My vacation is going great...

[JessicaR]

I'm sorry to hear about your Grandmother. I hope she is healing and doing much better. I imagine your family is so thankful that you are there right now.

I hope you can figure out a way to get your dog the medical attention she needs. She relies on you also.

 

[SandrA9810]

Sorry I don't spend much time on the net while I'm here.

First off. yes I was the one that was complaining about my aunts couch. It's still hard as a rock. I slept in my g'mother's bed the first couple of nights.

My aunt could hiring a cleaning service, but it also means spending time with them and my g'mother is always wanting to see me. However, a week after I get home, she'll be telling me on the phone how nice it would be for me to come out here.
My aunt is also paying me for my cleaning time. Which I have made a bit of progress in the bathroom. The other problem is, she's an accountant and therefor saves everything for the past 10 years. So she trusts me not to throw away documents that need shredding or steal anything important. I found a receipt for gas that she paid cash with back in 1999 at 99 cents a gallon... Plus I lived with her growing up, I know the way she wants things to be cleaned. Have you ever seen the episode of jon and kate plus 8 where she's looking for a house maid, and after the girl leaves, kate goes in and starts bickering about how the girl missed this spot and didn't clean behind here. That's how my aunt is.

My doggie, is just whole heartily attatched to me since the day I put the leash on her at the pound. She will listen to me over Kari and if Kari wants her to do something, I have to tell her cause she'll just stare at Kari like "do you really think I'm going to do anything for you?" And we share the responsibility of taking care of her, Kari feeds her as often as I do, walks her as often as I do, gives her plenty of attention. But she still only listens to me. I'm guessing certain dog owners can understand this. And so when I'm the one gone, it's like her whole life is miserable.
She saw the vet farely recently... well in my book, back in April. She had some problems due to stress and the growth was on her then but it wasn't much bigger than a small rock. The vet saw it and didn't think much of it, probably a fatty deposit. Since then it's grown rapidly. There's only one vet med school at UF in Gainsville, but the cost of driving out there doesn't save me any money over the money it would cost at my vet. The ASPCA and pound of Orlando is a joke in my book. They don't give any sort of discount unless it's for fixing the animal, but actual medical problems will still cost an arm and a leg. I've been trying to ask Kari if her parent's will help us out, but she hasn't asked yet.

Money is very very tight right now, and I'm hoping my aunt will pay me enough to cover my electric bill. If I had enough credit on a CC, I'd put the vet bill on it, but the most we've got is 250$ and the vet won't allow for payment plans. And there's not enough of a credit score to be approved for anything else, nor can we afford anything else. I love my doggie and I really want to do what's best for her, but I can't afford to. She's about 8 or 9 and I know she's getting up there in doggie years, and I want her to be happy and still be around for another 8 or 9 years.

I know Kari is an adult, and there's nothing wrong with her that she can't physically take care of herself, but she's gotten used to having some one else take care of her. She lived with her mom until we started living together. Her mom made her the same lunch every day of school... from first grade till college. And now I do the same for her when she's working. Doesn't any person around here worry about thier partner when one person leaves for some reason?? I can count on her to have a bowl of cereal in the morning, but unless I fix dinner, I know she'll just skip it. Well she'll sit down to read her magazine with a bag of chips and some dip and call it dinner. It's the way she is, I don't even bother trying to figure it out, I just go with it. And she cooks very well, even things she won't eat herself. She's good at doing for others but doesn't find it important to do it for herself. Like if I'm hungry and want dinner, she has no problem making dinner for the two of us. I've been forbidden from making mac and cheese cause I over cooked the pasta one time.... (but on occasion she'll still let me make it for her).


And for the record.. no one is very good at listening to "please ignore".

I'll add a bit more popcorn , this might get interesting. And so far I think I've only wasted about 3 minutes of people's time for those that decided to actually read it. But we all waste time... that's why we're on the net. Virtual life is always more interesting than real life.

