My whole world as turned upside down in a week (sorry long post)

[jen_uk]

I think you have done the right thing It will get better and we are all here for you

 

[PoppyAnna]

I've done a lot of thinking since last night and decided I needed to take some control.

I've asked him to move out for now for my sanity, he has decisions to make and now so do I. I'm so confused right now, even if he wants me I don't know if I want him. I need some distance from him.

Him being here is making me feel ill, I've lost 8lb in the last 10 days I can't afford to be ill or lose more weight I've got to put myself and the girls 1st.

Like Claire and Jen said he's had it too easy being here.

I'll keep you all posted.

Thanks for listening

Best of luck Gaynor, I am thinking of you. I hope with all my heart that you get the space and perspective you need to get this straight in your head so you can prepare yourself for what he future holds.
Look after yourself too, getting ill will weaken you mentally and physically

 

[alisonbestford]

 

[lisuhut]

Hi
Good luck ,only you know what is in your heart,every situation is different.
You are not weak but in love,which sometimes can make you weak.

i to have been through this ,my husband had an affair with somebody at work.
But it was only when i changed tatics and did not let him have his cake and eat it so to speak,that things changed.
Please do not be anybodys door mat,i know it is hard ,but think of youself an d children first.
You may have to change a bit and be a little harder on him !
Do not let him have things all his way.
You say he his thinking things through maybe you should tell him you need time to think also!
Please do not let them walk over you,as much as you love him ,you have to be firm
My husband and i are still together but i will never trust him again!
Good luck my heart goes out to you
Bottom line is only YOU know what you want ,just dont make it easy,let him realise what he may loose.
Hugs

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

More for you Gaynor

 

[Pinky166]

Be strong hun & take care of yourself & your girls....that is all that matters at the moment. I think you have done the right thing getting him to go, it will give you some much needed time to think.

 

[wideeyes]

sorry to hear this, I agree you are doing the right thing in putting some space between you, I hope it all works out what ever happens.

 

[wicket2005]

Reading through this I feel sick such a dreadful thing to happen to you and I do feel incredibly sad for you. I wouldn't tell you what to do as you have to decide on that yourself but whatever you decide will be right for you and your children. In something like this there is no wrong or right way to deal with it you just have to go with what feels right to you.

Though a lot of us have never met on these forums we do get to know quite a bit about each other and do offer a support network when any of us are in need of advice. Sometimes it is easier to talk here rather than to family and friends who may not be able to be neutral. So please feel free to talk here and hopefully glean some support.

Sending lots of and thinking of you as you through this tough stage in your life. x

 

[amystevekai&bump]

Reading through this I feel sick such a dreadful thing to happen to you and I do feel incredibly sad for you. I wouldn't tell you what to do as you have to decide on that yourself but whatever you decide will be right for you and your children. In something like this there is no wrong or right way to deal with it you just have to go with what feels right to you.

Though a lot of us have never met on these forums we do get to know quite a bit about each other and do offer a support network when any of us are in need of advice. Sometimes it is easier to talk here rather than to family and friends who may not be able to be neutral. So please feel free to talk here and hopefully glean some support.

Sending lots of and thinking of you as you through this tough stage in your life. x

Totally agree Bev

Only you know what is best for you Gaynor, and I think you have already showed tremendous courage and strength just over the last couple of days on this thread.

Take care of yourself and the children - and sending you lots of love and my thoughts are with you.

 

[jjk]

Take care of yourself and your girls, I hope it works out for you Gaynor whatever you decide

 

[natalielongstaff]

Sorry i missesd your update Gaynor best of luck hun xx

 

[mandymouse]

Sending you some more hugs hun

 

[saratogagirl]

good luck Gaynor

 

[Chilly]

You are not weak. You have been strong and brave for your children and yourself. We are always here when you need to vent or let off steam or need a hug If you do decide to take him back then that is not being weak, if you forgive him that is being strong, forgiving, understanding, caring and loving.

 

[florida sun]

Its breaking my heart for you reading this thread, Ive been there, you feel at this time so confused and you dont really know which way to turn, do you let go, do you try and fight, and my god it hurts so much, loads and loads of hugs to you, I dont have any more advice than others have given to you, but look after yourself and your girls, it was my daughter that got me through at the time, and asking him today to move out proves how brave you actually are..

 

[Snowy-girls]

Gaynor i am so sorry .I honestly don't have much advice if any-but it is down to you what is best.I do agree that you are right in telling him to move out though,it was making things to easy for him,and to hard for you.
I wish you all the best whatever the outcome .x.

 

[Mrs Dazzle]

Just catching up with this thread - wanted to wish you the very best. What a courageous, strong and wonderful woman you are. Never believe anything different.

If you were next to me I'd give you a big hug

Good luck with the coming weeks - hope you sort something out that you are happy with for your family.

XX

 

[buzz for boys]

I feel for you soooo much x
Stay strong you r being so brave x
Hugs
Louise x

 

[Clare D]

Sending you lots of at this awful time. I don't know how you must be feeling but I would do what you have done by asking him to leave. This puts you in a more controlling position whilst he makes up his mind what he wants. I hope things work out the way you want them to and I hope your girls are ok at this tough time too x

 

[The Fetherstons]

Gaynor sending you and your girls lots of and take care stay strong