that as his sole reason.

Nothing wrong with wanting a female DR for any other reason but that, however that reason is creepy IMO.

Creepy? I got that he preferred NOT to be touched by men. Doesn't sound like he gets his jollies in the Dr office...

This whole thread is kinda weird...

 

[connorlevismom]

IMO if there was a history of abuse of something of the like, he probably would have either mentioned it, or said something to the effect of "due to personal reasons, I do not want a man touching me". But came off in an different manner. One that sounds like he is just either immature or homophobic.

Kristine

 

[LunchladyDoris]

Did you choose your DR solely because you prefered him touching your private parts to having a woman do it?

Oh yeah, that old codger brings the beast out of me.

No, by doing research he seemed the most qualified, he had years of experience and my friends recommended him not just for his experience, but that he made them feel at ease. I have had him as my doctor ever since my first appointment and I just feel more comfortable about him.

 

[Planogirl]

Creepy? I got that he preferred NOT to be touched by men. Doesn't sound like he gets his jollies in the Dr office...

This whole thread is kinda weird...

It is weird.

I've heard women say that they prefer a female or a male gynecologist for just those reasons. Why is that OK?

 

[mjkacmom]

Remids me of a dermatologist I saw once. I assumed (haha) that they were in the business of looking at skin. I had some moles I was concerned about, and a few were on my breasts. He WOULD NOT look at them even with a female nurse in the room. I totally get having someone else in the room during what might be an examination of more private parts (at the GYN, etc). But, to not look at all? He couldn't even understand why I didn't see his point. I high tailed it out of there and found a doctor who wasn't afraid to look.

I have a young doctor like that. He's a pulmonologist, and says he won't even have patients put on robes anymore, because of legal issues. However, my allergist is OLD, and when I was there for an appointment (not in a robe), and mentioned some new ezcema on my legs, he had me drop my pants! How times change...

 

[LuvOrlando]

I can only assume your wife is both old fashioned and insecure, and so are you. To me this isn't a big deal and isn't an insult, your body, your wife your decision.

Personally, I do have gender preferences. I will only go to a male GYN because the few women I have been to have been completely rough and gruff with every aspect of my treatment. The women seem to have a 'get over it' attitude that I don't care for, I prefer a man because they are cautious and when it comes to that department, I prefer caution.

I wonder if it would make your wife feel better if she accompanied you on your first visit? You'd be surprised how much easier it can be to get an agreement when you give your spouse veto power.

 

[Skywalker]

Does your female doctor happen to also be very attractive, and do you talk about her in a sexual way or say creepy things like, "I can't wait to have HER give me an exam" or weird stuff like that?

That is the only way I could see your wife's point.

 

[Disney Doll]

Remids me of a dermatologist I saw once. I assumed (haha) that they were in the business of looking at skin. I had some moles I was concerned about, and a few were on my breasts. He WOULD NOT look at them even with a female nurse in the room. I totally get having someone else in the room during what might be an examination of more private parts (at the GYN, etc). But, to not look at all? He couldn't even understand why I didn't see his point. I high tailed it out of there and found a doctor who wasn't afraid to look.

Unfortunayel, many male MDs, in dealing with female patients, prefer to have another female in the room (ie-nurse or medical assistant) so that later the female patient can't say "The doctor molested me". This way, with another female in the room, there is a "witness" so to speak.

Sad but true that MDs have to think this way, but being a nurse a I am, you would be amazed at the crap people pull on those of us in healthcare.

 

[MariDisney]

Unfortunayel, many male MDs, in dealing with female patients, prefer to have another female in the room (ie-nurse or medical assistant) so that later the female patient can't say "The doctor molested me". This way, with another female in the room, there is a "witness" so to speak.

Sad but true that MDs have to think this way, but being a nurse a I am, you would be amazed at the crap people pull on those of us in healthcare.

Yes, I get that. But, in my case he wouldn't examine me even WITH a female in the room.

 

[Pluto 2]

NO - his wife is making a point. It is HIM that wants to go to a female Dr for one reason and one reason only - he prefers a female to touch his private parts, not a male. The OP was very specific about his reasons.

I don't believe for one minute his wife actually believes he is having an affair. She is making a point to him - that going to a specific dr. because he prefers someone who he could be sexually attracted to to touch his private parts is not appropriate. I'm assuming OP is taking her out of context to make her the bigger idiot and try to win an argument.

As I said before, I've heard of people choosing a dr. out of discomfort that it might be sexual before, but I've never heard of someone choosing one specifically because he prefers someone of the gender he is attracted to to touch his privates.

I'm sure medical professionals don't mind someone choosing to go elsewhere if they are uncomfortable, but I'm guessing they mind terribly if someone is coming to them specifically because they want someone of the opposite sex to touch their private parts. Ick!

you got it right

 

[Disney Doll]

Yes, I get that. But, in my case he wouldn't examine me even WITH a female in the room.

Well then you are correct...that is an issue. Sorry I missed that in your previous post.

 

[Pluto 2]

Does your female doctor happen to also be very attractive, and do you talk about her in a sexual way or say creepy things like, "I can't wait to have HER give me an exam" or weird stuff like that?

That is the only way I could see your wife's point.

no my doctor is about average looks. i tried going to a very beautiful doctor but she wasnt taking any new patients.

 

[Bluestars]

no my doctor is about average looks. i tried going to a very beautiful doctor but she wasnt taking any new patients.

Maybe she was looking for beautiful patients.

 

[FireDancer]

Maybe she was looking for beautiful patients.

Oh snap!

 

[alexandria674]

Maybe she was looking for beautiful patients.

Burn.