 

[december]

So you aren't working out of choice (according to a pp), but you would ask your partner's parents to help with your bills? I don't understand that. And why would you post this on a message board if you want it ignored?

 

[Scurvy]

She saw the vet farely recently... well in my book, back in April. She had some problems due to stress and the growth was on her then but it wasn't much bigger than a small rock. The vet saw it and didn't think much of it, probably a fatty deposit. Since then it's grown rapidly. There's only one vet med school at UF in Gainsville, but the cost of driving out there doesn't save me any money over the money it would cost at my vet. The ASPCA and pound of Orlando is a joke in my book. They don't give any sort of discount unless it's for fixing the animal, but actual medical problems will still cost an arm and a leg. I've been trying to ask Kari if her parent's will help us out, but she hasn't asked yet. .

It might still be a fatty deposit, but of couse you need to go back to your vet to have it checked just to be sure. My parents have a Golden Retriever who is 14 years old. She has had several fatty deposits for years. Over the last few months one of them has grown quite a bit - it went from fairly small to the size of a grapefruit. It looks horrible. However, the vet isn't worried about it at this point. If you can grip your fingers underneath it enough to tell that it isn't invasive, that is a good sign that it isn't something really horrible. Their vet feels that the risk of surgery to remove the growth from a 14 year old dog is just too high to do it unless it's absolutely necessary so they aren't having it removed right now. It could be that your vet won't think it's necessary for your dog at this point - but you need to find out ASAP just to be sure. The cost for a quick checkup to evaluate the growth shouldn't be too high - certainly much lower than having it removed - and you need to know if it's just unsightly/uncomfortable or it's truly dangerous to the dog.

And for the record.. no one is very good at listening to "please ignore".

I'll add a bit more popcorn , this might get interesting. And so far I think I've only wasted about 3 minutes of people's time for those that decided to actually read it. But we all waste time... that's why we're on the net. Virtual life is always more interesting than real life.

I thought you were kidding about the please ignore part. Did you really mean you wanted people to ignore it? Because if so, I'm thinking it might be better not to post. Or just to post that you're having a bad day and want some positive thoughts sent your way, or something like that. Posting all the details of a situation on a message board is pretty much an invitation for others to comment on it. . . in my opinion, at least. And I think most people feel that way. I think the only way to be sure people don't comment on something is to not post it to begin with.

 

[princess momma]

I was curious about some of the responses on this thread, so I read some previous posts by the OP. Wow. I don't understand how someone can claim to not be cut out for work. People work to survive. Not everyone has the luxury of loving their job but they drag themselves in anyway. I can't imagine asking a SO's parents for money for anything, let alone in this situation. Get a job, any job and there will be money for things. Life will be easier, it's really simple.

And with all due respect, you really expected people to ignore your post? I think maybe you like the attention.

I feel badly that your grandma and dog are ill, I wish them well.

 

[BelleWDW]

Your continuing the Mother's tradition of making Kari's lunch reminds me SOOOO much of my old Father in law. he was of the old school of being waited on.

MIL HAD to serve his plate of food herself, bring it to him at the table. It used to make my blood boil how he'd just sit there waiting for his food-although all the rest of us adults served ourselves.

I read some of your posts, and I am curious about something. You seem to have money problems, and cant pay for your dog's illness and wanting to get money for others for this.

Why do you have several post about buying DVC points? Seems like something you shouldnt even consider at all?

 

[Magic Mom]

And for the record.. no one is very good at listening to "please ignore".

Why did you post it if you didn't want anyone to read it? That doesn't make sense.

 

[mum4jenn]

I was curious about some of the responses on this thread, so I read some previous posts by the OP. Wow. I don't understand how someone can claim to not be cut out for work. People work to survive. Not everyone has the luxury of loving their job but they drag themselves in anyway. I can't imagine asking a SO's parents for money for anything, let alone in this situation. Get a job, any job and there will be money for things. Life will be easier, it's really simple.

And with all due respect, you really expected people to ignore your post? I think maybe you like the attention.

