My whole world as turned upside down in a week (sorry long post)

[mark&sue]

i note she has a partner. maybe she won't want to leave her partner especially after a holiday. Does she have children?


Susan

 

[Nubbedy]

Hugs to you Gaynor. I think you have been incredibly brave, and its good that you have taken action - hopefully he will realise what he has to lose. Stay strong.

 

[Gaynor]

Thanks everyone, but I don't feel brave at all.

He moved to his parents last night to give us both some space but I miss him already.

I'm hoping this will give him time to reflect and realise what he's got to lose.

I'm still hoping we can work things out, but then the next minute I'm thinking do I want to.

It's very confusing but I'm sure in time things will become clearer for both of us.

Sue, I found out last night she is married but they don't have children. I'm worried because she's back home from holiday at the weekend and will be back in dh office on Monday.

Our dd's don't know anything yet the eldest is away until Monday and youngest has been told dh is on a course with work.
We're going to have to tell them soon they are 17 and 12 and you can't hide these things can you?

Thanks for listening

Gaynor x

 

[aaronandterri]

Hi gaynor,
As im reading this my heart goes out to you and what you must be going through right now ((hugs))

I think you did the right thing giving yourself some space, and not letting him be there and still having contact with her, its a bit like having the best of both worlds, and cant be doing you a whole lot of good either, at least now you have some room to breathe and think, and even if you do miss him terribly at least you both have this time to reflect on whats going to happen now.
Im wondering if her partner knows about all this, the spiteful part of me would be telling him myself, not that that would achieve much other than making you feel a bit better.

I dont think of you as weak, 15 years is such a long time to be together and every aspect of your life is intertwined, i cannot begin to imagne how hard it is.
Stay strong for you and the kids, and i hope that you get through this the way you need to, i wouldnt rush to tell them just yet, kids can take these things hard espically teens, maybe play it down.

As much as were all strangers here, we all know quite a bit about each other and i find this forum to be a tower of strength and kindness, The responses cards and gifts when Isabelle was sick Just strengthened that belief even more, the word community in the board rearly rings true here, so vent away, everyone will listen and no one will judge you, sometimes its easier to work through these things with people that arent so close.

will be thinking of you
Terri xx
P S
Id be going on that holiday with or without him...you deserve it xx

 

[amystevekai&bump]

Hi Gaynor,

Just wanted to say, sending him away last night was so brave, and although you don't feel it you are showing amazing courage.

Don't worry at all about what anyone else says, do whatever feels right for you and your children. This time apart won't just help him decide, hopefully it will help you move on in whichever way you decide.

Talk, and talk and talk some more!!! - We are here to listen and I promise we won't judge - this is about you, no one else.

Take care - I am thinking of you!!

lots of love xx

 

[gemmybear83]

Gaynor I just want to say I am so sorry. I can't imagine how hard this is for you, but I hope all the support from the people on here is helping

 

[Mrs Doubtfire]

Just wanted to send a your way.

 

[cherjp]

just wanted to send you and your girls some ,

and to say there used to be a thread on the US families board about a girl who had suffered domestic violence, abuse etc by her husband who was also having affairs, she came to the boards and told everyone her story and was given tremendous amounts of support, love and we listened , the point i am trying to make is that the folks on here even though we dont know each other very well, we are a great source of comfort and support for all.
And Mulan (the girl involved) had come through some incredibly tough times, but she did it , she has fought tooth and nail and becomes such a strong woman and you can too which ever path you decide to choose. You might think right now that you arent brave at all but you are , and you will come through it all a much stronger person.

 

[Ware Bears]

Just wanted to send you some

 

[hotfudgesundae]

just hoping everything will be ok for you and your girls

 

[darthtatty]

just want to send you lots of

 

[wils]

I was just thinking of you so popped over to see how you are doing. I think asking him to leave at the moment was a sensible yet brave move.

 

[higgy66]

Just catching up on this thread.

I have to admit I don't have a clue what to say to you as I have never been through what you're experiencing but I just wanted to send you a .

Whatever you decide I'm sure will be right for you and your family so I wish you all the best during this period.

 

[comingtodisney]

hope your holding up Gaynor, sending you some more keep strong.

 

[buzz for boys]

Just wanted to say thinking of you and hope u r still holding up ok !

 

[PoppyAnna]

Same here, been thinking about you - seen your FB updates too.
I hope you are getting by okay. Best of luck for the week ahead

 

[jns]

hope you are coping OK
send you some

 

[arieljasmine]

Have been a bit absent from the boards recently and just seen your post. Wanted to send you lots of and tell you that I think you are being ever so brave. Lots of love to you and your girls.

Laur's xx

 

[Gaynor]

Thanks everyone for the kind thoughts.

I'm holding up ok (well bottling it up actually).

We spoke yesterday and have agreed that he will carry on staying at his Mum's whilst he sorts out his feelings.

He knows how I feel and how committed I am to our marriage, the ball is in his court now.

I'm just tring to get through the next few days/weeks without thinking too much, but it's hard.

I can see me heading for a great big fall though, wonder if some pixie dust will help me


Gaynor

 

[Minniespal]

Hope you are feeling a little better