My Roommate's A Slob

[Wishing on a star]

Double Post...

what is it with the DIS boards today!!!

 

[NHdisneylover]

Wow, the insinuations regarding the OP are just not appropriate here.

This is a serious matter, and is not just that she seems to be easily annoyed.

If memory serves, the OP seems to have just the OPPOSITE issue, being in situations where the others involved seriously disrespect her. Maintaining situations where she is subjecting herself to some serious negative repercussions.

OP.... I am not sure if you will understand this, or be able to do this... But, very simply, you need to call the landlord in.... If you do not alert them to this, you are liable, you are 'complicit'.

Perhaps they will relieve your roommate of her lease, and allow you to find another roommate. (and, I am not assuming that your long-term but always 'distant' boyfriend/fiance is the one)

Can we assume that you would like to stay where you are at?

Are there any options where you may be able to find a small place on your own?

If this is like previous threads, I know that you just want to vent, and may not actually be willing or able to take any action. But, all we can do is try to tell you what should be done, in YOUR best interests.

I in no way meant to insinuate that the OP is easily annoyed. I think I have made it clear time and time again on this thread that she is living in very unacceptable conditions at the moment. I was explaining that even for someone like ME, who is just annoyed by roommate habits that are not disgusting like OPs roommate's are, having a small studio was much better than dealing with a roommate, so given the terrible roommate OP has I think a small place on her own may be a very good idea (if and when she can get out of her current situation).

I find it odd that you are coming down with me for posting that (about myself none the less) when you posted:

PSS: If I am not mistaken, the OP has has issues with her past living arrangements that were well debated here in the past.... Same thing with the 'long time boyfriend' thing.... I'll will just be honest, and with all due respect (trying to find a way to word this nicely), say that I believe that the OP does not handle/process things the way most people would.

I do not recognize this poster from past situations so I have no idea what you are referencing, and you did try to say it tactfully but really that IS an actual insinuation regarding the OP and one that really may not be appropriate. What I said was just a comment about myself meant to illustrate that living alone is often a good trade off for being somewhere small--I think often people get stuck in the mindset that they need to have a roommate to afford somewhere to live and forget to look at other (smaller) arrangements.

 

[Wishing on a star]

No problem NHDisney...
It is probably a couple of other posts here that I think are raising my eyebrows.

I do personally agree with your main point....
I would rather live more modestly on my own than deal with some of the compromises of having a roommate.

 

[Silent1CB]

Whoever pointed out that the roommate has absolutely nothing to lose, no invested interest, because her parents paid security deposit & pay the rent hit the nail on the head.

Its time for the roommate to grow up & become responsible for herself THEN she might start caring a little bit.

 

[mojo55000]

You thought your roommate was a slob... check out mine. Thank God this is his room and not the general public room.

The sad part is that some of these are my dishes and the only reason I was looking there is because he's using my to go coffee mugs... which is now growing mold in them.

 

[NHdisneylover]

EEk those photos--though OPs roomate sounds about as bad from the description.

OP--do you have an update for us? Were you able to resolve the situation? Did you speak to the landlord or your roommate's parents? Inquiring minds want to know and I really DO hope it is better now.

 

[scrapquitler]

Have you considered suggesting to your sloppy roomate that you plan to hire a cleaning service and her portion of that cost will be $XX per week??? Maybe that would motivate her?

 

[C.Ann]

I will admit that I haven't read all the responses, but I don't think any of them would change my way of thinking..

If she is the "perfect" roommate in every other way, I would just take care of the cleaning myself.. I know it isn't fair to you, but I would rather do all of the cleaning myself than live with that kind of filth..

Best of luck to you!

 

[Lintasare]

I find it tacky to post pictures of another person's room and belongings on a public message board.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Ironic that this thread got bumped today, since I was in her room looking for silverware today.

She ended up running the dishwasher that weekend, and then scrubbing all the plates by hand, since they all were still coated with gunk. But then it's the same thing again, though they're not moldy yet.

And she used one of my plates the other night, and the next morning I made her wash it as soon as I saw it. Her way of washing it was to rinse it under cold water.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

And those pictures seem about the same as the state of her room, dishes and empty bottles, (though hers is full of diet coke cans.) And she doesn't have a pet, could you imagine the mess if she did?

 

[JerseyJanice]

All those pictures of food lying around a bedroom have me nauseous. The insects it must attract! And I can only imagine the smell in that room! I'm just glad there's no pics of the cat's litter box. It must be beyond belief.

OP, what you need is a male roommate you can boss around. Girls/women will only clean however they want to (or not). Men, however, can be forced into submission.