I feel badly that your grandma and dog are ill, I wish them well.

DING DING DING!!!!! Folks we have a WINNER!!!!!

 

[SandrA9810]

I thought you were kidding about the please ignore part. Did you really mean you wanted people to ignore it? Because if so, I'm thinking it might be better not to post. Or just to post that you're having a bad day and want some positive thoughts sent your way, or something like that. Posting all the details of a situation on a message board is pretty much an invitation for others to comment on it. . . in my opinion, at least. And I think most people feel that way. I think the only way to be sure people don't comment on something is to not post it to begin with.

I definatly knew I would be getting comments, mostly negative. That's why I put the "disclaimer". Positive thoughts are always nice to read. And postive help is definatly nice to read. Sometimes I think about the same thing over and over again, and it's way to put it out in words. To try and move on. Heck my life is an open book, I don't really care what people see out of me, I don't have anything to hide. I say the same thing on the net as I would if you're sitting right in front of me. I've never been one to fudge the truth on the net or try to hide who I am.
I also don't like attention or try to be an attention seeker. But I still like to throw out my thoughts. Get something off my mind. I'm not one to talk to people that are physically in my life, like my family or Kari, it's just not in me. And I know you all are people with real lives and real opinions. But it's different, it's the net, I don't know you personally. I'll probably never meet you personally. So it doesn't really matter because you're not going to totally affect my life unless I want it to. My friends and family near me, can and have, affected my life in ways I didn't want them to because I said something that shouldn't have in front of them.


Kiani doesn't seem to be bothered at all when I mess with the growth. If I sqeeze it, push on it, move it around. Well not anything extensively to try to cause her pain. But you could push, poke, pull, prode her, grab her by her ears, grab her tail.... she'll still just lay there. My neices and nephews do this to her and she has no problem with it.
The visit to the vet isn't the big cost, it's all the testing and fees that take a simple visit into an expensive one. You gotta do a urine test, then you've got to pay for urine disposal or poop disposal. This is what made the last visit nearly 200$ by the end.
I'm tempted to take her back to her old vet in Broward County, we have to go down there soon, but not exactly sure when, to do something. The last time I was there, their prices were a little better than the vet she sees up here.


Off on a side note, because at some point some one's going to bring up why I call my gf Kari on the boards, or who the heck is Kari. I was letting her read a couple posts on here about something funny and she's asking "what's DH and DS or DD?" I told her, it meant husband, son, and daughter. Then she asked me what do I put for her. I told her, just Kari. She's like good, I don't want it any other way. So with her permission as well, she'll always just be Kari on the boards.

 

[crashbb]

If you don't like the attention and just need to get your thoughts down, have you thought about a diary or journal?

Please get you dog to the vet - leaving a potentially harmful lump without getting it checked out should be unacceptable.

 

[SandrA9810]

I read some of your posts, and I am curious about something. You seem to have money problems, and cant pay for your dog's illness and wanting to get money for others for this.

Why do you have several post about buying DVC points? Seems like something you shouldnt even consider at all?[/COLOR]

My aunt makes a weekly trip to Orlando for the family get together. My sis, kids, and mom come up from port st lucie. My aunt has been renting a condo off 192, but she asked me this a week or so ago about how much it would be to stay at Disney. Since one of the features they like is a kitchen, it would have to be something big with that as well. A cast member discount is about 50% off, but if she rented a villa from a dvc member, it could cut even that cost in half. Saving about 75% off rack rate for a 2 bedroom villa. It would be nice to stay at Disney as there's more resort ammenities and fun things for the kids to do without piling every one in the car, and there's too many to get into disney. (Also lesson learned a couple years ago). That's not my money, so however much money my aunt wants to spend is up to her. I just try to look into the best discounts possible.

At the end of july I did ask about one night at WL for our anniversary. I was hoping some one would have expiring points and willing to sell for cheap, but apparently WL was booked up.

 

[lajones81]

I think the OP needs a blog.

 

[Linzybrooke]

OP, have you talked to the vet at your local PetSmart? They do a monthly charge that covers most basic vet procedures, and you get a discount on other things if they are necessary. It is a very affordable plan that keeps your dogs best interest at heart when you can't afford proper care. It is your responsibility to care for your dog, not the ASPCA's, so take the proper steps to see if you can get your poor dog in to see a vet to make sure that the mass isn't malignant, or dangerous. Just because your dog doesn't act like it is bothering her doesn't mean it isn't silently threatening her health.

 

[Liberty Belle]

OP, there's got to be some job that you'd enjoy. Not many really love to work, but we have to when we have children, pets, partners, spouses, etc to help support. I'm honestly not saying that in a mean way, but really there should be something you'd like to do.

Kari reminds me of someone I know in my family. Her mother waits on her hand and foot. She lived out of the country for six months on her own and did fine, but now that she's moved back, her mother continues to fix her lunches every day, do her laundry, pick up hygenic items for her at the store, etc. It's crazy. It's probably a good thing that you're not there to do all this for Kari. She needs to do these things herself.

Btw, is Kari pronounced like care-ee or car-ee? I've always read it as car-ee, but just wondered if I was wrong.

 

[SandrA9810]

You're wrong, it's care-ee... like carry this for me. Her one time of living on her own, was her first year in college in dorm rooms. It wasn't a long way from home, but far enough that she didn't want to drive it everday. Her idea of taking care of herself, was a triple cheeseburger from BK everyday, and then a smoothie from jamba juice on the weekends to make herself feel healthy... Let's just put it this way, she can do it, but she doesn't make the smartest choices at it. The following years she lived at home and had a bagel everyday for lunch from her mom.

I can be good at a lot of things... Like I did well with the photography. But I'm a hands on quick learner. So if some one gives me the chance I can be good at it. But every one wants prior experience or schooling. I hate school and I won't spend the money to go back to it either. It's the biggest waste of time for me. That goes for high school and college. My goal as a kid was to be a mom, I never set any goals to have a career or do something great. I had my g'mother who stayed at home took care of things and my g'father worked. And my aunt who was a workaholic, spent more hours at the office than at home. I lived with both of them throughout my life and I saw work as spending 80hrs a week at the office, killing yourself for no reason. I wanted the life my g'mother had, traditional stay at home mom with the working dad. No one really quite filled me in on life about what you do in between to get to that point of being a stay at home mom, until my g'mother's house was sold and I was practically on my own in the real world at 19. I think my family lacked a lot of teaching on the basics of the real world life.


That is all for now. Dinner time...

 

[Magic Mom]

OP, there's got to be some job that you'd enjoy. Not many really love to work, but we have to when we have children, pets, partners, spouses, etc to help support. I'm honestly not saying that in a mean way, but really there should be something you'd like to do.

I agree, right now I'm not working in my career field, or at a job that I love. But, it allows me to be home when DD is home and that's important to me while my husband is deployed. I would love to be able to not work, but to meet my responsibilities I choose to. OP, you have a dog you love and a partner you love that need you to meet your responsibilites. You can't go through life mooching off of relatives. I'm sure you could find some part time job that would give you some extra cash to take care of your dog and take some of the pressure off of your partner.

 

[wdwfan16]

You're wrong, it's care-ee... like carry this for me. Her one time of living on her own, was her first year in college in dorm rooms. It wasn't a long way from home, but far enough that she didn't want to drive it everday. Her idea of taking care of herself, was a triple cheeseburger from BK everyday, and then a smoothie from jamba juice on the weekends to make herself feel healthy... Let's just put it this way, she can do it, but she doesn't make the smartest choices at it. The following years she lived at home and had a bagel everyday for lunch from her mom.

I can be good at a lot of things... Like I did well with the photography. But I'm a hands on quick learner. So if some one gives me the chance I can be good at it. But every one wants prior experience or schooling. I hate school and I won't spend the money to go back to it either. It's the biggest waste of time for me. That goes for high school and college. My goal as a kid was to be a mom, I never set any goals to have a career or do something great. I had my g'mother who stayed at home took care of things and my g'father worked. And my aunt who was a workaholic, spent more hours at the office than at home. I lived with both of them throughout my life and I saw work as spending 80hrs a week at the office, killing yourself for no reason. I wanted the life my g'mother had, traditional stay at home mom with the working dad. No one really quite filled me in on life about what you do in between to get to that point of being a stay at home mom, until my g'mother's house was sold and I was practically on my own in the real world at 19. I think my family lacked a lot of teaching on the basics of the real world life.


That is all for now. Dinner time...

Things were different in your Grandmother's time. It is very possible that your Aunt had to work 80 hours to support her parents, since her mom never earned a living.

Not everybody who works does 80 hours. As a matter of fact most do not. Does Kari work 80 hours to support you and her?

 

[Mom2Nick]

You're wrong, it's care-ee... like carry this for me. Her one time of living on her own, was her first year in college in dorm rooms. It wasn't a long way from home, but far enough that she didn't want to drive it everday. Her idea of taking care of herself, was a triple cheeseburger from BK everyday, and then a smoothie from jamba juice on the weekends to make herself feel healthy... Let's just put it this way, she can do it, but she doesn't make the smartest choices at it. The following years she lived at home and had a bagel everyday for lunch from her mom.

I can be good at a lot of things... Like I did well with the photography. But I'm a hands on quick learner. So if some one gives me the chance I can be good at it. But every one wants prior experience or schooling. I hate school and I won't spend the money to go back to it either. It's the biggest waste of time for me. That goes for high school and college. My goal as a kid was to be a mom, I never set any goals to have a career or do something great. I had my g'mother who stayed at home took care of things and my g'father worked. And my aunt who was a workaholic, spent more hours at the office than at home. I lived with both of them throughout my life and I saw work as spending 80hrs a week at the office, killing yourself for no reason. I wanted the life my g'mother had, traditional stay at home mom with the working dad. No one really quite filled me in on life about what you do in between to get to that point of being a stay at home mom, until my g'mother's house was sold and I was practically on my own in the real world at 19. I think my family lacked a lot of teaching on the basics of the real world life.


That is all for now. Dinner time...

The problem with what you want is that you can't afford to be a mom like your grandmother- you cannot even afford it now and you have no children only a dog - which you are NOT taking care of. That's pathetic. Get a job - any job - and suck it up because that is life. Grownups do things they don't want to do because they have to. Children don't do things they don't want to do until a grown up comes along and makes them. You're an adult now so get a job that will help take care of your pet and stop waiting around doing NOTHING while you wait for something fun to skip across your lap.

If you want to be poor at least leave the poor dog out of your poor choices. Give the dog to somebody that can afford to care for it.

 

[BelleWDW]

My goal as a kid was to be a mom, I never set any goals to have a career or do something great.

. I wanted the life my g'mother had, traditional stay at home mom with the working dad. No one really quite filled me in on life about what you do in between to get to that point of being a stay at home mom,...

Honestly, you sound like a teen in the 1950's -I'm visualizing Donna reed with her pearls and apron on.

These days, no one can be just a Mom-unless your SO makes great $$-which doesn't seem to be your situation-just from the fact you have to have a roomate.

If I were you, I'd get one of those books you fill out to see what cxareer suits you-heck, maybe work in a Book Store or library. Good luck

 

[NC State]

The problem with what you want is that you can't afford to be a mom like your grandmother- you cannot even afford it now and you have no children only a dog - which you are NOT taking care of. That's pathetic. Get a job - any job - and suck it up because that is life. Grownups do things they don't want to do because they have to. Children don't do things they don't want to do until a grown up comes along and makes them. You're an adult now so get a job that will help take care of your pet and stop waiting around doing NOTHING while you wait for something fun to skip across your lap.

If you want to be poor at least leave the poor dog out of your poor choices. Give the dog to somebody that can afford to care for it.